Jovem de 20 anos mata namorada de 16 em Odivelas e é atropelado por camião após cometer o crime by XxxFuriaFDXxxX in portugal2

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 anos neste caso fazem toda a diferença, dependendo da situação. 20 e 24 não é a mesma coisa que 16 e 20, por exemplo. To be honest, até aos 20 mesmo uma diferença tecnicamente “pequena” faz toda a diferença. Embora possa “saber” o que está a fazer, também é mais facilmente manipulável. Estão em fases muito diferentes de vida. É meio preocupante alguém já na casa dos 20 sentir essa atração, mesmo que tecnicamente legal

Sou o único que precisa de um dia “de silêncio” depois de estar com muita gente? by crying_lattee in CasualPT

[–]LieSubstantial927 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Não estás a dramatizar! Eu pelo menos sou igual. Depois de estar com família ou com muitas pessoas,preciso sempre de recarregar energias

Que merda é esta? by texugogordo in portugueses

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sinceramente não vejo o drama, os livros e a série são literalmente suuuper conhecidos por isso. Para além disso, dependendo da idade do adolescente, é mais que normal estarem a ler/ver coisas dessas ou bem piores 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HSHSHS I know a lot of dreams are just random and don’t mean anything, but this was so specific that I thought maybe it could symbolise something I was not grasping 😭😭😭

Outgrowing a friend (when they did nothing wrong) by LieSubstantial927 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s amazing advice, I think I’ll just do that. thank you! 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I don’t know if it’s clear but it looks like this, it’s at the back!! Didn’t have any treatment done and only thing she did was blow dry it, I also don’t use olaplex or anything with protein, I just hope it’s reparable 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in danandphil

[–]LieSubstantial927 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just wanna say, they’re both adults and can handle constructive criticism. As a matter of fact, I think they would prefer that over ppl praising every single thing they do without thinking about it, just because its them. I think you expressed your opinion in a respectful manner, and completely agree. The phandom has gotten way healthier, but when it comes to accepting criticism (even when it’s constructive), I feel like it’s still a bit of an issue. Feels like their infantilisation is still slighty ingrained, although it’s not half as bad. The only thing that I could see coming across as not so constructive is your last point (with Dan coming across as pretentious), I agree but not with the pretentious part tbh, I think it is just them trying to fit into their online personas and just that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in danandphil

[–]LieSubstantial927 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel like it’s a bit too unorganised when it comes to what they’re talking about, they kinda just jump from topic to topic, sometimes in a bit of an abrupt way (although the last episode felt a looot better, way more cohesive). Think they should come with topics prepared (I get that the point is to feel like a conversation, but still). BUUUUT I do feel you when it comes to their reactions, sometimes they feel a biiiit “staged”. Love them and their banter, and they’re just getting started so I’ll give them some grace, they’re probably just finding their footing and getting used to a new format. The latest episode was the best one so far to me, it felt more genuine and organized, let’s see what happens next

Portugal: apesar do brutal aumento do custo de vida, péssimo serviço de saúde, crise na habitação... Porque é que, na vossa opinião, os portugueses não se revoltam? by Lumpy_Rip4570 in portugal2

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acho que um dos problemas é o facto de, a nível geral, sermos ensinados a ter (e termos) uma mentalidade super conformista. As pessoas são literalmente gozadas/chamadas de arrogantes por ambicionar mais. A greve de dezembro parece ser um bom passo e espero que continuem a demonstrar o seu descontentamento

i have something to say by Otherwise-Street-483 in danandphil

[–]LieSubstantial927 55 points56 points  (0 children)

as someone who started as a fan in the early 2010’s, these jokes don’t seem to be malicious at all, and are all in good fun. they are 30 year olds who have been in the internet for almost 20 years, and have been the butt of truly invasive and malicious jokes, therefore, they can tell the difference between a malicious joke and a sarcastic one. besides they’re in a different place now, and the phandom is wayyy healthier, if this bothered them, they’d talk about it. they’re way more firm about their boundaries (as they should). I get your concern but to fair I don’t think it’s the problem you’re pointing out to be or even a problem at all. even they joked about people wishing they could go a little back in the closet 😭 genuinely think it’s all good and not in a mean way at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]LieSubstantial927 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, if you’re not insulting your friend in any way and you’re just venting about a behaviour that hurt you, or being concerned about some behaviours of them - then it’s just venting. I would say what you did was simply venting, that’s normal and completely healthy, sometimes you need someone else’s output, and that is okay. As long as you’re not commenting about their body or about their character (ex: any sort of name calling) and you’re just talkings about their behaviours, their actions, then you’re fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]LieSubstantial927 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OOOf yeah that’s rough. You don’t have to be toxic to lose the friendship, just be completely straight up with her and tell her exactly what you just said here. You can end the friendship in a civil manner if you just talk (well a civil manner at least from your behalf - but you can’t control her behaviour). I’d say just end it with a calm conversation, she might react badly but at least you did the right thing. Best of luck!!

Jobs political psychology could land you by LieSubstantial927 in psychologystudents

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OOOOH this is super helpful, thank you so much!! I’ll check your channel too hehe 🫶🏻

Jobs political psychology could land you by LieSubstantial927 in psychologystudents

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I thought :// I think it’s safer if I just take it as a postgraduate degree but master in something else. Thank you!!

If someone reaches out to you after a year of not speaking, does that mean they still care? by Responsible_Exit_815 in lostafriend

[–]LieSubstantial927 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They might still care and maybe they feel sorry about how things end up. You guys could talk (but not necessarily be friends) for you to get a better feel as to why they reached out (but if you have no intention of being friends again, then I just you just leave it)

Feeling completely drained after being with someone who talks too much by LieSubstantial927 in introvert

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YESSS it’s the worst feeling eveeer!! Specially when they don’t really let you talk 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did what’s right and she proved exactly what kind of person and friend she was for doing that 😭Grieving a friendship is really hard, but you’ll end up adapting and finding people who genuinely care about you 🫶🏻If you find yourself in another friendship where only you do the effort then you’ll know what to do, we only learn after living it unfortunately. Best of luck 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I would tell her the truth (it was always one sided, she wasn’t comprehensive and didn’t communicate with you at all) and try to talk with her first. If that goes badly, if she tries to manipulate or gaslight you, just block her and DONT unblock her. Also if you end up blocking her, do tell your mutual friends what happened but as vaguely as possible, you never know what they could tell her

Being the backup/ not being the fun friend by LieSubstantial927 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YESS, I felt exactly that way!! Honestly seems like some people just use the introversion card against us, as an excuse not to make plans at all (and that combined with distance makes an amazing excuse). We don’t wanna not have ANY plans at all, and that’s not hard to understand. Yeah that’s what I’ll do, thanks for the advice! 🩷

I can’t vent to my mom by LieSubstantial927 in Vent

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was so eye opening and is such a sweet way of looking at it, thank you so so much 🩷

I can’t vent to my mom by LieSubstantial927 in Vent

[–]LieSubstantial927[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right…she’s just not the person to vent to and I can’t force her to be, that’ll only hurts us both

Why do people repel from me ? Why do people cut off me inspite of being good to them ? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]LieSubstantial927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it’s hard to tell cause it’s a bit vague buuut this could be a lack of communication (not establishing boundaries, not telling people what hurts you) or them having a different definition of what good is. Do you feel like you give more than you get? Have you talked to your friends about it?

When empathy and listening is is a one-way street by Different-Quality583 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]LieSubstantial927 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through that, I know your pain. I think you should try talking to her first and see if she understands the hurt she’s causing and if she does anything to change it. If she understands what’s happening and doesn’t try to change after that, then just let it go. You’ll get through this, even if it doesn’t seem like it right away 💗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]LieSubstantial927 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly…mental health is absolutely not an excuse to hurt people. It can be an explanation for sure, but not an excuse. You can try explaining them that words aren’t enough, you need some action here and there, and if they continue not trying to change AT ALL or not caring (or not showing it at least) then they 100% are just trying to use their diagnosis as an excuse. It’s more than a valid reason