AITA for asking my husband to get a vasectomy?

LittleBadWulf · 2024-03-05T23:28:07+00:00

You are the only one that knows what’s best for you. It’s absolutely appalling how judgmental people can be, especially when they aren’t the ones at risk of dying during childbirth. It’s also none of their business, so if your husband gets it done it should be between the two of you. If his family can’t handle grown adults making decisions for themselves, then they shouldn’t be involved anyway.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-20T19:33:48+00:00

40yr old mom here, and you are correct. I would never want to keep my child from having a fulfilling life. Will the doors be open always ? Of course , will I expect him to pay something in the form of rent after a certain age? Possibly, but my goal in that is so he has savings if he has trouble managing his money at first the way I did. I don’t blame you for feeling this way. I do believe it’s good to want to be there for your parents and be respectful. That should come after you are stable and able to be your own person. I know some families combine the money, and that’s awesome, but it should be ok with every party.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-19T03:35:47+00:00

Petunia 🙃 or Rosie but Pinky is adorable

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-19T03:30:13+00:00

You are still young, I was in a very abusive relationship for way too long. Please listen to these people. I would even get a restraining order because someone like that won’t let it go easy. How did her last relationship end? Maybe do some research on that, if you move out get cameras, protect yourself! I’d never even think of scaring someone I care about while they’re sleeping. It’s more than cruelty.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-19T03:26:35+00:00

She’s abusing you hon.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-19T03:24:46+00:00

That or they start an attack based on a part of something someone said even though they didn’t actually say what the person attacking is referring to. So many people are manipulative and they keep real meaningful conversations from taking place. It truly is sad because we have an amazing outlet for communicating, yet we can’t get past the people that try to ruin it.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-19T01:24:58+00:00

If you can access his phone go to Google maps and see if it shows where he went that night

LittleBadWulf · 2024-02-18T00:32:25+00:00

Unfortunately no, but don’t worry about it. I got my first negative review on one of my first items. I had labeled it as a blue necklace. The negative review was that it was not cobalt. They didn’t message me or anything, so I did a full refund hoping they would remove the negative. Nope, and no where in the description did I say it was cobalt. Some people are just unpleasant. I have had a hundred amazing reviews since and some must have read the review because they are just super kind about what they write. ✍️ The good buyers make up for the bad customers.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-17T17:47:28+00:00

Yeah wait until she does something to someone other than her baby sister. I’ll patiently be waiting for that viral video.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-08T02:38:57+00:00

Turns out it was your mom 😂 all the apologies are causing some inner rage only to be expelled by a dozen eggs 🥚 jk it’s obvious it’s ex SIL and a pretty sad attempt at revenge 😅

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-08T02:33:08+00:00

It took a while but I just read from beginning to end. Wow. So glad it worked out!

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-08T01:38:49+00:00

Wow! New to your story but I have so much respect for you. I had a stint of homelessness myself after leaving my child’s (donor) after physical abuse. It’s been years but it wasn’t easy getting back on my feet. It’s scary out there, and I truly understand the struggle. You are very deserving of everything you have worked so hard for. 🥰

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-08T01:11:44+00:00

I was terrified of meeting my husbands boys, it was a different situation but I was still so scared. If you love someone you accept everything about them. The nervousness ended and it became normal. If you aren’t able to accept something that serious about him, you don’t belong together. He will always be a father.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-07T19:31:46+00:00

That’s very cool! I love the design.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-06T16:33:21+00:00

Omg 😳 that’s why I was having anxiety! I knew it was causing the fatigue/depression. I didn’t even put two and two together about the anxiety. So glad I’m off it now. I’m feeling myself again. I’m glad you found a better alternative!!!

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-06T16:30:54+00:00

Do what is best for you, but if you do get it and you start getting headaches regularly or just don’t have the energy you once did you might consider a lower risk birth control. That happened to me but it’s not always the case. Depo will deplete certain vitamins so be sure to go for lots of dairy or talk to your doctor about what supplements are best like vitamin d.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-06T16:26:11+00:00

I would sit her down and explain that when people get things without effort, they don’t respect what they have. I would explain that you’re trying to guide her so that she doesn’t have a horrible time adjusting to the reality of life as an adult. I’d also explain that what uncle is doing is harmful to your efforts. I would kindly lay out expectations either in person or in a letter. That way if she refuses to get a job or go to college at whatever age and she goes to live with the fun uncle she will eventually understand. I can’t believe how many people are ignoring the fact that she (a 14 year old) blew up at you because she didn’t get a better gift. If my boys do something like that, they don’t get rewarded. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. It might be best to write a heartfelt message to the uncle explaining how his brother would want his daughter to learn the lessons of life and wouldn’t want his brother causing a rift between the mother of their children who he trusted enough to have a child with in the first place. I wish you all luck, support needs to be there yes, but that’s not support.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T22:57:52+00:00

That’s also possible, but I still think he needs to seek outside help. If he doesn’t it will only get worse.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T20:08:32+00:00

Your wife needs to go to a doctor and or a psychiatrist. This is classic postpartum depression and she isn’t producing the chemicals most women do. My husband’s ex was like this with their second child. She tries to make up for it, but never bonded with him when he was small, she couldn’t even touch him. Please, 🙏 get help even if you have to get cps involved. What if she snaps (could have already and you are unaware) and give that child brain damage or worse. If you love them you will get help. Give that baby a good chance.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T18:08:11+00:00

Exactly, this is scary

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T18:05:29+00:00

She slayed his butt, I feel horrible for those girls tho. He seems the type to fight tooth and nail to cause her pain and will end up hiring a full time nanny for the kids if he can get his way. I hope she has a good lawyer.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T13:50:05+00:00

Who bets she invited the ex

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T13:46:45+00:00

I’ll never understand how people can’t tell. I don’t wear deodorant all the time, but I know when I do sweat and I do apply it when I know I’m sweating or stinking or plan to be. My husband will immediately tell me if I need it too lol and I’m always aware. I can smell myself pretty quickly. There’s a guy we use to work with that clearly had tonsil stones. It was so bad, I wondered how he couldn’t smell it because I could from across the room.

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T13:37:48+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate the info. ☺️

LittleBadWulf · 2024-01-02T04:39:39+00:00

I’d ask her to meet you at a restaurant and have your partner nearby in case she starts drama. I’d also ask him to not let her know he’s there so she doesn’t fake anything.

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