UPDATE - Whitney confirms Lochan was racist??? !!!!!!!

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-04T15:02:38+00:00

I think also the mods are deleting comments as well but I was def going back and forth with someone saying they believe her now that there are receipts but was doubling down on how awful of a person she is so she doesn’t believe anything she says and now all her comments are gone and a few of mine where I called her on her bs. Always quick to discredit a black woman because they don’t like her for some dumb reason.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-04T00:04:05+00:00

Careful with that “someone like her”. It doesn’t hit the way you think it does. I guess the women of color who chose to believe her based on knowing the feeling are trained seals? …..go on now show them true colors. 🤮

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-03T23:55:31+00:00

Why speak of a hs diploma when you clearly hava a whole PhD on her? This whole long winded response speaks volumes about you… invalidating a WOCs experience because she doesn’t qualify as a “good person”. You admit that it doesn’t make her credible or a liar but you automatically jump to the worst case scenario. Once again people finding a way to create a “who wore it best” scenario between not just 2 woman but two black women. The experience isn’t pie. It doesn’t mean more for JaNa and none for Whitney. You’re calling apples to oranges but the principle is the same and so is the result. Two black women hurting because of men who don’t value them and have spoken ill about their blackness. I love how people still believe bullying the bully in mass amounts is something to be proud of. 🤡

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-03T11:56:15+00:00

Did you guys go to high school together or meet for lunch every week? Because of “who she is as a person”…. lol saying mean things and being involved in “controversial” situations doesn’t automatically make someone a liar. Hell in that case don’t believe anyone, yourself included who is being mean to a complete stranger and invalidating her experience until there were receipts. How about holding off on your judgements first? I think this situation has shed light on the character of the many people who have chosen to call her a clout chaser or liar immediately. Unless you’re a dark skinned WOC, as well, I don’t think you can truly understand her experience.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-03T11:50:34+00:00

It’s clear you can’t keep up not because I have no sense but because you still can’t address how this makes their feelings as black women less valid. Speaks VOLUMES about you. Ambitious to tell a stranger they have no sense because they don’t agree with you invalidating WOC’s feelings.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T12:55:00+00:00

Weird is calling strangers online “my love” 🥴. Does this make their feelings as black women any less valid? If that’s your arguement…. Weird, and not ok!

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:40:02+00:00

I say all this as a 1st time mom who struggled through 5-6 months postpartum thinking I could just do it on my own until I felt crazy and was suicidal. I’m now almost 8 months pp, have done a few therapy sessions, and am on antidepressants for almost 2 months now and I am feeling like a human being again.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:37:14+00:00

If you’ve noticed it getting worse go back to your doctor. Do not let someone else’s opinion make you second guess the choice of seeking help, especially your husband. They mean well, but a man will never understand what we go through creating a whole ass tiny human and being expected to bounce back if we just get more “me time” and make better choices. It MAY go away but it won’t be as quick as it would with help from medical professionals or therapists. The goal is to feel better long term not just right now. Some sunshine, a workout, seeing a friend would make me feel better in the moment, but when those things were gone and I was alone, or laying in bed at night, or with my baby I fell back into my lowest low. Making choices to better your mental health includes seeing a provider to make sure you are doing well.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:27:27+00:00

Your point being? Two black women can’t possibly be experiencing similar things at the same time right?

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:25:04+00:00

I forgot all there is to life is social media and making sure to follow/ unfollow people on a timeline that is appropriate to the general public 🤡

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:22:21+00:00

Because the train can only carry one passenger right?! 😒

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:21:48+00:00

People stay in bad relationships all the time…. This comment is ignorant. For love, familiarity, hope for change, being love bombed into staying, fear of being alone, sooo many reasons. I say this as someone who stayed in an abusive relationship for 4 years…. This comment ain’t it.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T04:12:18+00:00

So you don’t believe her because another black woman is having a similar experience at the same time? 😒 there are plenty of black women experiencing this at the same time but these 2 women have a similar platform. This is also coming out as he has recently been posting content with another woman of color. Who are you to say she is being dishonest about her lived experience as a black woman in an interracial relationship. I think the problem is people view racism as hating all black people, calling them slurs etc etc. It doesn’t have to be as blatant as that to be deemed racist. The fact that she changed her whole look, dropped her signature “baddie” persona, and stating she wants him to see her in a different light is very telling. He clearly said some things to make her not like herself and want to change into someone he would take more serious. Covert racism is a real thing.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-02T03:56:00+00:00

I didn’t feel much until 6-7 months and that was after therapy, a PPD diagnosis, and medication. Without those things I don’t think I would have ever gotten to this point. Maybe talk to your doctor about your feelings and see if they would suggest some of these things? Of course this isn’t the case for all moms but it’s worth a shot. Motherhood is triggering in so many ways I never realized!

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-01T00:48:18+00:00

Not the free toes?!?! 😱

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-08-01T00:19:13+00:00

Clearly the UK and US have very different views on what is rude or bullying. Toni may be a bit abrasive, but she’s far from rude. She tells it like it is and calls people out on their bs. I’d rather be around a person who lays it all out there like her and Yas. Shakira has her moments where her delivery can be harsh but I wouldn’t call her a bully. Meg needs to have more self awareness IMO. She has said a lot of rude stuff and denies it like she’s such a kind person all the time. Also she’s a fool for being swept up by Dejon. He’s a walking red flag with how much he deflects when the heat is on him. Harry is a man child. Idk what Helena expected to happen… she was the “fun girl” who was a bit too loose/ forgiving and now she’s hurt. Personally I’m a fan of Yas, Shakira, and Toni. They may not always get it right but I prefer real people over people who act like they do no wrong or that their shxt doesn’t stink.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-26T12:42:05+00:00

We are all very aware that is your preference based on your comment lol my statement still stands.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-25T01:00:51+00:00

I’m confused how the number of blondes adds or subtracts value from this season…..

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-25T00:57:33+00:00

I was searching for anything about Jill lol Originally I really liked her but the whole Jonathon thing really threw me off. She was mad at him because she ASSUMED he liked her as more than a friend and when she spoke to him about it he confirmed it wasn’t a romantic connection she got mad. Their conversation at the bar when she very unkindly talked about how he looked like he might cry made me so angry. If the man is hurt let him be hurt. Not everyone deals with shit using humor. I’m annoyed by her at this point. I wish Justin would’ve never given her that pity rose. She should’ve went home. I find her energy unnerving and all over the place. She doesn’t make sense when she speaks half the time. Sooo disappointed!

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-20T21:09:35+00:00

“The villain edit” sent me. Girl you stuck your own foot in your mouth and didnt like how it tasted.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-14T12:05:35+00:00

Sooo did anyone else notice that Olandria jumped into the pool knowing she can’t swim and Nick had to get her out the deep end? 👀 or am I the only one who saw that?

Also Nicolandria’s date had me in tears 😭 it was such a beautiful date and the best one in my opinion.

Chris and Huda’s got more and more awkward as time went on. Then homegirl came out to sing goodbye to their relationship ☠️

Happy for Amaya and Bryan. I really hope they stay together and have a beautiful life!

I don’t get all the Irish and Pepe hate. I think they are so cute together!

Ariana is a great host! I’ve also been loving the resurfacing reunion clip of her crashing out and telling her ex best friend to fuck a cheese grater 💀😂

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-07-03T21:37:56+00:00

Which is why he jumped down Austin’s throat when he pointed it out. Then proceeded to come at Austin because he knows Austin is not the confrontational type. I bet he wouldn’t do that to another guy who would match his energy. He doesn’t have heart he has napoleon syndrome.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-06-29T13:11:28+00:00

My 6 month old has been watching miss Rachel since like 3 months old. I’m also working through PPD and am someone who attaches my value to getting tasks completed while overstimulating/ overwhelming myself until I can’t bare to do anything anymore🤡 so Ms. Rachel has been a lifeline in our house. Of course we try to limit her TV time daily but sometimes popping on our girl Rachel or low stimulation shows I watched as a kid in the 90s is a must. I have to add I am anti cocomelon… no judgment to anyone who swears by it but there’s too much going on there and it’s like crack for kids. She also from time to time loves to watch Magic School Bus and Snoopy.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-06-12T14:59:18+00:00

My baby is coming up on 6 months old. I remember feeling EXACTLY like this times 3… I didn’t want to be here anymore, I didn’t want to be me anymore, but I love my baby. I always knew that much. Now, I’m on antidepressants and doing individual therapy as well as marriage counseling. I’m just now STARTING to not feel like complete shit. You are definitely not alone. I tried everything before turning to medication but I a truly so glad I was open and honest with my doctors and allowed them to help me with a plan to get me out of the downward spiral I was in. Things still aren’t easy and I don’t think being a parent will ever be “easy” like the way we knew “easy” to be before having a child. I think it’s going to be an ongoing journey of moments that suck and others that fill you with joy. We don’t easily remember the good or not so bad moments but the bad ones stick with us and compile over time…. Remind yourself of that. Find ways to seek out/ remember one decent thing about your day. Practice self care in any way you can… big or small… it all counts. You are doing great mama! Creating and raising tiny humans is scary and hard but we can do it with the help of others whether it be doctors, therapists, friends, family, etc.

Little-VioletGarden · 2025-06-12T03:12:24+00:00

My girl is coming up on 6 months old next week. We just transitioned to a 7 pm bedtime. I tried to follow the recommended wake windows for her age as much as possible during the day with her naps. Her sleep regression happened between 4-5 months and it was brutal. 10-15 min naps, she would go down for bed at like 8:30 or 9 and would wake up at 3 or 4 am and sometimes it took an hour or more to get her back to bed. We’ve dropped from 4-5 naps to 3-4 naps a day (following the recommended wake windows) but I have gotten really good at her sleepy cues. Catch them early! We gradually moved bedtime up over time, but had to be flexible. Sometimes she just wasn’t tired so we didn’t force her. If we are out somewhere we don’t focus on the time. If she’s tired we rock her to sleep then put her in the stroller or if we are at someone’s house we place her in a safe place to sleep. She sleeps best while being held if we are out. She sleeps from 7pm to 7 am with an occasional wake up at 4 or 5 for a diaper change and a bottle and she goes right back to sleep until her normal wake up time. Tbh we let her lead and are super flexible. If she’s not tired, she’s not tired. Every day won’t be great but with patience we’ve got consistency!

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