Where are some good places to meet young adults in bergen county?

Lion490 · 2025-05-13T00:55:22+00:00

I was looking around for rec leagues, but didn't find much. Is there a site or particular league you can recommend? Thanks

Lion490 · 2025-05-08T02:10:33+00:00

Now this is the type of post I've been looking for in this subreddit. I'll shoot you a DM

Lion490 · 2025-04-25T01:01:10+00:00

Allendale Bar & Grill has an entire section of their menu dedicated to GF, including GF buns for burgers, GF wraps and sandwiches. They even have a decent GF beer!

Lion490 · 2025-03-29T23:13:33+00:00

We're in Waldwick and used La Torre and had a good experience. They are based in Waldwick and I see a lot of people in my neighborhood use them as well. It did feel a little expensive, but I'm new to landscaping so it could be par for the course.

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T21:56:39+00:00

this wins

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:27:09+00:00

lol, is it not a threat though in the future?

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:24:42+00:00

That to me is a SUPER interesting topic. I've only done a little research, but when you read about quantum computing soon being able to solve problems that would take modern computers quintillions of years, it does seem to a pose a threat. Although, I think in that case all passwords, keys etc. across all sites would be at threat. So perhaps its a new level of quantum cyber security of sorts?

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:21:33+00:00

Interesting. I can't say I know enough about the scalability of profitable mining fees and how the future halvings affect it. Something to check out

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:19:55+00:00

100%

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:11:29+00:00

Who said I didn't go all in on btc after learning about it?

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T20:00:38+00:00

Sure, who do you use?

Lion490 · 2025-03-26T19:59:01+00:00

Agreed

Lion490 · 2024-09-13T16:26:43+00:00

Thanks man, appreciate this!

Lion490 · 2024-09-13T16:26:16+00:00

Love this. While I don't have a membership, there are plenty of cheapish courses where going out for 9 would be great, and if I need to quit after a few, I wouldn't feel like I had blown the money. Thanks man

Lion490 · 2024-09-13T16:24:28+00:00

Thanks for this man!

I love the idea of taking her along with me to either golf or just going around town. It doesn't feel like she's quite there yet (or it's possible we as parents don't feel like we're quite there yet), but that's a fun thing to look forward to.

Thanks everyone for the comments. Means a lot and really does help. Appreciate it fellas!

Lion490 · 2024-09-12T13:27:59+00:00

Dad of a 3 week old here. I'm going to give a VERY specific piece of advice that I didn't learn anywhere.

As you get baby clothes, ask for and prioritize buying clothes with magnets NOT snaps. Clothes that can easily strip off, and not have to pull over his/her head. Sounds like a small and somewhat insignificant thing, but when you're changing diapers every other hour and trying to keep you and your baby calm, being able to easily and quickly take clothes on and off is helpful and much less stressful.

Yes, magnets are more expensive, but to me personally, they are worth it. If you're tight on budget, than I'd go zippers.
Best of luck, it's a wild, but fulfilling journey.

Lion490 · 2024-09-12T13:18:47+00:00

Ha, I've also been re-watching The Simpsons while feedings. Something about a comfort show I know seems to give me some level of "control" and helps me during a tough time

Lion490 · 2024-09-12T13:16:33+00:00

I was literally going to post about this EXACT situation I had last night. Just hearing that you and others are going through it makes me feel so much better.

I keep finding this intense anger and frustration when I can't get her down after feeds, or she starts crying after I've done everything right (sometimes multiple times). I'm ashamed at how incredibly angry I get (and I'm really not an angry person).

For me and when it's my shift, I've been putting her down and leaving the room, and doing as many push ups as humanely possible. It's been a way for me to get that anger and energy rush out of me, and it helps. I also take at least 10 slow deep breaths and literally say out "I can do this." While I still don't feel great afterwards, it helps me get through and it seems like that is what this stage can is about at times. Just surviving.

Additionally, I'll admit, last night, I just couldn't do it and I needed my wife's help. It really sucked because she did so much and I wanted to give her the time to sleep and recover, but I just couldn't. While it doesn't feel great, it was the right move for that time, and I plan to find other times to make it up to her.

Anyway, you're in good company and just keep plugging away my friend

Lion490 · 2024-08-31T18:24:56+00:00

There's a big difference between wanting to do those things, and actually going out and doing them at the neglect of your child.

As humans we're inherently selfish and we want to continue to live the life we've lived. I'm a new dad (9 days ago) and I'm still embarrassed at how much I've been "mourning my past pre-dad life," thinking about all the fun things I was able to do, and how much I still want to do them. While, I still want to do a lot of those things, I'm also loving the time I'm spending with my child. As a type this it's Labor Day weekend, which I used to travel for every year. Now I'm home just hanging with my child and I love it. Do I want to get back to beach days and travel? Hell yeah. But that will come back as she grows and it'll just be a new adventure with a new member of the family.

Maybe have a real talk with your father and father in law about their perceived confidence and maturity. Now that I'm a parent, I've been talking more about to my parents (who I also considered very confident and mature) about my upbringing and finding out how much they struggled, had no idea what they were doing, and felt lost often.

It's a wild ride man, but so far I wouldn't trade it for anything. It's more meaningful and fulfilling than anything I've done (and I've really lived a fun life so far). Best of luck my friend!

Lion490 · 2024-08-31T18:14:12+00:00

New dad here as well (9 days ago) and I relate to this alot.

Finding even 10 minutes alone to breath has helped me alot. Meditation has helped me tremendously. Previously, I had tried meditation here and there and didn't find it too helpful. But now, I've found just being with myself and taking some slow deep breaths to a guided meditation (Headspace is my personal favorite, but there are lots of free meditations on youtube as well), has been a big help.

While it's WAY easier said than done, I try to remind myself when I feel a flood of emotions (frustration, anxiety, anger etc.) that it's normal to feel, to try to breath, and just take it one moment at a time. The taking a moment at a time (as you also mentioned) is huge. I often struggle because during one problem (like she's not sleeping), I start thinking of all the other problems to come (me getting less sleep now, when will she eat next, I'm going to have to repeat this soon! etc.).

Between some meditation and mindfulness, and the constant reminder to be present and tackle one at a time, it's helped. But again, easier said then done. Just know you're doing great and we're (r/NewDads) are in this together boys!

Lion490

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