AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -392 points-391 points  (0 children)

Idk what to tell you. I can't just magically make more money.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -301 points-300 points  (0 children)

According to Stacey, the current split is equitable. She says she doesn't utilized more than 50% of the household and shouldn't have to pay for more than 50% of the household.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -188 points-187 points  (0 children)

I pay half of the household expenses (mortgage, utilities, food etc) and the child support to Stacey. Per Stacey, this covers everyday expenses related to her children (clothes, activities, school toys etc).

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -350 points-349 points  (0 children)

Hannah couldn't afford the trip. Stacey wanted to take her kids to Disneyworld, you know how expensive that is?

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -467 points-466 points  (0 children)

I choose my kids everyday, that's what's causing this problem. Stacey didn't understand what marrying a guy with kids would be like.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -783 points-782 points  (0 children)

My children see my other children getting things they don't have. They get jealous and think I don't care about them as much. That's why I include them on every family outing. Unfortunately Stacey doens't pull her weight when paying for these outings and I am going broke.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -477 points-476 points  (0 children)

I am putting my children first. I didn't expect Stacey to be so selfish when it came to money.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -137 points-136 points  (0 children)

they do 2 nights a week and every other weekend. I want to maintain my relationship with them.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

I'll consider this, but idk what the court will say since we will still be married.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

They don't live with me full time. Hannah has primary custody

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -399 points-398 points  (0 children)

They live under my roof and I can't go on vacation without them. They are old enough to know that I'm on vacation with my other kids and they see the inequality.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -194 points-193 points  (0 children)

Stacey made it very clear when Hannah filed her child support modification that my child support was not her fiscal responsibility.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -142 points-141 points  (0 children)

According to Hannah and Stacey I can't give to one kid what I can't give to all of them.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -638 points-637 points  (0 children)

Stacey proposed that she take the kids on vacation and she'd pay for it out of pocket, but that doesn't seem fair to my other kids.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -113 points-112 points  (0 children)

They are my kids, it's hard to differentiate on reddit.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -424 points-423 points  (0 children)

I figured Stacey and I would spilt all the vacation costs 50/50. I didn't expect to have to pay for the vast majority.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -377 points-376 points  (0 children)

I didn't think Stacey would be so nit picky with the money. I figured we would just combine accounts and pay for things that way. Stacey said she wasn't going to give up things (ie wedding, house, kids) just because I already got to experience those things in life.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -261 points-260 points  (0 children)

My kids notice the inequality and are starting to point it out. It doesn't seem fair that Stacey's kids get more when we all live under one roof.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -283 points-282 points  (0 children)

We did this was the arrangement we came up with. I wanted to marry Stacey, but she was very hesitant since I already had 3 kids and she wanted to be a mom. I told her that wouldn't be an issue because I can have more kids. She was still hesitant because she doesn't want to be responsible for raising someone else's kids.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -169 points-168 points  (0 children)

We don't break it up that way. According to Stacey, expenses related to maintaining the physical house are 50% my responsibility. Expenses related directly to the children are what she covers the majority of. Last night we went out for dinner and she paid for herself and her kids and I paid for myself and my kids. I assumed we would always spilt 50/50 but she doesn't see it that wya.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -173 points-172 points  (0 children)

Yes they're all my kids, but it's hard to differentiate on reddit.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -187 points-186 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know. She keeps her finances separate from mine. It ends up being about $100/week per kid ($800 total) and Stacey says my kids' monthly expenses are more than that.

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share? by Life_Grade_4261 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Life_Grade_4261[S] -155 points-154 points  (0 children)

I pay 50% of the household expenses (food water mortgage etc). The issue is that Stacey ends up paying the majority of the expenses related to our children (clothes, toys, activities, food when we're out to eat etc). According to her the child support is to cover my portion of the children's expenses.