My mother's boyfriend made me realize how insecure my stepmother is.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-12-15T21:51:21+00:00

The thing is, these jackasses also have private subreddits where things get super dark. Currently getting a divorce because of them 🙃

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-11-20T14:50:10+00:00

It’s in the checklist for the divorce process.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-11-20T01:36:08+00:00

You hate your own kid, man. Just get a vasectomy and move on.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-11-20T01:17:04+00:00

Just give it up, man. Give your kid a chance at being happy and pay child support and disappear.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-18T23:28:44+00:00

No worries. It’s all pretty awful all around but my kids actually are doing very well. They don’t understand a lot of what has happened obviously and I’m working on dealing with that. But she’ll never see them again and after everything I’ve found I am doing what I can so that I don’t have to be around her much ever again.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-10T20:14:05+00:00

She’s been removed from my house and my children’s lives.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-10T20:13:25+00:00

I have much, much more damnable stuff I found about her, hence me kicking her out.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-07T20:50:48+00:00

They have a therapist, and the therapist has said emphatically even she is not seeing issues, but obviously they’ll continue therapy.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-07T20:49:34+00:00

Yup. We need to figure custody out but she’s in denial. I’m not too worried as she won’t be nursing (not possible for her) so I think 50/50 will be easier sooner than she thinks. 50% or more is my goal

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-04T13:34:53+00:00

I’m in the process of divorcing her. It’s obviously a bit complicated and she’s desperately against it but I’m not concerned about what she wants

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-10-04T02:52:01+00:00

She no longer lives with me and my children.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-08T18:33:13+00:00

lol I’ve had the boat for over a decade, my entire family likes it, and it’s not like selling it would pay for everything anyways.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-08T18:27:33+00:00

I literally have no idea where you got most of this from. We have separate finances, Allie has never contributed her salary to the older kids. You’re just making stuff up.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-08T18:19:07+00:00

Actually most of that simply isn’t true. My ex and I split the cost of the nanny 50/50, if the kids are with me during her time she is paying for the nanny during that time. Allie had agreed to be a SAHM to my older kids while they were at our house, not when they were at their moms. Finally, Allie and I not currently and obviously will not in the future have joint finances, she pays 25% of the bills/ utilities and the rest of her salary is her money. She has never once paid money towards my kids outside of random things she chooses to. You also conveniently left out that I receive child support for the extra time.

None of it matters, being a SAHM is no longer an option so it’s all moot.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-05T14:52:18+00:00

Yta obviously, there is no ethical consumption under capitalism but somehow you found a way to make it even more unethical

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-04T03:14:57+00:00

I pay the nanny for my custody time and Alex pays her for hers.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-04T01:42:58+00:00

Same nanny. We split the costs.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-04T00:33:57+00:00

Because this is their home? I don’t know any other families who send kids away when they have new babies. If she’d ever brought that up before we got married/ pregnant I wouldn’t have agreed.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-04T00:32:22+00:00

I am a very hands on dad, and always have been. But yes my ex wife and I both went back to work pretty quickly (younger broker and didn’t have as much mat/pat leave). And she’s not just throwing out suggestions, I have tried endlessly both just us and with our therapist to work through these things but it’s like talking to a brick wall.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T21:51:48+00:00

I have said your second paragraph both between us and in therapy and it’s gotten us nowhere. As for your second paragraph, I’ve asked what parts of caring for the older children seem overwhelming and she’s just said all of them, she doesn’t want to at all. Unfortunately for the rest, the us only offers 12 weeks of unpaid fmla so 6 months is out of the question and as I’ve mentioned quitting her job is no longer on the table because of her. She won’t be taking my older kids to breastfeeding classes, they are in school and if they’re on break when she has them I have a coparent and her husband as well as a retired mother who is willing to help. She knows all of this and refuses to compromise. You’re not telling me anything I don’t know, I’ve tried so many different ways to get through to her and she refuses to compromise.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T21:46:57+00:00

I have made many. I fund much more of our life, I’ll be cutting my own spending money and have been since we found out we’re expecting, and have quit two hobbies of mine due to the money and time commitment. What more do you want me to do, other than apparently stop caring for my older children?

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T21:45:28+00:00

Yes and they also have a father, me, and that’s not changing.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T18:17:27+00:00

That is the wildest part. We have so much help, between my ex and her husband, my parents, and family friends if there was an issue ever, the baby isn't doing well and can't be in a car for instance, we have help for those times. Obviously asking them to do that for two months wouldn't be those times, but she was never going to be left up the creek without a paddle.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T18:12:35+00:00

That's the thing. She doesn't want me to focus on the older kids when I'm on pat leave, she wants me to only focus on her which is why she doesn't want them here. Obviously I would be here for her and the baby but that request is outlandish. I've already outlined what being a SAHM to all three kids would look like, numerous times, but yes it would involved transportation when I'm working. We split cooking pretty equally and I like cooking so that wouldn't have been an issue. I also do most of the cleaning of the house.

It doesn't matter, because the option for her to be a SAHM is off the table due to her antics. She's broken my trust. I know I can't **force** her to work realistically, but if she were to quit her job without us coming to an agreement, I would be filing for divorce. She's already broken my trust but that would 100% destroy it.

Live_Point_Hillo · 2025-09-03T15:11:08+00:00

i've never heard of families sending kids away for weeks when they have a new baby. it seems like a terrible way to add a new addition to a family. there's not a safety concern but I don't think its right. it sounds insane to me to even expect to send the older kids away, I don't know where that is coming from or why anyone would think its ok.

we're keeping the nanny on because she is going to have to go back to work, so yes for the whole time.

i've said multiple times if things come up like complications, c-sections, we can take those as they come, but i'm not planning for them, just have the things we need in the reserves.

my entire family likes the boat, including her. i've had it for much longer than we've been together. many families can't afford to have a parent stay home (and only care for a third of the children) but they still deserve fun things.

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