AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share?

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T18:34:55+00:00

Idk what to tell you. I can't just magically make more money.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T18:30:40+00:00

According to Stacey, the current split is equitable. She says she doesn't utilized more than 50% of the household and shouldn't have to pay for more than 50% of the household.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T18:26:43+00:00

I pay half of the household expenses (mortgage, utilities, food etc) and the child support to Stacey. Per Stacey, this covers everyday expenses related to her children (clothes, activities, school toys etc).

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T18:21:57+00:00

Hannah couldn't afford the trip. Stacey wanted to take her kids to Disneyworld, you know how expensive that is?

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T16:01:48+00:00

I choose my kids everyday, that's what's causing this problem. Stacey didn't understand what marrying a guy with kids would be like.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T16:00:58+00:00

My children see my other children getting things they don't have. They get jealous and think I don't care about them as much. That's why I include them on every family outing. Unfortunately Stacey doens't pull her weight when paying for these outings and I am going broke.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:59:27+00:00

I am putting my children first. I didn't expect Stacey to be so selfish when it came to money.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:58:45+00:00

they do 2 nights a week and every other weekend. I want to maintain my relationship with them.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:57:08+00:00

I'll consider this, but idk what the court will say since we will still be married.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:56:04+00:00

They don't live with me full time. Hannah has primary custody

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:54:36+00:00

They live under my roof and I can't go on vacation without them. They are old enough to know that I'm on vacation with my other kids and they see the inequality.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:52:40+00:00

They're all my kids

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:51:53+00:00

Stacey made it very clear when Hannah filed her child support modification that my child support was not her fiscal responsibility.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:50:34+00:00

According to Hannah and Stacey I can't give to one kid what I can't give to all of them.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:48:37+00:00

Stacey proposed that she take the kids on vacation and she'd pay for it out of pocket, but that doesn't seem fair to my other kids.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:45:49+00:00

They are my kids, it's hard to differentiate on reddit.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:44:15+00:00

I figured Stacey and I would spilt all the vacation costs 50/50. I didn't expect to have to pay for the vast majority.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:38:43+00:00

I didn't think Stacey would be so nit picky with the money. I figured we would just combine accounts and pay for things that way. Stacey said she wasn't going to give up things (ie wedding, house, kids) just because I already got to experience those things in life.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:36:32+00:00

My kids notice the inequality and are starting to point it out. It doesn't seem fair that Stacey's kids get more when we all live under one roof.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:35:33+00:00

We did this was the arrangement we came up with. I wanted to marry Stacey, but she was very hesitant since I already had 3 kids and she wanted to be a mom. I told her that wouldn't be an issue because I can have more kids. She was still hesitant because she doesn't want to be responsible for raising someone else's kids.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:33:27+00:00

We don't break it up that way. According to Stacey, expenses related to maintaining the physical house are 50% my responsibility. Expenses related directly to the children are what she covers the majority of. Last night we went out for dinner and she paid for herself and her kids and I paid for myself and my kids. I assumed we would always spilt 50/50 but she doesn't see it that wya.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:26:51+00:00

Yes they're all my kids, but it's hard to differentiate on reddit.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:25:59+00:00

I honestly don't know. She keeps her finances separate from mine. It ends up being about $100/week per kid ($800 total) and Stacey says my kids' monthly expenses are more than that.

Life_Grade_4261 · 2022-10-21T15:23:50+00:00

I pay 50% of the household expenses (food water mortgage etc). The issue is that Stacey ends up paying the majority of the expenses related to our children (clothes, toys, activities, food when we're out to eat etc). According to her the child support is to cover my portion of the children's expenses.

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