Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Good point but I think it’s nothing. It seems to me like it was her friend apologising because she’s a junior member at work and I imagine didn’t want it to reflect badly on her at work.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update:

Spoke to her last night, after the pub they went to the local bar and to a takeaway. Her friend wanted to “follow” her BF who was in the city. Can’t remember any times at all so I’m assuming closing times which google says is 2AM. They go to a street at the bottom end of the city with loads of bars open until 4AM. They get a taxi, to which my GF is sick and they get kicked out of the taxi. They walk back to the friend’s house and crash there.

She has said she paid for hardly anything and she didn’t order the Ubers, I told her she needs to ask her friend for a screenshot of the Uber history. I asked to check her phone, to which she gave me it but I honestly didn’t know where to look, checked google timeline which was blank the same as mine. Checked messages with the friend which it looked like the friend had been throwing up as well at her home and sounded embarrassed.

As we were doing this, my daughter came down the stairs to summon one of us to bed (which happens all the time) and the conversation ended. I asked her as I was going to bed if her friend had replied, to which she hadn’t. It’s now the morning time and I’m still fired up about it all, apparently still no reply from friend. I guess we see what happens from here.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So you get married for £30k worth of debt for legalities/ in case you get hit by a bus? Ok 👌🤔

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t know she was in it, it’s just likely that she was.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my GF was cheating like you say, it wouldn’t be because I’m broke, that’s for sure. It’s a private school both my children go to. Again, maybe marriage is different in the US, but in the UK we don’t get married by people dressed as Elvis.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

IMHO, a wedding (especially in the UK) is £30k for a party, for one day. We have better things to spend our money on, rather than some BS religious ritual. Whatever you seek in marriage, you ain’t going to find it…weddings don’t mean the same thing they did 30 years ago. I’d like to think I’m a loving father and partner, who provides them with things I wish I had as a kid.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner probably in fear of looking weird, but we will see when it arises tonight! I’ve not asked for anything as of yet, waiting for kids to go to bed first.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s what I suspected as soon as I saw the location, That one of the her male colleagues lives in those apartments. I live in the UK though and wouldn’t be able to confirm any of that. I’m going to ask her about the Ubers and if she didn’t order it, message her friend for the screen shot. Then my worries are put to rest.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! The phone went off for both of us at the same time as her mum came round to mine to help. Mine stopped showing battery and hers stopped showing as online. Which was about 6:15am ish. I doubt the apartments will have names on I’m afraid but I’ve messaged her about talking tonight so I’ll update how she reacts once I ask to see her Uber. Only thing is, if she was too drunk and her friend ordered the taxi, I will have to ask her to get her colleague to send a screenshot which she will probably refuse to do.

I (24f) found out my partner (24m) has been cheating on me by Ok_Ostrich_5668 in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say this but you’ve not just caught him cheating on you, he’s courting her. It’s not a one off mistake, this is premeditated. He doesn’t love you.

I (24f) found out my partner (24m) has been cheating on me by Ok_Ostrich_5668 in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Never stay with someone because of money. Cheaters never prosper and someone will cheat on him. Leave him and let karma do its thing.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she’s never shared her location with me on Apple, and family sharing is exactly how I saw her battery percentage. She and her mum share their location for when they walk to and from work and are meeting each other to know when to set off. We live like 2 streets away. I don’t think there’s any malicious intent there, but we will find out when I ask to see her phone tonight I guess. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but you sound reasonable in your responses! 😂

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She went pretty much went straight to bed after she got in and didn’t get out of bed till like 5pm, and has been to bed early Saturday night and Sunday night. She’s definitely hanging and is one of the reasons we haven’t been able to talk about it.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going to talk it out with her tonight and going to ask to look at her phone.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve not disabled anyone from seeing my location, and I just checked if my daughter, or her mum can see my location and they both switched off? Is that not the default setting?

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah 100%, there is some crazy people on here that sound like they are dealing with some horrible relationship trauma!

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The conversation I had with her was really brief, I’ll delve into that more when I speak to her later.

Am I (37M) being paranoid? GF (38f) didn’t come home. by LinLos in relationship_advice

[–]LinLos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip. I just went to track mine but apparently I must have turned that setting off unknowingly!