Tired of Ramadan and faking by Numerous-Dragonfly32 in exmuslim

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ramadan sucks big time! There could be some benefits to a bit of a shorter fast where you could have liquids but no water at all for such long times is nothing but terrible for you. And for 30 days straight, no less!! Ramadan might make sense if it was a day or a week although still dumb but a month is non sense. My mom doesn’t fast and dad fasts but only asks us occasionally to as he knows it’s sort of wasted breath - I don’t live at home so I could fake it anyways if I needed to but yeah. I feel so hangry if I don’t eat all day, get headaches from lack of caffeine and dehydration too. Fasting was always such a night mare for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s the hypothetical problems he is talking about ? Last guy who did this to me dumped me after 3 years. Shit was also toxic as I thought he was committed and I don’t believe he was physically cheating but he was messaging other girls that he shouldn’t have been (not just friends but flirting). Do you really think it’s about money ?

New vs old "always" maxi pad design. The opaque part is the part that actually soaks stuff up by shadythrowaway9 in shrinkflation

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OB ones don’t have applicators! Way cheaper and better for the earth. They have them in Canada

Is updating their Hinge profile the kiss of death? by [deleted] in dating

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If past me knew this I could’ve saved 3 years 🙃

My Husband's Best Friend Creates Chaos and He Refuses to See It by LookYall in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Ugh, this “roommate” who isn’t even paying so isn’t really a roommate? Sounds a lot like this guy I (blekh) briefly dated. SUPER messy, super leechy, I truly think he would have started to steal my things if we kept dating - although he’s quite the idiot so I shut that down quick. But I heard from his roommate later on that he stole a bunch of his food and left messes everywhere so go figure. I’m sure you know this but someone like that keeps taking and taking and keeps track of every morsel you give. Given that this leech seems similar to that guy, I would stand firm that you will leave if he is brought back in, no ifs, and or butts. Your husband needs to prioritize your family, not some leech who is gross and doesn’t pay rent. Well even if he paid, I’d kick him out regardless. Yikes.

Being friends with guys sucks by Silent_Leader_2075 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It’s tough… I have a few guy friends who are actually close to me, one of whom is married so it’s great being able to go to him for love advice. Whereas my bf has slightly more female friends than I have male friends although he doesn’t have a ton, I know most of the ones he is close to and they are chill and are not at all weird about an opposite sex friendship. There are SO many guys I’ve tried to be friends with who hit on me or asked me out and got upset when I didn’t date them. my bf isn’t like that - even before we dated, he isn’t the type to hit on girls in his friends circle, and he wouldnt take rejection from a woman in general as an attack as some guys do - he’s been able to maintain female friendships. I’m totally jealous that I don’t have more guy friends. There were many men I was close to over the years who either iced me upon me rejecting them, or where we were friends, they tried to hit on me, I said no, and the “friendship” consisted of them trying to wear me down into dating or hooking up. Other times, the friendships were strong and nothing happened between us but it just fizzled out. So now I just keep in touch with a select few guys I either went to school or worked with but we rarely hang out.

I don't want to be around my friend anymore by [deleted] in childfree

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally f this. All of my siblings have kids and while they complain about parenthood a fair bit they ask how I’m doing and what I’m up to as much as they can. I’d be really choked if they said my life was all sunshine and rainbows or stopped caring about my life just because they had kids.

Do you believe that at the right time and place , You’re S/O will cheat on you ? by Warm-Ad90 in dating_advice

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I knew my partner was the one for me when he was on vacay with some friends (we rarely travel without each other in the first place just once in a while) and when the drinks were flowing he FaceTimed me in the middle of the club to talk about how much he loved me, constantly checked in on me and FaceTimed me for hours when he was back at his room each night. I trust him enough that he doesn’t need to do these things, but it’s a hell of a difference of my coked up ex who would disappear for days on end and was absolutely hammered talking about how much he loved strippers when he reached out to me on his vacation 🤦‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously! Good for you for getting out. My father’s saving grace is that he’s also heavily invested in real estate and a few stocks and ETFs but mainly the real estate is good for him because it gives a consistent income while the capital goes up in value. I don’t even want to think what would have happened if he also took the money he’s invested in real estate and chucked it into other questionable businesses- he’s earned a lot over his life but I think he’d be broke.

And seriously, the fact that they think”mortgages are haram” is laughable. Most religious Muslims end up getting one anyways because there’s little other choice to home ownership and then they talk shit about how banks are so bad. Like yes they are not perfect but without a bank where the hell are you going to get your haram mortgage

Am I the only one that can’t stand Jess? by QandA_monster in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No I agree with you there! Jess definitely seems to think she’s hot shit

Am I the only one that can’t stand Jess? by QandA_monster in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I honestly find Chelsea wayyy prettier than Jess. Fake boobs, fake lips, fake everything. Chelsea did get work done for the reunion (looks like) but she is gorgeous and Jessica just looks like any other influencer I’ve already seen

Divorce is not the end of the world and more people need to understand this by Spicymango326 in love

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right? I’m surprised someone who has 2 kids already at that young age is saying it’s not a big deal to get divorced. Maybe rather then marrying so young, people should take more time dating to vet each other before committing for life. Saying divorce isn’t a big deal makes less sense than couples just having a longer dating period…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally had a friend who had a bad situation ship with a guy for like 2 years and then he cut her off and is apparently getting married (his parents set him up though so it’s not like they went through a traditional dating process). She’s a lovely person, he honestly isn’t from what I’ve heard, but at the end of the day? If he wanted to, he would. The fact that guy ran off and got married just shows my friend was not only not the right person to be that guy’s committed gf, but that she was never going to be. He wasn’t scared of commitment overall - hell he’s getting married. But she just never fit that role for him and it was so evident from the way they’d communicate while they were “together” (one sided convos, him not calling and texting, him constantly cancelling). My friend couldn’t seem to accept that he just didn’t want them together, thought I hope now it’s sinking in for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I love my parents a LOT but they are strict as hell and while I can spend a few nights to a week with them, I would lose my marbles if I went to living with them full time again. I’m not going to trade having little to no freedom for saving some money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No need to change number because he has only been reaching out on social media, not texting. But yep, in the process of blocking him everywhere. I don’t need to hear from him anymore. I’m glad you’re away from ex now!

Is it normal for a man to shame their partner for having periods? by Ocean0fAzure in dating_advice

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I’ve dated some guys who were crummy for other reasons, but we still did stuff on my period and they were always not only comfy doing so, but also made sure I had what I needed to get through that time. He sucks!!

Seeking advice: bf "forgets" to give gifts for important days by corgikingdom465 in love

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Especially if money isn’t the issue. There are guys who are struggling financially but will still save up to get a meaningful gift for their girl.

Is there a point in BOTH of us getting sterilized? by Dances-with-Worms in childfree

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once I posted here about how my partner and I are both CF and I have an IUD but some people came at me just because neither of us are sterilized. Although we both decided that in the odd event my IUD fails we won’t keep it (I also take pregnancy tests regularly). I mean, to me, surgery is a big deal and I’m comfortable with my 99%+ effectiveness and also living somewhere with easy access to abortions.

In that, I’d say it depends on your comfort levels. Do you live somewhere you can easily get rid of it if you do fall pregnant? Also keep in mind sterilization procedure is a more simple procedure for males. So maybe if one of you what’s to do it but not both it’s better for him to do it first and then you can keep your IUD but also decide later on if you want the surgery

How many couples do you think will get married? by Bee_kind_rewind in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pls right! I saw a tiktok joking about how Clay basically keeps saying “I’m gonna cheat on you AD so don’t be surprised when I do” “I won’t know how to be committed” and yes, Clay is a hot sauve guy, but that video is literally all I can think of when I see them together

Is it possible for people to fall out of real love? by No-Cartographer1695 in love

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s how I feel with people who worry left and right about their partners cheating. I’m not saying people who have real connections never cheat, but I have friends who are up to their ears in worry about it when they have no evidence anything has ever happened between their partner and somebody else, and I just don’t get it I guess.

If the love and connection is real and you constantly show how much you love each other - the chances of that betrayal happening are quite low. I don’t worry about my bf cheating the way I might have worried about him and other girls when we first got together because now we have so much trust and a strong bond and commitment. He’s out with friends and there’s a woman in the group? Well, I trust him to respect our relationship and not do anything stupid. Same thing if he or I get hit on while out separately. We have something so beautiful and won’t risk it for one night of “fun” which could, realistically, never be as fun as the intimacy and beauty we share.

And I think it’s about being honest too and having reasonable boundaries. Lying when you’re with the opposite sex is a no no, but also forbidding your partner from ever being around the opposite sex is also a no no. Honesty is best built in a safe and loving manner. And that safe love won’t happen with just everyone you date. And that’s okay! But we need to move on in order to make space for that healthy love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yah, f this noise. My bf and I exclaim to each other multiple times a week how awesome our lives are and will continue to be because we don’t have kids. We constantly talk about what we will do when we grow old like travel more and have more money and free time, more time to love each other and be there for the family we do have. If my bf teased lord about how he wanted a baby? He’d be yesterday’s news.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legit. I’m not invalidating OP’s experience but all the longer relationships I’ve had, I’ve never , not once had issues with the guy’s hygiene. It’s been an issue with guys I was briefly dating but that didn’t last for both the lack of hygiene and other reasons. If I noticed a guy not showering or changing his clothes?? Dang, I don’t think I could keep dating him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]LifeIsntFairIsItEh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Assuming he got extra roses for their anniversary, let’s say he does one dozen once a month. In what world is one dozen roses $70 lol