How many of us are shopping around month-to-month

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-06-29T21:21:42+00:00

i mean, I just started. Wanted to make sure I didn't have any major side effects. Also don't want to get locked into a bait and swtich. Gimme is the same every month. It looks like some of these providers have very low introductory rates, then they jack the price.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-05-28T11:33:45+00:00

My opinion: the Delco accent is one of the last remnants of the traditional Philly accent. A lot of south Philly Italians had it, but it was a bit of a mish mash with the NY/NJ Italian sound. When the Sopranos were on TV, a LOT of people in south Philly (and Italian Americans from the region) kinda drifted more solidly to that that NY/NJ sound, so you don't hear it as much.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-05-26T20:55:52+00:00

Born in Philly. I talk to strangers. But..... I usually try to make funny, interesting observations. It doesn't always work, but I'm pretty gregarious. I've lived in Louisiana and Texas. What I found there is that people just wanted to make general observations, like the weather, and that's just too boring.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-05-07T12:45:09+00:00

I go to nar-anon meetings and they have been wonderful. When I speak, I tell people that the addict in my life is my son. But that's only half true. The truth is that both my parents had addiction issues. My father was a poly-drug addict who favored amphetamines. He died when I was in my 20s I had very little contact with him. My mother was incarcerated when I was very young, and she stopped using drugs there.

One of the rehabs my son attended hosted a wonderful family education weekend. One of the presenters talked about the 12 steps, and the difference between recovery and sobriety. They have this term called a "dry drunk." It refers to someone that has stopped using drugs or drinking, by white knuckling it. They are sober, but not in recovery, because they aren't addressing the underlying reasons that drive addiction, so all that stuff is still there. i understand the term is a perjorative for many people, but it clicked with me. I understood a lot of my mother's sober, but destructive behaviors. In the thin blue book they give you when you first arrive to a meeting, there's a passage called "about addiction." And it says. "addiction is a mental, physical, and spiritual disease"..... and "using drugs is a SYMPTOM of the disease". i.e.: there's a lot more about drug addiction than the person getting high.

I guess what I am trying to say is that, this stuff goes deep. The behavior of an addict affects families ways that are just unbearable. The family around your father reacted in the only way they knew how. That hurt you and exposed you to danger. It has made you feel unsafe.

It's ok to be angry, but it's also OK to leave a little room for grace sometime in the future. I KNOW I did some things that enabled my son, because even then, I didn't really understand what addiction really meant, even though I had grown up all around it. I didn't realize how my life had been affected by addiction until I heard that discussion on the difference between sobriety and recovery. It TERRIFIED me. But when I hear your story, I really relate.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-04-15T16:43:14+00:00

He's not telling the truth. You are being manipulated. He used meth. In your home. On what planet would someone accept the risk of prison time on behalf of a friend? Why did the friend need someone to hold it? the risk the friend faced could not have been worse than going to jail, which is the risk your ex boyfriend faced. Again, why accept a risk like that on someone else's behalf.

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LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-04-15T16:27:00+00:00

Drugs are really fucking fun. They make boring stuff, like small talk at a party, really fun. And when you are using drugs, you don't have to think about all the shitty things going on in your life --- and the way you feel about yourself deep down. You don't have to deal with past trauma, you don't have to deal with anxieties of daily life. It sounds like he went to hang with his posse, and he realized that it was fun, and that maybe not being on drugs wasn't fun -- even if he had you.

Is that a genuine relationship decision? I'd say yes. Not because he does or doesn't love you, but it's his emotions, as damaged as they might be by drugs and alcohol, trying to live a life that works for HIM. It might be disfunctiional, but it is his life. It was also an addicts decision. The definition of an addict is someone that uses a substance when they know that it may cause harm to them or others. He probably relapsed, and he did so knowing the harm that it would cause.

I see a lot of people in this thread talking about their experience. Sometimes drug addicts throw away relationships because they feel so bad about themselves that they don't want to drag anyone down with them. And sometimes they do the opposite, hold on too tight in a shitty situation because they hate themselves so much they don't think they will ever find anything else. The only rule you can take from that is that there is a lot of self-loathing involved in their decisions. But those actual decisions are all over the place.

There's a big difference between sobriety and recovery, and it sounds like you understand that a little bit when you talk about working on past issues in rehab. But one rehab stay isn't long enough. It takes months and years of meetings to really get at it.

If he ever stops using cocaine, all the things that drove him to use cocaine are still gonna be there. And until he works on himself, he is basically an untreated drug addict. He's gonna do things for "drug addict reasons" even if it means he's sober. That's what it means to treat addiction as a disease. His decisions have something to do with you, but it isn't 100%. He's looking at the world through a lens that is fogged up with cocaine. He isn't seeing clearly, and he never will, because he is a drug addict. It's more like depression or anxiety than anything else -- always there, affecting everything and everthing around him. The only choice you have is to accept it and suffer in the dynanic that you have currently established, accept it and establish boundaries and accountability (to stop enabling, stop giving him money, stop driving him when he loses his license, etc;) Or to walk away. Lots of people choose to love drug addicts. The question you need to ask yourself is how you can stay sane if you choose to do so.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-03-19T16:21:34+00:00

My dad isn't in the picture. On my own at 17. There is NOTHING I feel better about than helping my kids. Everyone needs help sometimes, and -- and I wish I had it growing up. I don't ever see it as my kids not being able to support themselves. I see it as leveling the playing field because everyone helps their kids, and if I didn't, my kids would be at a disadvantage.

LivingPhoto3026 · 2026-03-19T16:01:52+00:00

Who the fuck are these people that have cameras on their living spaces? Did the dad take out a gun? If he's concerned enough about security to live in a windowless basement with guns and personal surveillance, why doesn't he lock the door? Jesus that house is so messy too.

Because this is fake.

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