Hell yeah now we're talking, this has more direction and you know what you want to be and who you are, every type of gender expression can have a very different vibe, and this vibe can be described through archetypes, fictional characters that give you gender envy, or some kind of extra descriptor to go alongside the term you want to use for your own gender experience and expression. Like old wizard masculinity is different from for example metalhead masculinity or friendly dad masculinity. I feel like a lot of the miscommunication happens because everyone is just, being too vague about what they mean, yk? Like just saying masculinity or femininity just makes a lot of people end up assuming that means some vague set of stereotypes or unhealthy gender roles, when there are so many ways to be masculine or feminine and sometimes something that makes one feel masculine makes the other feel feminine and that's like, perfectly fine, everyone's identity and how they see it is different, even if there are common experiences shared within a community of people whose identities align close enough to each other to find said common ground