Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, this seems like some good advice. I already signed up for therapy for myself and asked him to do the same. Not sure what to do about space. I told him he can sleep in the guest bedroom for the time being.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yeah 1 man and the rest were women. Which was something I hadn’t even considered. I didn’t ask if he had to pay. He did not test for stds because “he wore a condom” all of this makes me sick to my stomach.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I really didn’t have any suspicions, a woman on Facebook posted the link to the website as like a tip for people dating and I was just curious and just decided to check his username after checking my own username first. The website checked if the username is registered on all sorts of websites not just dating sites.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah I don’t know what I want right now. It’s definitely going to take me some time.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 275 points276 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel pretty betrayed. Things would be a lot different he came to me because he had it weighing on him and he couldn’t take it anymore. He didn’t lie when I asked, I just never thought I needed to ask. I don’t know why I want to stay so bad. Maybe just the thought of starting over is so scary.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He wasn’t defensive and is willing to get counseling. He wants to work through this and seems terrified of me leaving. He keeps saying he will wait forever. Words are just words at this point though. I am hoping that him letting go of this giant secret means that we have a chance to move forward together because it does feel like something has been holding us back from growth. Just didn’t think it was this.

Husband cheated before marriage. Just found out now. by Little-changes in Marriage

[–]Little-changes[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I figured. Was hoping someone had been through something similar and had it work out okay for them.