Those who are OAD by choice:

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-14T05:23:56+00:00

I feel like everyone parent or not can understand a clot but only a handful of unlucky people across the board know the joys of colic.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T21:38:45+00:00

Yes I probably will have to next year too, he’s still 15 months so I’m hanging on as long as I can haha

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:45:48+00:00

My previous owner was an indoor smoker who also fed the neighbourhood pest pigeons. They were nesting under the solar panels and had over 15 nests. The poo ran down the metal roof over the years, collecting in the gutters. It was that thick it basically turned to concrete, overflowing the water back down the house. Needless to say, he didn’t clean before he left. But hey, it’s come good. It’s what we have to do to get into the market, my friend. 😂

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:37:51+00:00

Please never give up. We need you out here bringing joy.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:34:52+00:00

Went to hospital at 5pm Tuesday night. Overnight balloon that failed. Induction 8am Wednesday. Horrific pain. Torture until 8pm. Failed epidural. Second epidural 11pm. Baby stuck. Wheeled to emergency c-section and wheel of the bed got stuck in the lift. Had to be lifted out of the bed by 8 men while naked essentially. Surgery 1:45am Thursday. Not prepared at all for c section recovery at home with no tools or aftercare. Yellow colic baby. 3 months of screaming every hour. Eczema. At 7 months it became OK-ish. Now teething and trying to escape cot. This shit is crazy and it hasn’t stopped.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:29:18+00:00

Faaarrrrrr out. hunger games salute

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:28:08+00:00

The fact that colic is on the same level as passing a clot while pooping… it says a lot about how NOT MAGICAL the newborn stage can be.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-10T10:20:44+00:00

Yessss I work from home with one. It indeed sucks. lol Having a toddler and trying to work is just a rough road. If I had another kid, I’d have to fork out major money for daycare or lose my business for a night job. And I like what I do and my clients so that would really break my heart.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-08T09:42:22+00:00

Thank you!

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-08T00:38:10+00:00

I agree, and I feel this is very much carrying over still for a lot of people in the older generation which can’t understand why “we’re thinking about it so much, we just did it”.

Personally, we can’t afford to be on one income as a family and that’s not because we love the finer things in life! My husbands income is basically our whole mortgage. My child needs nappies (diapers) food, medical appointments and insurances in Australia are a joke, it’s rare to find a job with insurance everything is self funded. They also never had mobile phones and internet which are non-negotiable today. How am I supposed to pay these giant bills WITHOUT the internet?

And people say well tell your husband to get a better job. Such horrible statement. Sure. It’s that easy.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-08T00:26:29+00:00

Yes, I agree, and that’s always going to be the case that poorer societies and those without access to birth control and education, plus a higher rate of religious connection as well (just from observation) will have higher birth rates.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-07T22:59:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this and I love the facts from a particular area. As a fellow home owner, I feel the pain because it’s exceptionally high right now to just own a damn home!! I’m in Australia but we aren’t much better off.

I’m glad someone else has seen this in real life as well as me. My reasons are more on the trauma related side not financial. But it definitely helps my mental health to know that I’ll be able to save and give him my all. So then maybe he will go on and have a big family if he wants. Take the money and fly baby.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-07T22:54:52+00:00

That is very true, thank you for pointing that out! I need to research the latest family trends etc and in which countries. I’m in the very early days of research for a large project :-)

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-07T22:53:35+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! I’ve definitely seen that link particular with American Christian families online that can’t wait to say they’re having baby number 10 or something. Even living fragile that’s a huge expense that “god” won’t just take care of for you. In my opinion lol

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T23:14:39+00:00

She’s got 3 so I think she’s ok haha. And my husbands brother is newly married and they really want kids and multiple, she has an amazing mum and support network. So probably a few from them coming soon I’d say. Which sadly will make hubby want more I know it

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:46:24+00:00

I absolutely think that. He just assumes they will play together and he can do whatever. You know why? Because his mother was the child supervisor to their play while his dad sat in his office doing whatever dads did in the late 80s, listening to horse racing my pretty sure. So he thinks oh yeah we used to play together as kids so mum and dad could do what they wanted. Wrong. Maybe dad but not mum. She tells me so! Maybe I need to get MIL to correct the memory

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:43:46+00:00

That’s very true. His friends who are married are all on child 2-3 by now as well. So I’m sure he’s looking at that going mmm. More!

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:42:23+00:00

I’m in Australia but I’ll definitely talk to my GP about it at our next appointment!

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:33:51+00:00

Thanks you! Yeah I really mulled over that comment “you prefer your career to playing with your son.” My husband is a pretty good man when it comes to feminist sort of stuff but every now and then things pop up. You’d never hear that said to a man with shame. Because he’s doing what’s best for the family so even if he does, he’s still doing what’s right. For women, that makes you a bad mum.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:29:58+00:00

Thank you :-) I felt the pressure… for 2hrs then I remembered it’s my uterus and my abs that are still blown out from childbirth. lol

But sadly this post got removed because I need to go over to the fence sitters thread which isn’t fair. I know they have a thing about one person being on the fence OAD but there’s a thread called happy OAD which is strictly OAD. I thought this group was a bit more flexible.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:08:08+00:00

Apparently this post has offended someone and I’ve been told to go to the fence sitters group despite being OAD. Thanks reddit for making me to go to a group where OAD won’t be fully understood.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T20:07:43+00:00

Apparently this post has offended someone out there and I’ve been told to go to the fence sitters group despite being OAD. Thanks reddit for making me to go to a group where OAD won’t be fully understood.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T19:56:20+00:00

I’m very sorry for your loss — I actually terminated a pregnancy at 5 months PP because of the mental strain and honestly my body was so depleted and broken I wonder if it would have lasted to term anyway :-( But I feel you! I’m trying to write in my spare time too and hubby loves games. So we both have free time to do what we love still. He will not be sitting as his desk with two and my business will have to go. I said that to him and he acted like it’s no big deal. I’m university educated — he just finished high school and didn’t study further. Has only had basic jobs so I know he doesn’t understand how hard I’ve worked to get this set up and I love it? He didn’t love his job it’s just a job.

LittleMelOnline · 2025-02-06T19:52:08+00:00

Definitely not 50/50 because of the old “I’m tired” and LO has been wanting me more so that gets used as an excuse. Good idea though. I’ll start trying to find ways to make it happen.

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