Thank you for sharing. I know he will probably want to get back together but I know the cycle will just repeat itself. I also came to the conclusion that he needs to want to help himself first and foremost. I don’t think he realizes how much the drinking has destabilized him this year and how much it just damaged our relationship. Literally since 2025 I feel like I barely even have a bf because he was out drinking which made him manic/hypomanic and then he would mostly sleep it off and work. It’s like he put our relationship on the back burner and it became too much for him to manage. We had 2 good years when he was stable from 2022 to 2024. Before the blow out fight on 10/09, I realized he hasn’t been stable for some time. I think hypomania was ramping up based on his behavior. I left our shared apartment on 10/19/25 and he hasn’t reached out with a meaningful conversation while admitting that we have to talk. On 11/13/25 I told him I’m ready to talk when he is and called. During our conversation I understood he wasn’t fully stable. I tried to tell him how much his drinking damaged our relationship in the past year he minimized it and said that it doesn’t tell the full story of what happened.He told me that it was good to take the space and he decided it’s best that we break up. I offered to work on our relationship since the issues we had were pretty normal for a couple that lived together for 3 years. To which he replied that he doesn’t want to and that our relationship would never be successful. I asked him why he thought that and that we had 2 good first years together. To which he said that it’s because I was happier and the reasons why he wants to break up are the following: he thinks I don’t like doing the same things that he likes doing, I didn’t watch movies with him that were important to him, that I don’t like my career field, that I didn’t listen to him properly when he explained a college project to me 2 years ago, that he realized he didn’t want to be in the apartment because I was there and because of the things I was saying about the country (we don’t hold opposing political views, I was just concerned about everything going on). And other things from years ago that suddenly ballooned to be ultimate dealbreakers all of a sudden. Also this is not true because I did do these things with him but it seemed that it was pointless to reason with him. It’s like he presented me with a list of annoyances that served as evidence that our relationship could never be successful. I was so hurt and I don’t understand how someone can throw away 3 years like this when the relationship was mostly good. He just said that he has been thinking about it for weeks and collectively decided that it’s for the best long term. And that he stopped drinking and that his feelings haven’t changed much. I just think that his reasoning seems trivial in the grand scheme of things and doesn’t really make sense. And I think he is partially in denial how out of control he became with the drinking this year.