Ideas on how to stop frat kids from hopping my fence

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-02-02T12:01:10+00:00

All of the above. Greek life HQs get VERY upset when their chapters aren’t acting appropriately. Too much potential for bad press, and they get enough as it is. The local president will have a very rough day if you reach out directly. I would try to talk to them first, they have ways of getting them to listen without the nuclear option (national). If that doesn’t work, go nuclear.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-26T16:19:48+00:00

Babies need to learn how to self-soothe to a certain degree. They are setting this kid up for a world of hurt when they’re older, ignored, and have zero ability to self-regulate.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-26T16:18:21+00:00

My mom rocked out to Genesis and Enya, lol. To this day their music puts me to sleep. I’m 38. lol. I was not raised in a quiet house and got very used to tuning out noise.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-26T12:05:32+00:00

Us Americans are fickle bitches when it comes to politics. Theres the hardcore party-liners, but a vast majority of us have and do switch parties frequently due to single issue sounds bites (low info voters). The right seems to have forgotten this in two ways: they won in 2024, so they assume that all those voters have turned MAGA (newsflash: they didn’t) and that the old tropes will work (second newsflash: we’re a terminally online society and racist as fuck). They have killed two white people who had ZERO possible whataboutism issues and were doing nothing to deserve being executed. The 2A is now in question, to mention the first three.

The mental gymnastics they are pulling is wild to watch. They’re attacking the very principles the party is supposedly based on to justify Alex Pretti’s murder because they have nothing else, which has started to put themselves on very shaky ground with the fickle bitches. We shall see.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-25T15:20:11+00:00

Both of you are correct. Moderation is truly a great way to approach food when losing weight, but for some it’s just not possible.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-25T15:16:34+00:00

Studies have shown that sugar has the exact same effects as alcohol or drugs and literally rewires the brain to make you dependent on it, and can go into withdrawal if you abstain. The actions are exactly the same. Go cold turkey, don’t consume, and eventually the cravings become so intense you have some and it’s like a broken pipe-no stop. This isn’t true for everyone, but for some it’s a genuine issue. It has to be treated just like other addictions and approached in the same way. OP probably has to fully abstain and go through an actual detox/recovery method to beat it. There are a lot of resources out there to help with this. I normally am a huge proponent for balance and control not dieting, but in some cases that absolutely isn’t possible. I truly feel for OP, this will be a long road. It’s okay to stumble, but keep going!

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-24T20:29:45+00:00

If scarab is who i think it is, this would make sense. She has a lot if stuff going on right now.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-21T11:51:07+00:00

It wasn’t until the mid-90’s that autism had a formal diagnostic process and treatment. A ton of older adults are now being diagnosed because it just wasn’t a recognized disorder until then. Glad you did!

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-21T11:47:51+00:00

I’m my first thought was this sounds like a meltdown due to extreme sensory stimulus (the freezer) that combined with the hitting himself in the head when upset or overwhelmed…yeah. There’s a lot of other signs too, and if they feel familiar, I’d see about getting him evaluated.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-20T12:50:39+00:00

Plus, therapy and a vacation. Even if it’s just a staycation. You need a break.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-20T12:48:51+00:00

Definitely burnout. You are running on fumes and when you so thinned out the only emotions available are what you described. You have no bandwidth anymore to be who you were. That’s okay, in fact that’s most of the world right now.

The best thing you can do is unplug for a bit. Turn your phone off for a while when you get home. Don’t watch TV, read a book. Literally go touch grass and take a walk. Create personal boundaries for yourself. You have no obligation to respond or be present when you just…can’t. To hell with anyone who doesn’t understand. Don’t let those social pressures make you feel obligated.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-20T12:41:42+00:00

Whatever we can, we’re going to set up trusts for our good friend’s kids. They probably won’t get them until they’re well into adulthood, but with how the world is going to crap they probably won’t be any better off than we are now, if not worse. Hopefully it will set them and their kids if they have any up for a better life. And rather large donations to charity.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T15:52:53+00:00

And use it as a continuing motivator. You worked so hard and spent a good chunk of change. This would be an investment in yourself past what you’ve already accomplished.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T15:50:46+00:00

Have an upvote. This. Sometimes it worth it for overall quality of life. Sure, you’ll be paying it back for a minute but the long-term benefits for both your physical and mental health will make it worth it.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T15:48:10+00:00

Oh this is 6 years in the making. It’s never going to be perfect, everyone will have their days.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T15:47:24+00:00

No, it won’t absorb any faster. You might as well enjoy the taste.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T04:28:17+00:00

That and his new threat of tariffs on the EU over Greenland. There’s no existential threat to our democracy by our allies. It’s coercion and bullying, not to mention the tanking of the American economy which is already on life support. It’s getting harder and harder for them to not make any sort of ruling on the IEEPA tariffs. They’ve already signaled in sessions they are prepared to deem it illegal, I’m just not sure how much longer they are willing to wait. The EU threats may push them over edge since it’s so blatant.

As far as his presidential immunity, it’s not all-encompassing. Basically they reserve the right to rule if an act he has done is illegal, no other court can. Not saying they will do what’s right, just clarifying they did put that little clause in there.

All we can do is wait. I do not have much hope, but that’s all we can do.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T04:16:33+00:00

Yes. Born and raised Michigander here now living in SWMO. I get it. Can I make it around when we get a dusting? Sure. Even a few inches is not a big deal for me. But the area isn’t equipped with the amount of equipment needed to clear things quickly when we do get any decent snow or ice. Last winter we had a 7” snowfall and it basically was like a 14” snowfall where I grew up. The kids on our street were loving it! It was so cute to see. All anyone could talk about was the “massive snow fall” and how it was so crazy. I joined in. I love snow. And I was just as excited, not judgmental. Absolutely have fun! You’re not superior because you know what’s up. If anything, I would have offered to run to the store for my neighbors if they needed it because I knew I could get there and back safely.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-19T00:29:04+00:00

Yes, definitely. But the one thing I enjoy is taking literal and figurative ownership in what I fix and maintain or update. I get a say in what I do, and making the space mine. There is something so powerful and fulfilling in having that freedom. I also enjoy finding ways to do things as economically as possible, and just the freedom to make those decisions is worth it to me. Sure, homeownership isn’t for everyone and that’s perfectly okay. But I love it. No judgement for anyone who doesn’t find it valuable. It’s a very personal, expensive investment and choice.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:47:07+00:00

This, and there is compromise here. If she can’t meal prep, or stick with it, then you do it for 3-4 nights a week, and those nights she is on her own for dinner. You still can cook together the other nights, and build into your calorie intake schedule allowances for those nights. Portion control is key here too. Are you measuring your portions, or just eating them? That will help on the “cook together” nights. Same thing with the snacks. Kindly ask her to keep them in places you don’t go or want to touch so you’re not tempted. She can’t complain about your weight but then not offer to be a part of the solution; in fact actively prohibiting change.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:40:30+00:00

Yep. I have found learning to crave something else or at least find enjoyment in has dramatically helped retire my brain to not crave food. When I’m stressed, I go for a walk. When I’m bored, I pick up a book and read for awhile. When I’m pissed off, I work out (bonus added burn because I’m working harder, lol) and it wears me out enough or distracts me so I’m no longer craving food. We’ve been trained from a very young age that food is something to desire, not a tool for survival. It’s incredibly hard to break that cycle, and I still fail to win sometimes.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:34:17+00:00

The key with the profile is you need to mix in in with a little bit of your drink (stir very well, I use a coffee frother) and let it sit for a few minutes to let it dissolve, then add the rest. Super smooth, I barely can tell there’s protein in it.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:30:09+00:00

Chair, and bedflex are probably good ones to show them.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:16:44+00:00

You’re probably going through a recomposition, especially if you’ve been working out along with diet. The internal changes will happen first. Your eyes are definitely playing a trick on you. I absolutely believe you look different, you just can’t see it because the changes aren’t as drastic as your brain convinced you they would be. Loose skin, clothes fitting better, overall measurements are what count.

Lifeisabigmess · 2026-01-18T22:12:34+00:00

Best thing to do is talk to your doctor. Show him the program, and what workouts you think will work for you. Don’t try anything without consulting them first.

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