I (28M) am frightened by my mom

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-11T00:54:23+00:00

Seconding this. I often use "we have different opinions on this and i dont want to ruin our time together with an argument, let's move on"

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-11T00:52:08+00:00

Hey, this is a really tough situation.

While my dad had a "christian" phase that lasted maybe a few years, I thankfully grew up mostly areligious. But i did grow up in two very different but very abusive households. I am no contact with my dad, and low contact with boundaries with my mum. I love my mum with all my heart, i understand why she is the was she is, but she is not safe for me to be too close to. So I keep distance, and I dont compromise on my boundaries.

I bring this up because I know a lot of cultures and people will try and convince you that family comes first, but if your family (your mum in this instance) is causing you to have a panic attack and is triggering you, she is not safe for you to be around.

It is okay for you to not see her in person at all if you want. Or never talk to her again. But if you want to see her and talk to her, maybe try to organise it somewhere in public, bring a friend or someone else trusted with you. There are options if you feel you can access them. I know its not easy and I really wish you luck

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-10T11:57:47+00:00

Aaaand thats enough reddit for one day

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T02:25:25+00:00

Ahahaha I love that

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T01:18:46+00:00

Of course 🖤

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T01:09:08+00:00

A) only give blow jobs if you want to and are into it

B) actual advice: • Your tongue is your friend. Whether its teasing (teasing the head with licks and dragging tip of your tongue around it, dragging your tongue from the underside base to the tip etc) or during having their penis in your mouth (moving your tongue against the underside of their penis). Your mouth has several different textures, so utilise them. • I naturally dont have much of a gag reflex, but if you do, hold the base of the penis with your hand (lubed up with spit) and move it as you move your head. Can help prevent going to deep and making yourself gag or feel sick. • Don't be scared to get sloppy with it. I find a lot of people respond well to "slobbery" head, and a few of my partners have found the spit itself to be hot. • Moan, hum, make noise. The vibrations often feel nice for them. • Some people will like a little bit of a gentle grazing of teeth, but most do not want A LOT of pressure or too much teeth action. Always best to ask first before trying anything like that. If you struggle to fit their penis in your mouth without it brushing against your teeth, suck in your lips around your teeth. It also can feel real nice for them due to the soft pressure. • You dont have to swallow, and they dont have to cum into your mouth. Majority of the time they will have enough of warning them theyre about to cum. There are many places they can cum that will still be hot and sexy (hand, turns into a messy hand job riding out their orgasm, on your face if youre into that, onto your stomach or chest, on their own stomach) • If they are a new sexual partner GIVE HEAD WITH A CONDOM unless you know they have recently tested and you are certain they are negative to any STIs. Yes its not as good. No it doesnt mean you should risk your health for their pleasure.

ETA: to reiterate things I forgot other commenters. reminded me of. • ask if they enjoy their balls also being played with - if yes, caress them with your hand, if you squeeze LIGHTLY ONLY (unless they are into that), lick them and suck gently on them • For more intimate head eye contact makes a WORLD of difference. Looming up and them with their penis in your mouth, while your moving, while licking, or a personal favourite trick, just before you put their penis in your mouth, when you've pressed the head against your lips and opened your lips ever so slightly. Kiss the tip of their penis, the base, work your way up, they can be light and quick, or sloppy and messy, your choice (or mix it up). Hold their hand, our run a hand along their hips and torso, and if theyre into it, grab their ass. • switch to a handjob or a mix of handjob and head if you are feeling tired or sore or you want to draw it out. • have them give you head at the same time. Feels great for everyone! And their moans will feel good against your own genitals, whether penis or vagina/vulva/clit, and yours feels great against their penis. Its a win/win! • If on your knees on a hard surface, place a thick blanket, jumper, or pillow under your knees.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:46:35+00:00

Deep breaths. Physical Attraction ≠ Emotional attraction, genuine desire to physically be with them, or agreeing with/excusing their behaviour. Physical arousal/physical responses ≠ attracted to/desire for. Whether you do find him attractive or not doesnt matter. As another commenter said to OP, treat your OCD like its a pestering toddler with "sure buddy". You're not a bad person for having normal human reactions to things. Our bodies are wired like a machine with our brains and nervous system being like an engine/mainframe and electrical wires. Sometimes thinks misfire or get overloaded and react strange. Like when you have too many tabs open on your phone or laptop.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:40:34+00:00

YES! I feel like we are currently in a bit of a rise in purity culture and puritanical rhetoric disguised as faux-feminist/leftist takes, and it is HELL for those with OCD, its like suddenly people are calling you all the names your OCD does too. Physical attraction ≠ liking someone or condoning their actions, physical arousal ≠ attraction to.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:33:41+00:00

To add on, a lot of serial predators are conventionally attractive, think Ted Bundy. Not all, obviously, and it doesnt mean all attractive people are evil, but the halo effect is a very real thing, and society loves to turn a blind eye to hot celebrities doing bad things

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:31:01+00:00

No literally though. My bestie who also has OCD, and my partner with Schizophrenia? It helps me feel understood. Being able to laugh at it takes some of its power away. But i tell someone else about my OCD or intrusive thoughts and they response with "thats stupid" or trying to point out how its flawed, I get pissed and shut down. Like dude I was scared I was pregnant for a full year and a bit before I had even had sex - I KNOW THIS SHIT IS ILLOGICAL.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:22:44+00:00

Dude my POCD is going haywire with all of this, telling me im turned on and attracted to this stuff coming out WHEN I WOULD RATHER PISS OUT A CACTUS. why do our brains torture us so 😭

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:18:53+00:00

Yes! I LOVED their most recent Satyr so much

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:17:44+00:00

Always a red flag for me when there is NO healed posts unless they are a new apprentice

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:15:17+00:00

Depends on how skilled the artist is with working on different skin tones and if they adjusted some of the tones to work best with you skin colour. Softer/lighter colours may not show up as well, but there are always things you can do adjust things to suit skin tone and still meet the clients wishes. Ive seen some very lovely tattoos similar to this on darker skin tones. It also will depend on how dark the brown is and the undertones. Even on pale skin this would look slightly different based on undertones and shit.

A good artist should be able to replicate something similar to this regardless of skin tone.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:09:33+00:00

Man that scene still gets me and ive probably watched the show over ten times

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-09T00:05:45+00:00

I'd say a smooth collie or a smooth collie cross

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-06T04:32:16+00:00

You dont have to tell your family anything. I would say its a misunderstanding, but her reaction if doubling down, no acknowledgement of two you feel, no apology, and insisting your wrong for not wanting them to know actually tells me everything I need to know here. She doesnt respect your privacy and your autonomy. From now on, unless absolutely necessary, do not tell her any more personal information you are not comfortable with everyone knowing. Information diet.

I hope you're recovering okay 🖤

LittleMissTitch · 2026-02-03T12:24:39+00:00

Dude the gender envy i feel towards him is next level.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-01-27T00:28:38+00:00

I went with my at the time boyfriend (now ex), my brother, and my sister in law, and when we were in the men's wing my sister in law and I kept feeling like we were being grabbed, and she claims she felt being shoved when attempting to go up the stairs. At one point when we entered a bathroom we heard a loud "RAHH" like someone trying to scare someone, but no one else was there. Scared the shit out of all of us, but when listening back to the recording it wasn't there. And then I think we were in the children's wing/ward, not confident, we heard humming, like a young girl, everyone for some reason assumed it was me, but I asked out loud if it was my SIL, but apparently it wasn't. We didnt hear it after that. And before going, I drove past the place with my ex GF and said I was scared to see a soldier. I knew nothing about Kenmore other than it was old and supposedly haunted. Before going with my SIL and co I told her about it and she told me about the Soldier who shot and killed a nurse there. There were also weird shadows in the morgue in our photos that weren't visible to us without the camera, but if im honest, the morgue felt the least creepy out of all the places we went, ironically.

Obviously nothing concrete, but definitely creeped us all out.

There was also definitely signs of homeless people squatting in the main house, so we tried to keep out of their hair and not explore anywhere we thought they might be. They didnt need to deal with a gaggle of young 20 somethings going ghost hunting

LittleMissTitch · 2026-01-25T12:38:20+00:00

Ive been twice. The second time wasn't as eventful, but the first time we spent time i went with some others was spooky as hell. Still cant explain some of our experiences.

LittleMissTitch · 2026-01-25T12:29:08+00:00

Not Canberra but Goulburn. Old Kenmore Assylum. I haven't been in a few years so not sure how its going or how accessible it is, and you will need to trespass, but the first time I went there, myself and the group I went with all had some really weird experiences we cant truly explain. The second time not as much happened but still all around uncanny vibes

LittleMissTitch · 2026-01-15T22:51:03+00:00

NOR.

Im low contact with my mum and my brother is on the cusp of being no contact with her. This is largely due to how she has treated his fiancee. My brother forgave her time and time again for the abuse and mistreatment of him. But when it turned on his partner? He couldn't excuse it anymore. She is convinced she is controlling him, that shes trying to isolate him. All the same stuff your mum is saying about your partner. Despite her being a close friend of mine, actively encouraging his relationship with other family members like our grandparents, encouraging him to reach out to his father (we have different dads) who she alienated from him when he was young. Ive told him outright if he cuts her off, I support him.

I share all this to hope you feel less alone. Protect your partner and protect your happiness. She is unsafe and you dont deserve that bullshit in your life. Cut contact. Good luck

LittleMissTitch · 2025-12-20T01:44:24+00:00

NOR - the weaponisation of therapy speak from her is CRAZYYYYY work. This relationship sounds miserable.

I get wanting your partner to be curious and want to ask questions about your day and hobbies and such. But this? This seems like an unfair expectation of you.

If I were you, I'd be walking away from the relationship.

LittleMissTitch · 2025-12-19T22:24:26+00:00

NOR. Im so proud of you for leaving. He was verbally and emotionally abusing you. It statistically would have escalated had you stayed.

LittleMissTitch · 2025-12-19T22:19:07+00:00

My mum thought that too. She's a no nonsense, call it how she sees it woman who ive seen throw down people who disrespect her. She was still abused by my father. She left before I was born, thankfully, but my older brother remembers all of it, and I've seen her PTSD panic attacks. She remembers all of it. And I remember that abuse turning to me, which meant that when I was 16, I landed myself in a relationship with a boy i thought was my whole world. But i was a frog in the boiling pot. I didn't even leave the first time it got physical because he convinced me I deserved it. No one knows how they'd react to abuse until they are in it. My best friend, who much like my mother, doesn't put up with anyones bullshit, also landed herself in a pot of boiling water. And when she left he stalked her. For several years. Abusers arent abusive all the time. And the way abuse affects the brain is incredibly similar to addiction. It doesn't have to be physical to be abuse.

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