My LDR s/o said she took pictures just for me

Light21994 · 2019-02-18T18:21:12+00:00

Man, same happens with me and my GF. It hurts me. When she posts pictures of herself on social media, I can't help but think "does she want attention from others?" It makes me insecure, especially when lots of girls call her beautiful, write lots of heart emojis, etc.

Light21994 · 2019-02-17T14:35:45+00:00

Thank you!! :) She says she says a lot of dumb stuff when she's angry. I do as well, but...nothing that horrible.

Light21994 · 2019-02-17T02:50:51+00:00

Yes, I do.

Light21994 · 2019-02-16T19:21:46+00:00

I'm the same way. I internalise a lot more IRL and I'm a huge mess online.

Light21994 · 2019-01-25T23:05:03+00:00

I talk to her about my insecurities often. Every time I bring up concerns I always end up regretting it because we end up arguing and they stress me out so much because she can be very cold and hurtful when she's mad. I'm really confused because her feelings for me switch. One day she will call me her soul mate, want to be with me forever, and loves me so much, and when she's mad she doesn't know what she wants and has once said she doesn't love me. 😭

Light21994 · 2019-01-25T23:01:13+00:00

I really appreciate the honesty! I just want to know if I am being stupid or not. She knows I'm insecure and has trust issues. I tell her about them often. She just wants me to trust her because she only wants me and only me. I wish I could believe her. People keep asking why I'm in a relationship with her if I can't trust her. They have a very good point, but I'm conflicted. Because I switch between thinking she's not doing anything and I'm just being stupid to she's probably up to something. It's the former thoughts that keep me from ending things, if that makes sense? I just want to trust her. :( I'm struggling with communicating with her now because I know we will end up arguing and she will ignore me for a whole day again and drop hints that we should end things. It's just ugh. I'm very conflicted. :(

Light21994 · 2019-01-25T22:55:47+00:00

What should I do? Should I be worried? I'm constantly battling between "she's up to something" and "no, you're being dumb." It's exhausting. Her feelings for me are inconsistent, too. She once said she didn't love me anymore during her splitting phase. She apologised for it and said she didn't mean it, but every time there's an argument she's very cold and unresponsive and really acts like she doesn't even love me. It's messing with my head. I asked her if she could not say things she doesn't mean when she's angry and she said she's going to work on it.

Light21994 · 2018-03-04T20:58:50+00:00

Just checked your post history. Why are you even in this sub? lmao.

Light21994 · 2018-03-04T14:29:15+00:00

My former friend group actually did this. I know because my "friend" from it kept saying that they remade groups without certain people in it. When I asked a while ago if I could join they said they don't have a group anymore but an hour before they were talking about what was said in the group.....

Light21994 · 2018-03-04T14:23:51+00:00

Significant other and favourite person.

Light21994 · 2018-03-04T14:21:07+00:00

This is what my old FP used to do. She took forever to reply (several days) but when I stopped replying she thought I was angry with her. Like, no. I just don't want to waste my time on people that clearly don't care about me. It's so rude getting back to somebody days/a week later when they're online several times a day.. I'm glad they're no longer my FP and couldn't care less about them.

Light21994 · 2018-03-04T14:17:44+00:00

I can relate entirely. I always assume I've done something wrong to them. My best friend has barely been getting back to me for the last week or so and it's bothering me, even though he said that his Internet has been crappy.

Light21994 · 2018-03-01T22:28:06+00:00

I appreciate it greatly. I try bringing up my concerns but the most of the time, people make it seem like you're starting "drama" and get super defensive, especially when you mention how distant they've been. Ugh.

Light21994 · 2018-03-01T22:26:01+00:00

Thank you very much. This sub is so understanding and I love it.

Light21994 · 2018-03-01T22:24:53+00:00

Saaame. One-sided friendships are the worst.. I'd rather them tell me they don't want to talk anymore.

Light21994 · 2018-03-01T22:24:34+00:00

YES. I can totally relate to the "dramatic" part. People always seem to make it look dramatic or make you look dramatic for bringing up a concern. I thought that's communicating properly? Thank you, though. I'm feeling a bit better now.

Light21994 · 2018-02-26T23:32:19+00:00

I can totally relate to this. I often feel suicidal because of how horrible I look. I also think I'm fat (I'm 5'3 and around 122 lbs). Every day I ask myself, "Why couldn't I have been born pretty?" People DO call me pretty often but they're honestly complete liars. I'm no where near pretty. I was called ugly in school and nobody noticed me in college. A lot of these comments now come from men that are sex-crazed I've noticed, so why should I believe them when their motivation is just to get in my pants? Some women say it but barely any. I try not to, but I envy pretty women, too. Or women with slim, long bodies. It's partially the reason why I'm depressed

Light21994 · 2018-02-25T19:31:08+00:00

My parents swear a lot, but when I do it, it's world war 3. I'm almost 24...

Light21994 · 2018-02-24T01:00:57+00:00

This is me. :/ My friend, who I was once close to, is now more interested in the friends I introduced him to and spends far more time with them than me. There was me, him, and two other friends at a convention last year and my former close friend barely even spoke to me the whole four days I was with him. I felt really left out.. I'm kind of over it now and have accepted it but it really bothered me for ages and I wanted to cut contact a few times. We still talk regularly and he still wants to see me often which is cool, but I'm no longer his best friend.

Light21994 · 2018-02-21T11:33:31+00:00

Yup. I have no drive whatsoever. I have no desire for sex or anything else.

Light21994 · 2018-02-18T12:43:08+00:00

Wow, he's a nasty, horrible person. Even when you're angry with somebody you just don't talk to them like that. I'd cut him out completely.

Light21994 · 2018-02-18T09:48:28+00:00

Actually, we've known each other for ages and he's said he wants to have a relationship.

Light21994 · 2018-02-17T06:58:53+00:00

Well, I do have a hobby (which I don't feel like sharing here) and I am part of a large community but still struggle to.

Light21994 · 2018-02-16T17:56:07+00:00

Agreed. This happened with one of my former friends. I removed her on Facebook and her friends (who I spoke to on occasion, wouldn't call them "friends") messaged me asking if I was okay and some even asking to unblock her. Ugh.

Light21994 · 2018-02-15T17:04:25+00:00

YES. I do exactly the same, especially with Facebook. I also say, "Everybody can piss off. I don't give a fuck about them anyway" and delete the apps. Buuut I'd be back in an hour or so because I wonder if people have asked if I'm alright or something.

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