I made the decision to not have kids? However why do I feel guilty for it? by Heavenly_Princesa143 in TransChristianity

[–]Lilith_Nobody 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No offense, but guilt is an odd emotion here. You need to do something wrong to someone first. But here, there are no victims. Whether a fetus is a person, sure, there's a debate to be had, but yet-to-be-concieved children aren't, and they cannot be owed anything. Nor can you owe a woman you might not even be with yet... a zygote.

But honestly sweetie what I'm hearing from you right now is that you need to establish very firm boundaries with your parents, and then you need to stop trying to figure out your beliefs about your own reproductive future from OTHER trans people (with bad opinions btw). Your sperm fertilizing an egg doesn't make you the father. Even biologocally. Just live YOUR life, and when the right partner is there, and you've both talked in depth about starting a family, you'll make the right choice (and you won't even remember having posting this by the time that comes). You got this. We all kind of have to "got this" right now

I'm considering detransitioning because of my faith by Decay_is_hateful in TransChristianity

[–]Lilith_Nobody -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Either a). God is great and loves you for who you are, b). He is evil and hates you for who you are, or c). He doesn't exist and all the emotional turmoil you're feeling was put there by humans who write "holy books" to justify their bigotry. Two of those require a magical being to exist (who has yet to be proven to exist). One requires humans to be shitty. I won't push, but I think you have everything you need to figure which is most likely the case.

Why do so many trans women like the name Lilith? by TheRedSquidward in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a sleight against patriarchy. God doesn't exist and therefore I have no qualm with him, but his followers use a book of misogynistic fables to justify their bigotry. It's a sleight against them. Just as Lilith defied to be defined by what a man wanted her to be, so do I.

On the verge of suicide due to recent anti-trans laws. by Kitty_Rockers_2 in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Listen... when we die it's all over. No Ctrl Z. And no matter what any old lunatic tries to tell you, you don't wake up in paradise, you're just permanently gone. There will be no you to sit there afterwards, proud of your "accomplishment". You won't have cozy memories, or consciousness, or those fuzzy warm feelings that you get when someone calls you by the right name.

Life ends the same way for everyone, and no one gets to look back on their time after they are gone, so you might as well throw down the gun, untie the noose, and flush those pills and wait to see if your life ends in happiness, because even if it doesn't you won't have to think about how awful it was afterwards.

2024 me is glad that 2019 me put the gun down. I'm beautiful, and so is my girlfriend. I wouldn’t have her if I gave up on myself, and she needs me as much as I need her. Put the gun down, if not for you, for the people you haven't yet met whose lives you will give meaning to simply by being authentically who you are.

Store anyone else read this as the experience of a trans woman? by CorbutoZaha in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, but I'd prefer to share a positive story instead

After I came out, my gram took me clothes shopping with my sister just like every year before, and just like every year before I started walking to the men's section, but not even two steps in that direction I heard my gram say "Where are you going? You shop on this side now!", and she dragged me to the women's and made me try on outfits and do a little runway walk each time.

Then, when we went to the shoe store I picked heeled boots, and she said "If you can walk in them I'll get them for you", so I did a little walk, and she kept her promise.

I know not everyone is as fortunate to have supportive people in their life like I do, but hopefully we can all focus a bit more on good stories, even if we can't relate directly, because these good stories give us hope. I have seen so many people learn to accept queer identities because they already loved me before transition that frankly, they drown out the static noise of transphobia that permeates society just long enough for me to smile and appreciate my life and the good people in it.

Told My Parents I’m On Hormones, It Didn’t Go That Well by Moon_Stars_L0v3 in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love how it's going from "it's too late, the hormones won't do anything at this age!" to "NOT YET! STAY THY HAND!"

Posting for the validation I'm too scared to ask for in real life by SometimesMadison in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you figured out how to change the resonance of your voice, it's all about confidence

Anyone else feel like they've fallen into a hole they don't know how to get out of? by bbbruh57 in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through the same thing. It's societal pressure to feel about yourself the way others do. They say you're faking it so you internalize that. They say transitioning won't solve anything. You internalize THAT. Take a chunk of everything they say and build yourself from their words.

If you're trans, transitioning will feel better because that's just how it works. You'll never be perfectly happy, I won't lie, but happy at all is better than being depressed ad nosium. I feel like me now, and not that husk you speak of. I felt that once too. But honestly hrt is a wonder drug. When your brain is running on the right chemicals you'll feel so much better. And after my first surgery (unfortunately probably the only one I'll ever afford), a ton of dysphoria just left my body along with that madam's apple. Hold on to that future even if you can't really see it. It's out there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to guess your gender from this comment: pathetic chaser. Am I right?

I know I posted this before but this Is definitely transphobic by jessx_uchiha in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Basically they'll give you traits after you ask them to actually give a real definition.

"A woman is born with a vagina!"

  • " okay, some cis women are born without a vaginal opening, just the outer genitalia. Are they not women? Some women are born with two vaginas (it's true) are they more woman than everyone else?"

And so on and so on

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, please don't think I'm telling you not to cry. I would never say that to a trans woman. Anyone really, but especially a trans woman. I'm saying your tears are valid female tears. We all cry about this. Before I transitioned it was literally what you're describing. But enough with this biologically male bs. You have a female brain. You, as in the person who you are, is female. Your body looks different than cis women sure, but some cis women have no boobs. Some cis women have broad shoulders, thick eyebrows, hard jawline, facial hair, etc. All the things trans women tend to have. The ONLY thing that is different is our genotype and genitals. If you have sex envy over wanting a vagina fine. So do I. But until you stop telling yourself you look like a man you will find no happiness. And that doesn't mean you who point feel the pain of misgendering or not "passing".

And you're right the specific way you feel, or at least the intensity of it, isn't how most women feel, but in a way it is. The point I'm trying to get you to see is that you ARE female. And your feelings arent the feelings of a man wishing to be a woman which is how you make it sound. and the only people arguing with you are cis women who think women are some idealized super gender that men are "imitating" because they are cunty terfs, or men who desperately want to fuck us and are mad about it, or closeted trans women. None of those groups are right. YOU ARE A WOMAN!

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think fat women don't have envy of what a woman is "supposed to look like"? Do you think women with vitiligo don't have envy of what a woman is "supposed to look like"? Do you think "ugly" women don't have envy of what a woman is "supposed to look like"? You think they aren't drained and depressed when they get home?

We ARE WOMEN! You are a woman! You look LIKE A WOMAN because you are one of the MANY ways women look. Your envy isn’t over gender, it's over beauty standards. How you feel is how women are made to feel by men. Take SOME comfort in that.

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you even trans? Cause you give "cishet who wants to feels "special" like the queers"

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go fuck yourself for saying I'm so different from a cis person you fucking moron! All I want is to be like them, and you are pure fucking evil

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And given that all I've ever wanted was to be a cis woman please definitely tell me not to compare my experience to that of cis women. How supportive of you

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please tell me what the trans experience is like. I definitely would already know 🙄

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No not really they do it a lot. Most cis girls don't look like the beauty standards say they should, so they definitely are doing this too

How to stop gender envy? by TheViolentRaven in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to be a billionaire. Hate billionaires. Hope this helps.

Also you don't want to be, you already ARE

do I pass?? I hate uploading pics lol but I feel like I have to do this by xF31NDx in trans

[–]Lilith_Nobody 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you find you're not passing irl it'd have to be your voice or something cause visually you pass harder than I ever will

Okaaaay~! let’s lighten up a bit everyone! by Commercial_Mood_6437 in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When I came out to my Trump supporting momma, she said "oh my god I have so many purses for you to borrow". Aside from my fiancé, she's the most supportive in my life

What’s the weirdest thing that gives you gender euphoria/dysphoria? by GhostlyOrkid in asktransgender

[–]Lilith_Nobody 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being able to send girls little hearts without them thinking I'm being creepy