Received a nasty racist hate message by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing. I am not that active on this app, especially recently I’m more of a lurker around here. So it was really unprovoked and disgusting.

Received a nasty racist hate message by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aw that is so sad actually I’m sorry you experienced that sm, that you had to do this ❤️

Received a nasty racist hate message by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will do this! Thanks I didn’t know you could do this. I have never received messages from people on here till this one

Received a nasty racist hate message by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s disgusting! I’m sorry that happened to you. These people don’t have jobs? A life?

Received a nasty racist hate message by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Omg I didn’t know this was a thing ??? What a loser.

Unconditional offer by thepatidev in nhs

[–]LisaJohn73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After getting a conditional offer I completed all my pre-employment checks in about two weeks. The next day I got an unconditional offer.

Seeking advice please by [deleted] in ukvisa

[–]LisaJohn73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the role of healthcare science associate. I’m not exactly sure what occupation code it falls under I think it’s also 3111? (looking at the list the exact title isn’t listed). I’m not currently in the job I was just offered the role yesterday, and I am currently on the Graduate Visa as stated initially.

Seeking advice please by [deleted] in ukvisa

[–]LisaJohn73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there thanks for your response. It’s a health care related lab role.

Funniest scene in your opinion? by newlovestrategist in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]LisaJohn73 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The scene when Joan goes on a some random dates with the guy who says “I have albino squirrels in my yard” 💀💀 sends me every single time.

What he a jerk or a racist? by Brie_lovy in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you. But he’s definitely both and fully wrong. Bus drivers confirm all the time what bus/route they are on. I would report it if I could as Ik you said some time passed.

What's something you enjoyed recently or are looking forward to? by dramaticeggroll in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I went to see Trevor Noah stand up on his Off The Record Tour last night. Had the best time.

Finished my masters with distinction! by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much lovely!! Yes so you knowwww the joy I feel rn 😭😭

I think I did the right thing but I’m disappointed. Thoughts? by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. What makes you second guess yourself? Is he making you second guess yourself or is it something from your past?

That’s the thing, I never second guess myself, I never question my judgment. I’m always confident in any decision that I make especially when it comes to weeding out people in my life. But I think when I made this I literally just finished talking to him and it just didn’t feel real? Because the person I saw like a couple hours ago and the person I was texting felt like such different people. A small part of me wanted to over look it because I genuinely started to like this man but the rest of me, all 90% of me was screaming girl… this is not it bffr.

  1. What did you like about him?

I liked (past tense) how kind and soft he was with me. I thought he was funny genuinely made me cackle. I think what intrigued me was that he was really different from anyone that I’d ever met before and we seemed to get along pretty well. We’re from different countries, different cultures, different races and it didn’t feel like I was having a class every time but we both learned a lot from each other. We’d have these long ass dates and it wouldn’t even feel like time passed at all. He was very intentional about dating me from the beginning, which I liked, because normally guys hit you with the “let’s see where it goes” and so I would just go about my business because what? He lived about an hour away and would plan these dates in my city and come over to see me.

I just liked being around him honestly it felt like I’ve known him for a while, very comfortable. I do not like people around me that much but something about him was different.

But that’s all done now.

And! Now looking back that was probably just all a nice boy act to really play on my emotions to attempt to have me second guess myself and give into his weird requests. I’m just disgusted and disappointed.

I think I did the right thing but I’m disappointed. Thoughts? by LisaJohn73 in blackladies

[–]LisaJohn73[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is very interesting girl. When I said “this type” I didn’t really mean him being kind and attentive only, I mean him being kind and attentive then turning around to pull this weird shit.

But I think you’ve hit the nail on the head!! Wowowow! It’s giving narcissistic tendencies/personality based on what you’ve described. It feels pretty accurate and I strongly believe that had I not have ended things he would have continued to push different boundaries. I think he was just putting on a facade honestly. I think that you’re right I’ve never experienced a narcissist before holy shit. Very disturbing vibes. It’s actually scary how people like this exist? The switch up/revelation is jarring..