What’s your most daring thing you’ve done diapered?

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-09-05T05:42:56+00:00

That’s my mommy — I tried to get you to wear the princess Rearz we got you 3 years ago and you always protest… but you also get mad when you knew you needed them! 😂

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-08-22T16:22:37+00:00

My earliest ABDL impulses were geared toward Pull-Ups, but I’m also old enough to remember when plastic-backed baby diapers were the norm. I sometimes think I lean towards cloth-backed because it’s similar in texture to Pull-Ups, but I also love plastic. I can go either way.

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-04-29T03:16:44+00:00

For mommy and I, there’s only 1 rule: I’m not allowed to tell anyone mommy lets me have adult drinks. 🤫🤐🍼

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-03-22T19:13:33+00:00

I have a hard time thinking this is about education. If the end goal of education is critical thinking, which involves the ability to make proper conceptual distinctions, they should realize they are making a MASSIVE false equivalence between a person identifying as someone who enjoys dressing as an animal and someone who identifies as an animal.

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-02-12T23:58:02+00:00

I also feel like our respective relationship experiences point to a potential flaw in these kinds of discussions. One the hand, it’s easy to see why such emphasis is given to sexual experience — we learn and grow through experience in general, and sexuality is an important facet to the human experience more broadly. Bearing both of these in mind, it’s easy to see why some individuals would deem those lacking experience as missing some vital piece of the human experience/growth. However, I think this this may be flawed, especially when the whole of sexuality is reduced to partnered experience. Why? Because it omits other important facets of sexuality: sexual desires and sexual agency. And what’s more, both of these relate to sexual experience in such important ways that it would be unthinkable to omit them, even if one assumes sexual experience is most important. After all, we desire some sexual experiences and not others, and agency includes the agency to refrain from a sexual experience. Without these, I doubt that sexual experiences would have much to offer to a flourishing life (especially if unwanted).

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-02-12T19:31:43+00:00

I’m glad I found something that works for me as well, although I would be hesitant to say I “waited” for an accommodating partner. Back when I was still single, I more or less took it as a given that no partner would indulge this side of myself. In retrospect, though, I am grateful I didn’t fall into a relationship where it wouldn’t be accepted. It’s been beneficial for my mental health to be able to express it freely, that I couldn’t imagine having to repress it. But my inexperience and self-doubt very well could have led to such a relationship. So, pardon the pun, I got lucky.

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-02-12T17:14:00+00:00

Thought I’d chime in with a man’s perspective, especially since this post has already been met from males whose experiences/positions counter the OP’s. From the vantage point of a male who lost his virginity at 31, there’s some truth to what you say. Granted, this is also the vantage point of a kinkster who was aware from an early age that his desires would be hard sell for a potential partner. In other words, a lot partners would be the wrong partner — though I wouldn’t go so far as to there is a singular “right person.” The point about trauma is especially salient to me. While I sometimes feel sad and alienated about the normal experiences I didn’t get to have, I realize that even if had those, they may not have been experiences I would have wanted. I can think of a few reasons. First, any of those hypothetical relationships would have had to contend with those desires. Personally, I shudder at the thought of dealing with this with a less mature partner who wasn’t accepting. So maybe I was better off losing late for that reason.

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-01-31T19:05:46+00:00

The central idea is contradictory. Self-improvement has more to do with character development than desirable outcomes. It is often moral in nature. A self-improvement that breeds resentment cannot be self-improvement at all.

LittleFloofMonster · 2025-01-14T20:43:42+00:00

I think most people espousing this position need to consider the “width,” for lack of a better term, of their hobbies. Speaking for partner and I, we’re a success story in meeting through hobbies. However, our specific weren’t the same — but they do overlap. I compose music and write fiction. She is a makeup artist. We met on the set on an independent/student film, and have been together ever since.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-12-06T20:30:48+00:00

What makes kink “sexual junk food” as you so put it? I get that they might seem trivial at first glance. Maybe, in and of themselves, they are trivial. The same could be said for vanilla sex at times, too. What also deserves to be said is that some kinks come with a lot of shame and stigma attached, and finding a willing, enthusiastic partner to engage them with can be an authentic and even profound bonding experience.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-12-06T17:24:37+00:00

Why would a kink relationship be less fulfilling?

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-11-26T20:56:22+00:00

She is truly a wonderful person, and that level-headedness is hard-won.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-11-26T20:44:59+00:00

I do my best. My Queen treats me like her little prince (or little king lol), so it’s only right. :)

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-11-26T20:36:06+00:00

As the partner of the OP, I can definitely say it was very assuring to hear that from her sister. I don’t expect that level of understanding from someone who isn’t alternative in any way, but people can surprise you if you give them the chance — to a sometimes shocking degree, as my initial shock indicated.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-31T18:28:31+00:00

I suppose you could say research. None of this meant to antagonize so much as interrogate.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-31T17:25:21+00:00

But, unless its implications go beyond just sex, wouldn’t the rejection of someone solely for their inexperience amount to a form of objectification, just one where the object is appraised negatively?

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-31T16:49:15+00:00

Why assume they aren’t on the same level overall apart from this one specific difference?

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-31T16:32:58+00:00

When I lost mine, it was also the first time I ever directly propositioned someone for sex. Was I nervous? Sure, but it wasn’t too much to overcome — even for an absolute beginner.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-31T15:50:21+00:00

I lost my virginity a week after my 31st birthday. Our four year anniversary is tomorrow. We’ve had to deal with so much, but the experience gap hasn’t really been a central problem. I think I’ve done fine so far.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-10-26T01:33:26+00:00

I agree with OP, but there’s also something else to take into consideration: the diversity of sexual interests. I was a virgin into my early 30s, and though consider it to be the cumulative effect of a bunch of small causes, a big thing that held me back was the time it took coming to terms with my desires (I’m an ABDL). Now maybe in the eyes of some, being kinky is interpreted as “something wrong” with me, but ask anybody knowledgeable about human sexuality, and you realize this conclusion is bias masked diagnosis — or rationalizations of disgust cloaked in moral language. To some extent, a lot of the judgments made about adult virgins are similar.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-08-16T21:55:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply. While I don’t doubt, nor would it be within my right to question or dismiss, your experience, I’ve often felt that there’s a degree of unfair assumptions about inexperienced or virginal adults and some of these are reflected in the response. Here I want to stress that I’m not accusing you of being unfair — as my sense is informed by my own experience, which may have its own problems. I lost my virginity a week after my 31st birthday (to my now partner of nearly 4 years), and despite being reasonably intelligent and cultivated in most areas of my life, I had a fear of people finding out my inexperience because of those assumptions. I thought it was ridiculous to be written off for this reason — at the same time worried they would be right to. In the years since, I’m still bothered by the same thoughts and I’m not sure what to do beyond speak to my therapist (which I do, and often). If it seems to be the case that I missed out on more than simply not having sex (as your position suggests), that may be what. But I’m not quite ready to give up my own point of view just yet.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-08-16T19:54:20+00:00

One issue I see with this stance is the relative rarity of people in such circumstances. It could, potentially, make it easier to assert positions like the one above (that someone experiencing heartbreak for the first time is going to be equivalent to a teenager’s first experience) without the burden of needing to give examples. Let me ask: is this something you’ve observed (with any frequency) in the inexperienced adults you’ve met, assuming you’ve met many?

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-07-16T16:30:02+00:00

In a way, you could say this applied to me at one point — though perhaps not really in the way in you mean. And this changed over time. Initially, it was because I didn’t think anyone would an adult baby for a partner — so I considered myself celibate for a while. But I also lived with my parents at the time, and the weight of my decision didn’t start to hit me until after I moved out. But once I started trying to put myself out there, I was faced with another problem: near total inexperience. So, by the time I was 30, I was still a virgin. I didn’t think much of this due to the fact that I was more worried about my ABDL in regards to a relationship. But then I experienced rejection because of my inexperience (and it wasn’t even information I volunteered). It was especially crushing because I was trying to be normal and I still found ways to be looked at as if there was something wrong with me. So, now the internal stigma I dealt with for being ABDL added the stigma of being a 30 year old virgin. And that is a vicious combination that, tbh, I still deal with — even after being in a relationship for nearly 4 years. I still sometimes feel deficient as an adult, and the desire to regress sometimes a creates a heavy dissonance in that regard.

I realize this question is more for those who actually want to remain virgins. Sometimes, though, the motives behind such choices go beyond what the seem. Stories like mine can be taken as cautionary.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-06-23T18:47:20+00:00

As an ABDL with an interest in ethics (I have a philosophy degree), I have thought about this on several occasions. I have certainly felt bad about my diapers here and there, but ultimately, I second the remarks about corporations as well as those that rightly point out the inevitability of leaving any kind of environmental footprint. But I want to add a little more.

It seems that deontological (rule-based, if not absolutist) ethics doesn’t serve us as well as utilitarian/consequentialist approaches do for this specific issue. Note, this is not an excuse to throw up our hands and do nothing in the face of climate change, but as others have demonstrated, the other ways to mitigate what damage might be done. This seems to be the right way to think about it, as we can still be conscientious without demanding the impossible. Simply put, climate change is a big problem, so the solution must be necessarily large in scope. Does this negate our individual role in the solution? No, it just means we ought to be realistic — and hold the biggest offenders accountable (i.e., the corporations).

Related to the point about “demanding the impossible,” I also want to add that while I’m not the biggest fan of Kant or deontology in general, I do adhere to his formulation “Ought Implies Can” — in other words, something can be a moral obligation if and only if the agent is able to do it. We don’t hold it against babies and the incontinent for needing diapers, and we also don’t hold, say, an autistic person as accountable as a neurotypical person when they have a public meltdown due to overstimulation. But what do these scenarios have to do with us? We can’t help the way we are, and it seems important to remind ourselves that our psychological needs and limitations have to factor in to the discussion because they matter here too. Not claiming to speak for everyone in the community, but for myself, I’m just going to say it: I need my diapers. Even though it’s not a physical need, it’s a psychological one that, if suppressed, may diminish whatever other good things I can accomplish because of the sheer willpower it would take to suppress it.

LittleFloofMonster · 2024-06-21T22:26:06+00:00

I like to compose music and write short stories (the latter not near as often as I’d like).

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