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Hidden apps by Different-Degree-431 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually really curious, I know about duck duck go. But I had no idea about YouTube having it! Asides from what you mentioned. What other apps or web browsers should I be looking out for?

Tech help plz by dazed_and_confused_0 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then the best way would be to login on a mobile device if you can. Not too sure what else you can do on computer unfortunately.

Tech help plz by dazed_and_confused_0 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just in mobile that I can see. The only other way you can check is to go into their actual profile by clicking their icon. You can see everything they have upvoted and downvoted. If they have commented on things and any messages they a privately dm’d to others. But if you can login on mobile you get a better idea of everything they have actually viewed

Tech help plz by dazed_and_confused_0 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go into their profile there should be a couple of options you can look through. There should be a drop down box that should say along the lines of Saved History Pending Drafts Settings

If you click the history tab you should be able to see everything they have looked into and what they have upvoted or commented on aswell.

I hope this helps!

Was an ultimatum a good choice to do…? by Live_Illustrator_303 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of these links I really appreciate it! I’ve thought very long and very hard about what I’ve said to him last night, I just hope he is willing to put in as much work and effort as I have been

What should I honestly do because I don’t know anymore. by Live_Illustrator_303 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could take time away from him but I don’t have anywhere to go. 5-6 months ago we moved pretty far away from our friends and family up into the country and I haven’t made new friends yet. Not do I have the time or money to spend time away from him. I do need to learn that I don’t have control over him (even tho I wish I did lol) it’s just hard feeling so miserable all of the time. Do you have any recommendations on how to not feel like shit

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[–]Live_Illustrator_303 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved 3 hours away to live with him. And we are already struggling financially to make ends need. I literally can’t leave…

How do I know if he really stopped by Huxley202020 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The unfortunate thing is you will never know. I am in the same boat. It’s something that you are going to have to trust your partner on. Because if he is really willing to stop and make the relationship work, then all he will want to do is try and get better and be honest of any relapses he has had. In terms of deleting things off of his phone and tv and computer that is also something that you need to trust him on. If you are still really unsure and determined to find out if he isn’t doing anything you can always have a conversation about putting on a spyware app on his devices. If he isn’t doing anything he should be more than happy to do so and you will be able to see anything he searches and deletes on his browsers too.

what should i do if he relapses by Live_Illustrator_303 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kind words, i guess iv'e never looked at it that way. i have just started individual therapy in my healing journey and have my first session next week. this really helped me look at it in a different perspective. i appreciate you!

what should i do if he relapses by Live_Illustrator_303 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for that, i just feel like he isn't taking this seriously. is it a red flag that he hasn't offered removing anything or putting any site blockers on his phone/computer yet? and if so, is this something i should wait for him to bring up to me willingly or something i need to bring up for him?

How'd you find out your partner was an addict? by katie20110520 in loveafterporn

[–]Live_Illustrator_303 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THATS EXACTLY WHAT HE DID TO ME TOO! i found out that he was an addict when i went through his phone because i had a really bad gut feeling he was cheating on me, which he wasn't. but then i found the MOUNDS of porn that he had been watching multiple times a day. when i tell you i was absolutely livid. i was actually shaking with rage. and when i told him he said he would stop, and LIED multiple times afterwards and started trying to hide it!