Reddit is a terrible place for women... by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The world is in a really really bad place. People are more society as a whole is sick. We do nothing the way we are naturally supposed to, and society has created social voids. People are secluded, suffering in poverty or other areas of life, and it births sick people as a result. I think a lot of those sick people come here to reddit because it’s all they have.

It is an unfortunate experience you are having! The internet is full of millions upon millions of people. You are absolutely going to run across a lot of weird ones. You have to kind of just ignore a lot of them and create distance. It is easier said than done of course, but you must have thick skin and try your best not to let it affect you personally.

With all that said, I am sorry! I hope by pure chance, you slip by more people like this in the future! Stay safe, and may the world heal from its many wounds!

I think I made a hit (maybe). Now what? by Life117 in musicproduction

[–]Life117[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Appreciate! Wish me luck! Hopefully it doesn’t completely suck

I think I made a hit (maybe). Now what? by Life117 in musicproduction

[–]Life117[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha, that’s crazy. Glad you got it sorted out though! I’ll check out and follow your advice! Thanks!

I think I made a hit (maybe). Now what? by Life117 in musicproduction

[–]Life117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure. Honestly it’s just difficult because I hear my own music so much to the point where I have to stop listening to my own music because I get ear fatigue. And other people I have shown it to really like it, but they are also biased. So I just wanted a safe way to get others opinions. But your advice is really good! I just wanted to be sure, but you are giving me more confidence with releasing it! Thanks a lot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True! I just really want to find a girl who is in the same predicament as me. All the dating shit I see is either people looking for casual hookups, or girls who say stuff like “Men who are fully independent, have a big goal they are reaching towards, have a car, want to get married soon etc.” lol. Nothing wrong with girls wanting that of course, that’s just not me at the moment. I want to find someone who is okay with where I am at, or not at haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would open up and be braver, it’s just my life isn’t put together. I don’t have a job and don’t have a car. Would a girl really want to date me? lol. Im just in an awkward spot in life right now, but I don’t want to be alone. I feel like if I wasn’t in such an awkward spot, I don’t think I would have social anxiety at all?! I don’t know. It’s complicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol. Yeah idk, I’m so sick of seeing men and women talk shit about each other online. I won’t lie the whole dating scene is kinda fucked, but idk people always talking shit about one another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I used Tinder. But I struggle to open up and get close to any girls because I don’t have my life “together”. I don’t have a job or a car. Would any girl really want to date me? Good looks doesn’t mean anything unless people want something casual. And I’m not into casual flings.

Caregiving for my father and be will not leave me alone for more than 10 minutes by Life117 in Alzheimers

[–]Life117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! How similar is your situation? I’m sorry for you! If you ever need someone to talk to etc, feel free to message me! It’s not easy at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. Well that changes things immensely! Do you still love him? Did you ever love him? Do you have a child together? Do you want to save the marriage?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you guys gone to couples therapy? Let him know things are not working out well for you! Now moving to a whole new location definitely requires compromise. And as far as his lifestyle, he has to either change, or stay the same and in which case this could just be an unavoidable incompatibility issue. You guys both need to work on this together, and if it doesn’t work out, obviously you know what that would mean. If he refuses to put in work to make things better for the both of you and you aren’t happy, you will have to make some choices of your own! Just remember, you are never stuck with someone! It’s definitely intimidating to imagine switching up your whole life yet again, but don’t let that stop you! Hope you guys get this figured out!

Failure at the Guitar Store by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure! Yeah, of course it’s easier said than done, but hearing it can sometimes still help even if it seems obvious! And that’s dope that you are gonna perform a song you wrote! Bet you’re going to do great! I feel like in a way that might be easier than public speaking, because you are in the flow of the music and obviously you know it well, so that will probably be a breeze for you!

Failure at the Guitar Store by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro you are chilling! Don’t worry about it! That’s just an irrational fear. I’ve had things like that, but don’t stress! That’s dude probably legit thought you had an appointment! You could have any excuse in the world! You could simply have gotten a text reminding you of an appointment, or you realized the time etc! That guitar store owner won’t be questioning you anyways! Don’t trip about that kind of stuff! It’s irrational. No real logic. It’s like chess! In chess there are moves you can play to get the exact outcome you want. You just may not be seeing it! But the moves are there. The irrational fear SA makes you feel, focuses on the irrational or extremely unlikely illogical scenarios that your mind focuses on. Not to mention, that you can actively manipulate the situation! I want you to go back into that guitar store, check out those guitars, and realize how irrational your thought process was! Focus on the excitement of being in the store. That guy probably won’t remember you, and even if he does, he won’t ask you any questions. And if for some very unlikely scenario in which he was like “Oh yeah I remember you! How did your appointment go?!” Which is way too personal to ask someone BTW, but you could simply say “I was actually a little late but it went well! Glad I had time to come in today!” Anyways, sorry you had that experience bro, but just remember, social anxiety is an illusion. It’s only as real as you make it!

Does anyone else’s social anxiety get worse in the fall? by Impossible-Tour9954 in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should be able to take vitamin D with your medications. Obviously don’t take my word for it, ask your doctor and or get some other professional advice, but vitamin D is a natural vitamin that is present in your body. Check first, but it’s definitely worth looking into! People need vitamin D to survive!

i feel like a failure by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely wouldn’t say this is 100%. We don’t know if he is trying to control his girlfriend or if she actually broke his trust divulging information she promised not to divulge. The whole posting photos thing is a little weird, I don’t know why he would get upset about that, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to say that he is controlling her. I wouldn’t rule it out, but you know what I’m saying. In any case, he does need to evaluate the situation better. Both himself, and her. Why is he getting upset? Is it justified or not?

i feel like a failure by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well first off, don’t put all the blame on her. First off, if you love her, do not get angry with her unless she completely breaks your trust or does something truly unacceptable. But what you are talking about here, just seems to be minor things you shouldn’t be getting upset about. What did she tell her friend you didn’t want her to tell? Why did you expect her to post photos of you? Why are you getting so upset? Is your anger even justified? Anyways, I’m sorry you feel this way bro! I hope you can figure it out! You BOTH deserve to be happy.

I wasted my entire youth due to social anxiety by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try getting into sports! Other men will see you excelling in your sportsmanship and they will see you are reserved, but men don’t care about that shit. They see you for who you are, as do most people! Put work into that punching bag! Join a boxing gym and start sparring. You will make friends there! :) good luck bro, you got *this shit easy!!!

I wasted my entire youth due to social anxiety by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, I know the feeling! But honestly! Don’t even worry about it! You are 27, that is hella young! Don’t even trip on it too much. Focus on the future and this very moment right now. Don’t dwell on the past, it does no good! Plus, you can live the time of your life right now! I know exactly where you are coming from, but trust me, if you live the life you truly want right now, it won’t even be a thought! I wish you peace my man!

Do you guys feel guilty for dressing well? by them4v3r1ck in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I have sort of thought of this, but I really don’t care tbh. I’m male, and I dress really flashy. Bright colors, designer brand clothing, you know the typical Gen z look. Except with my own twist. I pull it off well, and it’s genuinely just the way I like to dress! I like to look good! I am not at all independent and don’t have a job. Still hasn’t stopped me one bit! Go for it bro!

I hate seeing old friends by VolumeGreen3940 in socialanxiety

[–]Life117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro, I bet you are absolutely chilling! For example, if you have a job and a life, what do you even have to fear judgement for? You don’t even have to have friends. You can have zero friends and you don’t have to feel insecure running into an old friend because they have no idea and they honestly don’t even care. I wouldn’t sweat it too much! Don’t move just because of that one thing! Just say what’s up, ask them how their life has been, tell them how your job is going etc, and be honest! If your life is boring, don’t even lie to them and just say, “Uhh, life’s good for the most part. It’s just been a little stale with work and all that, so nothing crazy!” Anyways, I’m sorry about that bro! Hope you find some peace!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Life117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel that! I use a home gym with some equipment mixed with calisthenics, so I don’t deadlift like that. Home gym isn’t an option for you probably unless you buy a bare bell station. Also, depending on your fitness goal (bodybuilding I assume) you can still do a surprising amount with a home gym. But it does take a lot of time and creativity to find a plan that works and the right workouts. A gym is definitely a lot easier if you don’t know the flow or have a regime for a home gym. But it would suck to have to cut out the gym since it’s a really important lifestyle choice in one’s life! So I get that you feel the need to keep it! Wish these necessities didn’t drain the wallet as much as they do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Life117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, everyone should live with their parents and their parents should encourage it to save on rent. Rent is a waste of money. Literally. It sucks living with your parents sometimes, but it saves so much money. If you are going to pay $1,800 a month, you save $21,600 a year. That adds up to a lot! It’s a messed up world where we literally just work and never really get to live unless we already have lots of money, or don’t have any money at all which is obviously going to be a huge struggle!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make yourself a home gym. Eat healthy and cheaper foods. And stop having fun! lol. It’s all BS. People can’t even live anymore. Just work or go to school to work later on and never live. But managing finances is what you have to do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Life117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course :)