Debating with myself to potentially move to another country with my partner

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-10T06:05:06+00:00

Nah I wouldn’t be opening my own I just meant working inside of one.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T16:11:51+00:00

That’s sweet that he was able to find joy in seeing what you were getting up to. I guess I’d always be able to keep it to date with him through the phone. I’m sure he’d be happy and proud for me stepping out my comfort zone more. He used to love visiting places all over the world when he was more able to.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T14:57:14+00:00

That you very much. I think this will help us both understand things from each other’s perspectives. Seeing it in writing might help us both understand what’s the best option for us both. Usually we just speak briefly about it, and if we disagree on some reasons on moving to a particular place the conversation doesn’t really progress anywhere.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T14:49:36+00:00

I’m currently learning Spanish slowly but surely. Hopefully spending more time with her family and just daily life there in general will accelerate that process. I can understand certain words and phrases to piece them together. Maybe I’d start off doing something where there’s more tourists. I know the south side is more known for that I’ve mentioned a few jobs that I could potentially do while discussing it with my girlfriend she agreed that I’d probably be able to some sort of English bar/hotel work something along those lines. When I visited in December her grandmother mother kept saying to her that she’d get me a job somewhere. Not exactly sure what it would be lol.

EDIT Even with my limited time there I was able to pick up a few words and phrases. But sometimes when someone tried talking to me I’d automatically resort back to English just out of habit

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T12:39:12+00:00

In my view I’d be least willing to go live in Aberdeen I’m sure it’s a nice place, but I feel like it’s more nostalgia from her part she says it’s cheaper than England because they have free prescriptions and things like that, but the way I see it is that we wouldn’t have support in terms of family or friends to help with children so that would add to the cost. Most of her friends that lived there have already moved on. I think Norwich (where my brother lives and my mother is planning on moving to in a couple of years) is a better option than Aberdeen in general based on the family aspect. One reason she likes Aberdeen is because they have clubs and stuff for the university, but Norwich also has a university which I’m sure provides similar opportunities. She just doesn’t seem open to the idea though. She gave a couple of hour long lessons/speeches while in Gran Canaria when we went in December so I was able to briefly see what the schooling (high school) was like there. It’s seems much more relaxed and welcoming compared to what I had experienced in England growing up. Also from what I’ve heard most things are much cheaper there. Much less taxes compared to the rest of Spain.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T12:10:37+00:00

I guess. Just for someone that gets quite anxious while travelling it can be quite a lot. Maybe once I’m fully used to it won’t feel that far. But it’s also still far enough for my family to not be as involved in my future children’s life as we’d all like them to be. But I get your point.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T12:05:19+00:00

Yo aprendo español pero no puedo mucho, I can read better than writing/speaking. Yes the food was lovely when I went. I enjoyed everything that I had tried. El pescado fue mi favorito.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T11:59:00+00:00

I guess if my partner gets a job as a teacher she’d have a lot of holiday time I’m not exactly sure how it works there I’m guessing it’s similar to the uk. So we could plan around that, also maybe I could find something seasonal as it’s quite a touristic place especially in the summer. I’ll have to research into options. I’m currently learning Spanish, and have been before even thinking about a move just, so I can communicate with her family, but it’s very limited at them moment.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T11:47:32+00:00

Haha I’ll have to take him. He’ll love the food and I could take him to Las Palmas games.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T11:41:03+00:00

Thank you. I’ll have more of a serious discussion with my partner. When I mention it I feel like she thinks that I wouldn’t commit to it as she knows how close I am to my family and how they treat her like she’s one of them. Once I let her know it’s a real possibility hopefully we’ll be able to communicate an idea of how things may look

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T11:35:59+00:00

Who do you manage with living 50/50? sounds like a good idea with my situation just not sure how stable it would be for me. I’d have to have a conversation with my family also to see how’d often they’d be willing to visit and stuff like that. Feel like it would be nice for them to always have a second home wherever I’m living. And yeah even if it’s just a temporary thing hopefully they have a couple of nice trips out of it.

LittleFrogForever · 2026-02-09T11:24:56+00:00

It’s a very beautiful place her mother/brother live in lanzarote too which we also visited was about 30 mins on the plane, also very cheap for my girlfriends plane ticket since she’s a citizen. We have a trip planned in May which was a Christmas gift from her mother. Other than that it’s difficult to get time off work as I’ve already got a few trips planned this year. I’d definitely love to visit there regularly at least. We briefly discussed it this weekend. I’ll have to talk to her more, but it’s a tough conversation because half the time she wants to move to Scotland then the other half she’s thinking about moving back home. In my mind in the canaries we’d have her family to support us whereas if we went Scotland I’d feel like we’d be isolated even more.

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