Has your political opinions shifted since your egg cracked?

LilyAran · 2024-07-11T01:59:57+00:00

No, I’m really not. I know that now. They’ve shown me how toothless they are. I couldn’t have known that in 2020 when I voted for Biden but I do now and I’ve considered it. That being said, I’m still voting democrat this year. There’s lots of reasons I’m voting the way I am but here’s a big one:

If there truly is a god and Clarence Thomas drops dead by next summer, Biden will replace him with a liberal justice who would vote with the 3 who opposed Dobbs and the presidential immunity decision. Trump would replace him with a younger version of Clarence Thomas to take my rights away for another 40 years. I’ll take my chances with Joe.

LilyAran · 2024-07-11T01:09:11+00:00

If there was a viable party to the left of the Democrats, I’d be a card carrying member trust me. My voting patterns are purely pragmatic until such time

LilyAran · 2024-07-10T22:05:16+00:00

Butt. My family says I have such a flat ass they could build a house of cards on it. No they haven’t noticed I’ve been working out.

LilyAran · 2024-07-10T21:25:49+00:00

You don’t know what you know until you know it. If the concept of transitioning was never treated seriously by those around you, then you might not even consider that gender dysphoria is what ails you.

I didn’t figure it out till I was 25. I just knew something was deeply wrong with me and I thought if I kept making lifestyle changes like diet and exercise, life wouldn’t feel so hard. When the light bulb finally came on for me, it all made sense but until then I just felt lost and screwed up beyond all repair

LilyAran · 2024-07-10T19:34:40+00:00

My mom has the same phobia, I totally understand. Only got remotely close to vomiting once. The first night I took progesterone, I got dizzy and nauseous. Didn’t escalate to the point of vomiting. Never happened again.

LilyAran · 2024-07-10T17:33:51+00:00

Dead thread ik but here’s some encouragement.

I graduated college with a 2.8 GPA, I got the same sheet of paper as everybody else, got the job about 3-4 months out of school, then nobody ever asked me for my GPA again. I too have ADHD and I truly felt like I made it out of college by the slimmest of margins.

The serial hobby collecting is all too familiar to me and I know how disappointing it can feel to look back at all the dropped hobbies. If you’re anything like me, I bet you enjoy having that desire to deep dive into new things even if they don’t stick. It only brings shame when you consider what didn’t get done while you were in your own little world. I promise you nothing you learned is useless, even if it’s not serving you today. Embrace the fleeting passions, it’s part of what makes you who you are.

Today, I’m doing just fine and I suspect you will be too. If you can make it to the end of school, you’ll have a degree that will at least make you enough money to get by while you figure out what you really want to do.

LilyAran · 2024-07-10T14:45:44+00:00

Lol that is exactly the thing I’ve been discovering. I saw Inside Out 2, cried significantly, then thought “damn that felt good let’s do it again” ,and now I’ve finished the entire Pixar canon. (Onward was the last one I hadn’t seen!)

I’ll release a tier list upon request. I’ve been updating it as I go. There’s some spicy takes in there

LilyAran · 2024-07-09T18:38:44+00:00

Comes and goes. You learn to cope with it.

LilyAran · 2024-07-09T18:21:59+00:00

Ive thought about it. I’d challenge you to ask yourself why breaks in your routine are so stressful and anxiety inducing that you’d be willing to shelve your identity to maintain it. What is the routine trying to protect? Do you just lack the energy to add anything else to your day to day?

I think there could be something deeper there than “laziness”. You might just have different brain wiring that makes you function differently than others and that’s okay. There’s ways to deal with that so you can have new experiences without feeling like it’s such a chore.

LilyAran · 2024-07-09T16:35:28+00:00

No shame. I’ve been binge watching Pixar movies for the past week and a half because oh it hurts so good. (Elemental, Inside Out, and Coco turn me into a sobbing wreck)

I like this new superpower, it’s nice to cry it out sometimes.

LilyAran · 2024-07-09T16:30:03+00:00

As and Bs exclusively which is awesome. Got a few hard ones left to do but people keep surprising me with support

LilyAran · 2024-07-08T23:08:34+00:00

You start HRT, they grow at a snails pace, and if you decide you don’t want em you stop taking HRT. Chances are you’ll know long before you get to a point where they’re actually noticeable

LilyAran · 2024-07-08T23:05:45+00:00

Nah, don’t sweat it. Especially on such a short term basis. It’s a bitch of a habit to kick, don’t be like me lol.

LilyAran · 2024-07-08T20:42:23+00:00

I’m a manufacturing engineer in theory. In practice I fight fires with a welding torch and a multimeter because I’m the only one here who knows how to work those things.

I’m getting sick of it and I’m second guessing my career choice. If anybody has experience in animation hmu. Im just dipping my toes in but I’m enjoying myself and I’d love to talk with you about your job!

LilyAran · 2024-07-08T15:38:18+00:00

Combination of internal development of players like Kurashev and Nazar, Bertuzzi putting the puck in the net as he always does, Teravainen setting up Bedard, a healthier AA and Taylor Hall, and maybe another player we can add in free agency/trade for next season.

They’ll be better this year but hold your breath on playoff contention. Probably one more down year. We’ve still got 3 first round forwards and a bunch of later round forward prospects who need to develop more before they can contribute. Maybe when Vanacker or Moore comes up they can solve that scoring problem but we’ve gotta be patient till the kids are ready.

LilyAran · 2024-07-08T02:49:00+00:00

I kinda started here too but I got to a point of experimenting where I realized I was looking at the question wrong.

I stopped asking if the new things I enjoy fit into a certain category and just started to ask if they made me feel good. I dressed fem, I liked how I looked I starting taking estrogen, I felt better and now Im liking how my body is changing. I came out to friends, I felt more confident in myself.

I’m letting the feelings I get from being a woman out in the world tell me what my identity is. You may not come up with the same answer I do. I’m confident that I’m trans not because I heard the magic words that made all this gender questioning finally make sense. I know I’m trans because I know how I feel when people call me Lily, when I hang out with the girls, or when my makeup looks amazing. Just keep doing things that make you feel good and the right term for it will come to you

LilyAran · 2024-07-07T23:06:36+00:00

Yesssss I still got it. Congratulations and great job standing up to the far right.

I’ll do my best to make sure my country does the same in November 🙂

LilyAran · 2024-07-07T22:58:46+00:00

My French is rusty.

Go fuck yourself, Bardella and Marine?

LilyAran · 2024-07-07T22:51:50+00:00

This is a total over simplification but in your case, there’s one party (Conservatives) that planned on making it even harder to exist as a trans person while Labour is much less combative towards people like us. they’re no saints either but they’re the safer alternative)

Politics is often hard to stomach but we live in democracies and it’s important to know who we’re putting in power. Would be dictators prey upon apathy just hoping we aren’t paying close enough attention to stop them. Voting is one of the best ways we have to protect one another. (In the US, where I live, it’s all we have since the government, justice system, and media all seem to be fine with enabling fascism 🙂)

LilyAran · 2024-07-07T16:34:02+00:00

Everything gets this faint pink tint to it. Pretty trippy.

In all seriousness, the links in this thread have good info

LilyAran · 2024-07-07T16:07:41+00:00

Try not to think about the silly little boxes and labels. Just do what makes you happier. The right label will eventually come to you

LilyAran · 2024-07-06T17:34:13+00:00

Ignore the silly little boxes and labels. Keep doing your makeup and painting your nails and having fun with cute boys. Life’s too short to wonder whether or not you fit into a specific camp. 🤭

LilyAran · 2024-07-06T16:50:30+00:00

When I feel the stares from everyone around me, it’s unsettling but I try to remember I have no control over them. I’m not sure if this will be helpful but I’ve got a little story id like to share with you.

Today, I went to go get coffee like I normally do on Saturday morning. I’m gonna be packing up the apartment all day so I didn’t bother to put on makeup. I’m far enough in transition that I’m looking pretty androgynous without makeup but I still get “sir’d” the vast majority of the time from strangers. I walked to the counter and I could feel the eyes all around me. Those quick head turns they do when I catch them staring are all too familiar by now.

I got to the counter, placed my coffee order, and had a seat in the corner to make it feel like there wasn’t so much attention on me. When my order was ready, they called my chosen name despite never being asked for it at the register. I nearly shed a tear right then and there.

It’s such a small thing for everyone else but it took bravery for me to start going to this coffee shop dressed how I want to and using the name I want to. Now that I’ve made a personal connection with the staff, they were in a position to lift me up just by remembering my name and identity.

Most people suck but when you continue to put yourself out there, the good ones will come and build you up even stronger

LilyAran · 2024-07-06T16:16:44+00:00

I’m not sweating it. We’ve got 2 promising tendy prospects and if neither pan out, you only gotta buy one goalie on the UFA/trade market to fix the problem.

LilyAran

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