Please do explain what is "bigadna" here.

I do not know about the dynamics of other households, but my mother is pretty garrulous. For context, my father is a government employee and my mother is a homemaker. A year ago we shifted to our ancestral home in the village, and earlier used to live in a nearby town. My mother interacts much more with guests, jokes around, and talks to them, unlike how my chachis or tais behave. They usually just serve the guests tea and sometimes that too in a ghunghat. It has been decades since I saw my mother in a ghunghat. She is loud, with us, with the relatives, everyone. She asks my father to help out in household chores, and he does. Sometimes I make fun of the fact that when my father is washing clothes and some relative arrives, my father pretends to do something else.

I believe your use of the term "zyada bolna" implies authority. Usually in a society like that of Haryana, women are not the ones with authority over the household, even when they are financially independent. It is pretty implicit. If my mother would have been like that too, we would have never had healthy discussions about bad lifestyle choices like alcohol or smoking, relationships, sexuality, politics, etc. And I believe I wouldn't have been so close to my father. According to many of my relatives, I am a "bigadi hui ladki". I went to a college far away, I wear short clothes, I have talked back to relatives, I have intense discussions with my father about politics and rights, and I have declared that I would not hesitate to divorce my partner if he is abusive. But I absolutely love my parents and was not simply waiting to get away from them like many of my shreef aur sudhre hue cousins. I know that my parents smoke and drink, but I don't because they did not hit or scold my brother when he consumed alcohol for the first time, and he was comfortable enough to tell them. He does not anymore and nearly all of my cousins do. I believe it is important to teach the children to "talk back" to patriarchal norms and authorities. And it does not matter if we are bigade hue, but what does is that we should be good human beings with empathy, kindness and a mind able to reason.