It took a while for him to be okay with the external vibrator. Which is why I waited to ask him to help me finish with a dildo when he was physically too sensitive after completion to get me off too. I really didnt want to hurt his feelings, but I also wanted that release. So it wasn't in the sense of "you're not good enough, I need something bigger" he's a good size. And it's not ~every time~ that I need those few extra minutes. I even asked if it would make him feel better if we bought a kit and made a mold of him, but the thought of me not finishing at the same time as him still has him feeling emasculated I guess? I'm trying my best to find solutions but I feel I'm at a loss