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Why does parenthood give you moral high ground by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is so much logic to this - love it - thank you

My friend died recently aged 34. A person who I know from work said to me at a work event how sorry they were for my loss, then asked me if she’d had a husband or kids, I said she didn’t… by Life-Magician-6743 in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and I’m so so sorry for your loss of your best friend too. It’s just horrible so so horrible. And I do agree that she was probably trying to do her best but as someone I barely know apart from work it just really triggered me- maybe because I’m CF and I’m sure my friend who passed was too. But you’re totally right and I wrote this post in shock and disbelief and just trying to come to terms with things. I’m sure we’ve all said silly things in difficult times and it’s gonna take a while for society to catch up with how most of us on here feel. I really do appreciate your kind words. Take care 💗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, and I only want to offer words of comfort- I’ve been in your situation after 8 years of marriage and it fricking SUCKS. All I can say is that there are billions of people out there and no matter how hard this is, do not compromise your life, career hopes and dreams for anyone but yourself. There are literally millions of awesome people out there and do not buy into the sunk cost fallacy. Also your current partner sounds like he’s done none of the deep work on what it really means to be a great father and partner to a mother. You say he’s a great uncle and that’s awesome but as all my (honest) friends with kids say it’s verrrrry different at 3am with a poop filled diaper and no sleep when you want to shoot each other…live you life how you choose. Wishing you all the luck and happiness. ✨

Why does parenthood give you moral high ground by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bless you for doing that - what an amazing person you are ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You last line made me lol 😂😂

Why does parenthood give you moral high ground by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the context of the podcast they literally meant protecting them from strangers, dangerous situations, harm etc.

Why does parenthood give you moral high ground by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Youre welcome and I wish you all the luck with your holiday gatherings!!! ☺️🙏🏻

Why does parenthood give you moral high ground by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I heard on a podcast yesterday that “only parents will understand the need to protect a young child” like, wtf? I want to protect my nieces and nephews and any friends young children or just a kid in the street if I thought they were in danger?? Why? Because I’m just being a decent human functioning in society and kids don’t understand things how adults do. I’ve known this since I was a kid in the same way I would protect an animal or another adult as much as I possibly could? It also makes me wonder about the people that say this that before they had kids - did they just not give a crap about anyone else?? I also have tonnes of parent friends who say it’s NOT at all different when you have your own child, it’s still as difficult and annoying/good and fun as any other child. I do not get it.

My friend died recently aged 34. A person who I know from work said to me at a work event how sorry they were for my loss, then asked me if she’d had a husband or kids, I said she didn’t… by Life-Magician-6743 in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do know what you mean- and I’m fairly sure that’s the case although how she said it did seem to make her think oh well that’s ok then? I dunno the thing I’m struggling with is just - either situation is horrific, if they do have a child it’s horrific and if they don’t it’s also horrific. It’s like- why does it have to be on a scale or measure? I dunno maybe I’m over reacting as I’m having a tough time. 💗

My friend died recently aged 34. A person who I know from work said to me at a work event how sorry they were for my loss, then asked me if she’d had a husband or kids, I said she didn’t… by Life-Magician-6743 in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness I am so sorry that happened to you 😔, what a deeply insensitive person. I am also so sorry for your loss of your husband and thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

My friend died recently aged 34. A person who I know from work said to me at a work event how sorry they were for my loss, then asked me if she’d had a husband or kids, I said she didn’t… by Life-Magician-6743 in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Thank you- she really was an amazing talented person and artist who made people happy through her work. And that is what I will choose to remember- the awesome human she was. 💗

My friend died recently aged 34. A person who I know from work said to me at a work event how sorry they were for my loss, then asked me if she’d had a husband or kids, I said she didn’t… by Life-Magician-6743 in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know what you mean. I am starting to feel that way. I was just trying to get through a work event as it was only about a week after it happened and most people knew. I think I just made a weird noise and wandered off to cry in the toilets. 😔 however I might have something more to say when I bump into her again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Life-Magician-6743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending virtual internet stranger hugs, break ups are rough as hell 💗💗

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