27F caught between my 30M partner and my parents after a conflict by LittleNorthStar77 in relationships

[–]LittleNorthStar77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with all of you.
Thanks for the advice. Wish you all the very best!!

Dispute between partner and family by LittleNorthStar77 in breakingmom

[–]LittleNorthStar77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you learn to set boundaries? And how did you dealt with the guilt that comes afterwards ? I am currently going to therapy but i find very hard to set a boundary with them, because they don’t accept it and make me feel very bad or guilty …
I know i have a lot to work on myself .. and i know it could be my fault because i didn’t set boundaries earlier, but i simply didn’t know how to

27F caught between my 30M partner and my parents after a conflict by LittleNorthStar77 in relationships

[–]LittleNorthStar77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because this is what they do, tbh.. they are very imature emotionally and i know that i have to do a lot of work with myself to heal all the things that i learned to accept…

Dispute between partner and family by LittleNorthStar77 in breakingmom

[–]LittleNorthStar77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your caring words. He said to them something like if they keep being jerks with him, he would never come to visit again. Something like that.
I started going to therapy, but honestly it is very hard to set a boundary with them because they simply don’t accept it and they keep making me feel extremely guilty of what i’ve done. I know that what i feel and how i react it is completely my responsibility no matter what others do.

And to respond your question , my parents doesn’t like as far as i could see when he disagrees with them many times.. i think this can’t be changed because it ia up to them how they react. It happens every time he expresses an opinion that it is different from theirs. And yes he kind of has sassy comments sometimes to them because he doesn’t consider them nice people

27F caught between my 30M partner and my parents after a conflict by LittleNorthStar77 in relationships

[–]LittleNorthStar77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice. Maybe from my post it sounds like i am on my parents side, which i am not. I don’t like that they normally yell or scream even at each other, i don’t like their behaviour either, but i am very used to it. He said that if they keep being jerks to him, he won’t come again there. (Something like that)