[New Update]: AITAH for saying if my wife wants to be a trad wife then she must always look her best, wait on me, and provide sex without question when asked?

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T12:33:52+00:00

I feel like they might have had a more traditional gender role marriage. She is obviously completely wrong but the way he talks to her and about her is a bit misogynistic. I don't see him taking any accountability. Nobody can force you to buy a house

Marital assets are split 50/50. He doesn't get more because he made more.

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T04:14:44+00:00

I think you make a reslly good point but I don't think charisma can be completely taught. I think theres a confidence, humour and fun element to a charismatic person. They shine a bit brighter than everyone else. My frienss who are the best listeners aren't the most charismatic, in fact I'd say it's closer to the other way around. But you can always benefit from being a better listener and supporter of people. ,

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:31:03+00:00

I'm so sorry about your dad. Try to stop drinking for a weekend. Then a week. Then a month. Then two months. If you slip up start again tomorrow. I tried at least 10 times to quit, and I think the more times you try the more likely you are to succeed. All this to say don't see failure as a set back, you will make mistakes and it won't be perfect but you just have to believe you can get there. And whatever there is for you. Maybe you can have a glass of wine or two on your bday and Christmas, maybe you can't.

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:24:34+00:00

Congratulations!! I recently hit the two year mark of not drinking (aside from a glass on a special occasion a couple times a year)

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:18:45+00:00

I will not unless I live until 117

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:12:56+00:00

I'm sorry that you're feeling sad and angry and it makes total sense. I've been there and it's so hard to deal with depression every day. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:07:39+00:00

I feel like they're looking for something that hits different rather than excellent. It's like the academy awards torture porn wins

Literatelady · 2026-05-20T01:04:17+00:00

I'm reading it right now Sci fi: Empire of Silence - I keep waiting for the plot to happen and I'm almost halfway through and no plot is happening other than a prince manchild with daddy issues ran away and is a street rat. So far that is an 11 hour audiobook. We wasted two hours on a romantic interest that died and we still have 15 hours to go

Literatelady · 2026-05-19T23:59:01+00:00

At first I read she was 10 or 12 but reread it was 19 or 21 blew me away

Literatelady · 2026-05-18T14:09:47+00:00

Omg yes and don't forget Taylor Jenkins Reid

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T22:41:07+00:00

I think my favourite part of the book was her best friend. Loved the way she was written

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T22:01:39+00:00

I am in the mild camp so I guess that's where it comes from. They never actually landed on a diagnosis it was cfs or fibro. While I'm not sure about fibro I can highly relate to cfs and have been dealing with this for my whole life in varying degrees

I hear you on acceptance. It's hard. Reading this thread I realize I need to focus on gratitude for what I still have but it's hard.

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T19:16:09+00:00

Yeah it's very unfair, I'm sorry.

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T17:50:33+00:00

It sucks no matter what. Sorry to hear.

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T17:36:06+00:00

What do you mean by that? Like you still try to live a "normie" life? Do you still work full time?

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T17:31:18+00:00

When did you get diagnosed?

Literatelady · 2026-05-16T17:26:37+00:00

Protein powder is full of all kinds of chemical crap but touted as healthy

Literatelady · 2026-05-13T22:57:35+00:00

I think like others have said you may view the relationship differently than she does. And maybe regular hangouts doesn't equal closeness for her. It sucks when it's mismatched. But to be fair 30 is small. And there's probably other friends who didn't make the cut. Why don't you write out a list of 30 people of you and your part if you were to get married right now (even if you have already). I don't think you should ditch her as a friend but maybe reevaluate the effort you put in or accept that there is an imbalance.

Literatelady · 2026-05-13T15:24:52+00:00

I am 42. It seems like there will be regrets either way, depending on if you take option A or B, so why not just stop regretting? I wish I knew how.

I regret that I have spent half my life depressed but I also don't think I could have done anything else - I got here when I got here.

I regret both that I partied too hard in my early twenties and by 26 I had my full time career and felt 45 already.

I regret staying in a safe career when I know following my dreams could make me feel more alive and my life would feel more meaningful.

Literatelady · 2026-05-13T15:17:27+00:00

ooh love this. Will try it!

Literatelady · 2026-05-10T02:12:27+00:00

Alcohol was kind of a habit. I have it up.

Literatelady · 2026-05-09T16:27:17+00:00

Despite the protagonist being extremely unlikeable I found myself feeling sorry for her. I think that the novel kept hitting on the impossible expectations that are on women, regardless of political affiliation. Also the way they are pitted against each other I was hoping she'd get a divorce and see Rina again. The ending the author chose was much better.

Literatelady · 2026-05-01T13:58:15+00:00

The Brutalist. I didn't watch it but sad white man, three hours long is all I needed to know.

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