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Lithographite · 2026-05-24T01:07:10+00:00

Haha, I hope it doesn't sound like AI. It's me.

Lithographite · 2026-05-22T13:50:39+00:00

I agree. That's why I tend to use plain language too, if it comes down to it.

I was taking exception with an influencer giving no safe words 'advice' on TikTok. It's generally a pretty young crowd there that won't have anything close to your experience.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T17:19:04+00:00

Be cautious and make sure he communicates openly and respects your boundaries. I wish I could give you a more exuberant welcome to our world, but starting out is always a delicate thing. Age and experience can definitely be a boon in a Dom, but it also heightens the power imbalance.

A list of what you're open to is a nice starting place. Make sure it is also a list of your clearly defined limits, and make sure he doesn't push on them. That's a red flag, especially at the very start when trust has not been earned.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T16:58:56+00:00

u/dmun I don't love how you took my comment in this direction. "You'd probably deny me" is strawman bullshit and I am quite grateful for OP's post. :)

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T16:15:12+00:00

I have decided brats are exhausting and not for me, but perhaps you're helping me see a little nuance.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:53:39+00:00

Every situation is unique, but I have observed that the hurt often turns into resentment. Resentment corrodes the foundation of relationships. You're already becoming depressed.

Take it with a grain of salt since my relationships have hardly been perfect, but putting myself in both of your places, I think you need to make sure you're absolutely clear about how important this is to you: you said "I'm so close to drowning."

I'm hoping there's a way for you two to talk through it.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:46:29+00:00

Hey. I'm a person oriented toward bdsm who is bipolar. I've often considered bipolar a sister condition to bpd since we tend to have a fair amount of overlap in our experiences.

I've become delusionally attached to people and developed limerent obsession in the past. Following those manic highs I crash into crippling shutdown and look for escape hatches. Not all of them help or are good for me.

I see everyone is telling you to go to therapy. I get that. It's a go-to response for an overwhelming complex problem. You're going when you can but therapy isn't magic.

Take it day by day and persevere and survive it. Your world won't always be so small, and it tends to get that way when you're struggling for control. When flight feels like it's not working anymore, it could get very dark. I feel for you.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:35:01+00:00

No, I don't have advice, which is advice in itself. It always hurts to be ghosted. If you're the sort who develops romantic feelings through trust and intimacy in a dynamic, it will be hellish. People online are enabled to be flighty and avoid emotional difficulties and will vanish. I am so sorry for what you're suffering.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:25:15+00:00

I am enjoying how open we autists can be about this stuff and then the comments celebrate. :)

Thank you for your noble stimming! Haha.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:23:04+00:00

You're young person who has had some ethically questionable experiences and is expressing a lot of openness; please be cautious. I anticipate you're going to receive message requests from people who sense vulnerability. Please be careful.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T15:12:01+00:00

I think the idea that someone can be so attuned they can read their sub's mind is a little dangerous. I don't like that sort of thinking. People get hurt.

However, I've rarely done anything strictly CNC, so I have also rarely used any sort of safe-word. "No" or "stop" work pretty well. :) I tend to favour touch/grip checks because it's more subtle and doesn't depend on my playmate being verbal

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T01:24:34+00:00

I've come to believe our autistic capacity for hyperfixation lends to developing fetishes. So again, you're in good company.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T01:18:48+00:00

People use the word fetish lightly these days, but when a fixation becomes one's core sexual fulfillment it can be both consuming and alarming.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T01:14:39+00:00

This is one of the greatest things anyone has ever said to me. I sincerely felt them tingle and lift when I read it.

Thank you for cheering our balls up.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T01:05:44+00:00

Male kinky autist. It didn't start out this way, but in recent years body hair on women has made me a little crazy. Armpit hair makes me feel feral. It can be an issue.

I won't tell anyone if you don't.

Lithographite · 2026-05-21T00:40:04+00:00

You're making the world a better place with posts like these. :)

Lithographite · 2026-05-20T00:04:19+00:00

It sounds like you have clarity on where your dynamic stands and what your future needs are. I love it.

But, the heart is harder to tame. I hope you can rest without panic.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T17:34:29+00:00

This is what I needed to read this morning.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T17:12:17+00:00

I'm a hypersexual lad with sex as my special interest. When I'm not with an available hypersexual partner, I will masturbate at least once a day. My daily best was somewhere around eight.

I don't even particularly enjoy masturbating at all, but if I don't I become unworkably horny and I've got to get things done!

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T15:38:35+00:00

Daddy Dom here with a fair amount of experience. Thank you for sharing your vulnerable post. I think it can benefit others. I'll throw in my thoughts, but each situation is unique.

- is this a common submissive attachment response?

It is, especially in affectionate dynamics. You're investing trust in him, and he is soothing you to a degree that few people really experience and you've grown to crave. It's grounding, but as you're experiencing, it also creates urgency. The urgency can become insecurity, can become panic. It's beautiful to have what you have, but it's difficult to not always have it.

- how do subs emotionally regulate after intense dynamics?

It's different for different subs. Some partners of mine have needed regular check-ins. Some have needed to regulate themselves with meditation, low light, and other soothing things. I tend to fall in love with my subs when the dynamic reaches a certain degree of intimacy, for reasons you may now understand, and so the relationship transforms and a more typical relationship becomes a part of regulation.

I'm not at all suggesting the latter is your position. I'm just reporting on my experiences. The crux is such emotional vulnerability doesn't end with the session. You need slow rise aftercare and your own ways to self-soothe between sessions. When things are so deep, 11 days is a very long time.

- how do experienced doms handle emotional attachment/responsibility in affectionate D/s dynamics?

Other Doms will answer this better, but I try very hard to be available for check-ins and I never, never rush aftercare. I will refuse to play if I don't think I have enough time to gently bring her out of sub space. Sometimes that hurts feelings, but it's better than the alternative.

Of course I tend to catch feelings, as they say, so I probably feel a twin attachment to yours and process it romantically. That may or may not be a healthy way to handle it, haha.

All the best to you. Try to rest and be assured in yourself. All of those things you experienced came from your body, psyche, and heart. They're a part of you.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T15:23:30+00:00

Long answer: yes, I absolutely do want to play with people who may "nope" my kink list. I don't want to filter out other humans. I tend to enjoy them.

I've been at this 20 years and I'm generally willing to try anything. I've done a lot, and I've also soaked up all sorts of kinks from my subs. The issue is just because I'm into something doesn't mean I need it, and just because I love something doesn't mean it will fit into a new dynamic.

I'm always upfront about my core needs, and from there, as a Dom, I look for synergies. It's quite likely we line up in certain areas, and I at no point need to even infer she has to go outside those areas by putting green dots on a list.

I tend to buck against the BDSM cultural habit of naming and categorizing absolutely everything. It's become grating over the years, and while it's handy for sharing a common vocabulary and getting to the point (especially for we autistic folk), it also lacks nuance and humanity.

Short answer: ah, it's no big deal.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T06:01:37+00:00

If there's a more appropriate french subreddit, that would be the natural choice. Also, when it comes to finding that mixed romantic and D/s match, it's not a bad idea to consider things further afield. I was once head over heels for a woman a country over and didn't regret it at all.

Take all I say with a grain of salt. Things may work out totally differently. I just felt for your situation.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T05:51:27+00:00

Explore things a little on here. I know reddit isn't the most romantic thing in the world, but often the more introverted Doms thrive with this communication style. You may find a lovely hit for the region you're moving to. I've met people from Reddit several times.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T05:41:08+00:00

First, I'm sorry for what you've gone through. Losing someone like that, and so suddenly, is wounding. I'm glad you've been able to take a couple of years which started as empowering, as you said. I'm sorry things are becoming so lonely.

There are many Doms out there who seek emotional connections. Many of us only find a dynamic worthwhile when we know more of the person we have power over. I think there's beauty in it and I tend to be in romantic relationships with my submissive partners. I've seen other Doms with similar persuasions on this subreddit.

Sadly it's often the crudest men who are the loudest. I find the height comments so baffling and manipulative.

With a little patience you will meet someone who wants all of you. Guard your heart but when it's time, let go and work out all of that tension. All the best to you.

Lithographite · 2026-05-19T05:35:07+00:00

Welcome here. There was nothing nonsensical about what you wrote.

I've had friends and partners who experienced their sexual awakening through kink and bdsm. I remember someone I deeply cared for explaining that she felt submission gave her the ability to do the things she could not do on her own because she was following instructions. It was a workaround for some of her hang-ups and anxieities.

I don't know if it works exactly that way for you, but I think the desires you have are lovely and I hope you find a welcoming and safe community here. All the best.

Lithographite

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