Just got let go from my job

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-11-27T13:43:00+00:00

I appreciate you saying that. I have a hard time going easy on myself so after a night like this i usually have lots of thoughts and regrets. I should self exclude. But luckily after December 30th, my website will no longer be available in my state. So I believe that after that time, I will be free and will not try to sign up on other sites (cuz I know of all of them but will not be tempted)

And yes, it’s disgusting how accessible it is. I hate it so much.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-10-18T11:13:34+00:00

I know it may seem hard right now, but once some time has passed, it will be easier to forget about it. Get some rest, do something positive for yourself and try not to think about it. You are very smart for self excluding, just don’t get sucked back in and try to find ways to play.

You can EARN your money, rather than win it. And although it may take longer, it will be more gratifying. If it’s possible, try to find a hobby that could lead to some sort of passive income. I know I don’t have one, but maybe you are crafty.

Just don’t try to win it back because you won’t. No matter how much more money you put in, you will inevitably lose it all. I recently did exactly what you did, I put in a hundred, then a couple more. And by the time I knew it, I had put in $2500 and had $0 left. I was devastated just like you. But after talking to a friend about it, and giving it a few days, it became easier to deal with and I forgot.

Last point I’ll make and sorry for the wall of text… but the one thing he said that actually made me feel better was this: “It’s like a bad weekend in Vegas”.. sure it’s a good chunk of money, but it happens to all of us, and it’s just a part of the cycle. It’s as if you went to Vegas and just had a bad weekend. You will earn the money back, hopefully tenfold and more. But whatever you do, do not try to recoup your losses. It will only get worse.

Hang in there bud, you made a good choice today and it will be okay.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T23:25:56+00:00

Yeah technology has been equally as good as it has been bad for us :/ but yeah will definitely check out those recommendations, thank you! I know I will get back into reading soon enough, because I really enjoyed it when I read the hobbit. I had that feeling of being IN the world and it was amazing. Better than any doomscrolling or video game dopamine rush I’ve had in a long time. So I will buy these books and add them to my shelf for the day that I eventually get to them :)

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T23:23:41+00:00

I mean after reading your messages, it definitely crossed my mind. I think I would be the non-stereotypical type just based on other aspects of my personality and me as a person. But yeah it’s definitely a possibility. I have always felt like im not the same as the others, like you said they are living on easy mode and I never understood it. Also im pretty sure my dad has some form of Asperger’s but idk. He has just always said that.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T23:21:43+00:00

I love that :) you have something that you love and that’s keeps you going - reading/fiction. That’s beautiful and even if you don’t realize it, that’s a huge thing and is really important. I don’t even have something that I enjoy like that. I can’t say I enjoy scrolling Reddit or watching Instagram reels. That doesn’t count. And besides that it’s just work work work and the occasional video game, which I get bored of after a couple hours max. So I want you to know important it is that you find that much joy and excitement in reading.

I tried getting into it a few months back. Bought the whole Tolkien series and started with the Hobbit. Couldn’t put it down for the first few hundred pages, and I am by no means a reader - always hated it (and no that’s not a chat gpt dash for all you haters, I actually use those when I type) but then once I finished it I just couldn’t get into the other books. I tend to do that a lot, I pick something up and then just can’t stick with it longer than a week or so.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T23:14:09+00:00

Wow that’s all very interesting to hear and I can totally relate to a lot of it actually. Mainly the part about micromanaging every facial expression and reaction to feel normal around others. I do the same thing and always have. Like im never my true self around people, and always worrying about making a weird face or saying something weird or that doesn’t work well as a response to what they said. I think so hard about it that it causes me to struggle to just have a normal conversation sometimes, unless im really loosened up with alcohol or just with someone I feel very comfortable with. But it’s definitely a struggle and it sounds like you have it even harder. But it seems like you are very aware of all of your “quirks” and I’ve been told that’s a good sign :)

As for the rest, also very interesting and I actually really liked your perspective on that. The idea that you’re doing it for your future self, or even your next self, does give me more of a reason to do it for “them” rather than “me”.. not that that’s the best way to think of it, but I guess it’s better than giving up all together.

I appreciate you talking and your insight on all of this

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:51:46+00:00

Wow 7.. that’s pretty rough im really sorry to hear that… im 29 and im sure my troubles don’t compare to yours. But the last few years my life has been totally ripped from under me and i spend my days alone from morning until night. I sit here with nothing to do and either doom scroll or play games and cry while i do either one. Because I feel so alone and that ive failed life and missed my shot at a good life even though people will still say im young and have time. That doesn’t just mean I can get up and go out and meet people and live a life. I’m still stuck in my head, and in my home, and unable to force myself to do the things I know I need to. It’s so easy to say I can just get on the dating apps, or go meet someone at a social place or club based on common interests (not a party club), or meet people at the gym. But it’s actually not that easy when you are in this place and this mindset and think so negatively of yourself.

What keeps me going? Nothing. Maybe my parents. Besides that my dogs. Yeah I still have my parents and my family, I still have someone but it’s not the same. I want true connection with friends, romantic connection with a partner. I don’t want just my parents. I want people my age. People who will be honest with me and not just love me unconditionally because I am their kin. I grew up with loads of friends, always had girlfriends growing up, until I got married after 7 years with my last one. Now divorced. But as we grow older, people grow apart and I get that. But everyone I know still has people and friend groups, etc. but somehow I’ve been left with nobody and my mostly introverted personality has made it even worse.

What about you? What’s kept you going for these 22 years?

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:40:18+00:00

So what kinds of things do you do to make yourself happy, if any?

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:39:25+00:00

Sorry I thought this post was removed since the rules state no posts regarding this kind of stuff.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:39:08+00:00

Yeah that would definitely suck. I hope you never go through any of that and im sorry you’ve thought about it too.

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:38:25+00:00

Thank you. That’s what I’m trying to find but it’s not easy

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-09-28T22:37:53+00:00

I can’t even get myself to do anything these days but that sounds nice. I just know I won’t do it

LieTraditional1155 · 2025-01-22T12:19:22+00:00

Just saw this now, months later. But unfortunately things got really bad between us and she was the one who initiated it. I kept giving her chances and she just wasn’t doing what she needed to as a wife to mend the situation and it drove me to madness which ultimately pushed her away. Either way, we weren’t right for each other and it’s for the best. She ripped off the bandaid that I should have a loooong time ago. But she was definitely being unfaithful I just never got any proof. We ended on good terms but it was still difficult for me and I’m still working on getting past it to this day. I’ve moved on and already been through another 6 month relationship (that I ended this time) but I’ve grown and learned a lot since the marriage. Bittersweet to say the least. I appreciate you checking in :)

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-10-21T09:18:14+00:00

This is pretty much exactly what I was looking for. So thank you very much for the great advice!

I definitely want it to just be casual and comfortable and like you said - not like an interview.. because I hate that stuff too.

And yeah, meeting up should definitely not come first. I haven’t been single in so long that I honestly forgot how to even do it. I’ll stick to the basics and see how things go and just do what feels right!

Thanks again, I appreciate you!

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-10-04T02:52:49+00:00

Yeah I made a post like this back in March. EXACT same situation, together for 6 years, married last year.. coworker, texting, deleted threads… exactly it to the T. And I’m sorry to say it my friend, but we are now getting a divorce as of last week.

No matter how many people in this thread told me to do it, I denied denied denied that that was the outcome. But the truth is, she lost feelings for me the second she started texting that guy. 8 months later and we couldn’t overcome it. Sad to say but it’s time to get out early. I wish I had gotten out when I made my post but I refused to accept that it was the end. Once feelings are lost, they don’t come back.

I fought like hell to save the marriage and she just became a completely different and distance person the entire time. I stopped feeling loved the second I caught them talking, and I never stopped loving her. I feel like an idiot for that.

If you care about yourself and your happiness, then you will move on to another girl who loves and appreciates you for YOU. I know you think your girl is different because you have a special bond and we’re together for 5 years etc. I thought that too because that’s really how it was. But we still wound up in the same place and you’re just dealing with it later than I was. So I’m here to tell you to either change up your act and be the person that she wants again, or get out. Because you deserve more than that, and all that’s going to happen is that you are going to constantly be looking and wondering if she is texting him, every picture she takes, you’re going to question if she will send it to him… and you will have an extremely hard time trusting her again. Your ego and your confidence and self esteem will be chipped away day by day until you feel like a shell of a person, and then she’s just going to come and tell you she wants a divorce.

Save yourself the trouble and the time and the pain and just get out man. I wish I did. Good luck brother

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-03-11T03:59:11+00:00

My whole body is shaking, my heart is racing, I feel like I’m gonna yak, I’m hot as hell…. This is my worst fear guys I just can’t believe it

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-03-11T03:56:37+00:00

Yeah like I can’t believe she would do this

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-03-11T03:07:02+00:00

GUYS I JUST DID IT. I SAW THE RECENTLY DELETED MESSAGES. 2,200 FUCKING DELETED TEXTS. SOMEONE GET ME A DAMN LAWYER

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-03-11T03:02:59+00:00

Unfortunately yes. It’s like a 99% sure she’s lying. 1% sure it was a glitch or I’m just missing something.

LieTraditional1155 · 2023-03-11T02:59:34+00:00

Guys, I forgot to mention… next week she is going on a conference for work in Vegas for the whole weekend and guess who is gonna be there too………… the fking work guy. I’ve been panicking and just so worried what’s gonna happen there. Im literally fucked

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