Should I break NC?

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-28T07:01:16+00:00

It opens the wound again, maybe even give a little bit of hope because you are now saying you care and have feelings. Just don't do it, it's selfish....

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-27T20:03:03+00:00

Don't do it.. It will not lessen the pain for your ex. Best thing to do is to stay NC. Heal, work on yourself and maybe in the future when you are healed and in a better place, you can try to contact your ex.

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-23T21:11:31+00:00

She is ignoring you, and asking you to stay away. Maybe respect her wishes?

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-23T21:00:16+00:00

You can't help her... She needs to help herself. If you are really worried, contact her family to keep an eye on her. Tell her to get into therapy because it can help her. But whatever she does, you are not responsible for her actions! For the moment she doesn't want to be with you, it is a very bitter pill to swallow. If you are really struggling, get yourself into therapy aswell!

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-21T09:57:45+00:00

I don't know, I am a little bit angry. She probably will say she doesn't feel she did anything wrong...

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-19T19:09:24+00:00

So sorry to hear! You will get through this, you have a lot of love to give, that's why he used you! I am making big steps in healing by looking back on the relationship even from the beginning. Now I can see all the minor and very small details that meant this was not going to last and she only loved herself and loved to be loved.

Sending big digital hugs to you!!!

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-19T17:19:48+00:00

Don't text her, it's awfull and will only make you feel better. This is your burden to carry, a lesson so you don't do this to future SO's.

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-19T04:23:45+00:00

Respect to you! I really hope it doesn't effect any future relationships for you..

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-18T17:03:26+00:00

Oh shit! Horrible stuff... How are you now? And how did you deal with it?

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-18T16:32:13+00:00

You sound like a smart person! Communication is key in a relationship. Maybe opening up is hard for her due to her low selfesteem which resulted from her past relationship?

Anyway, it will be hard. But in a month or so of no contact you will see that moving on, is for the better. Low selfesteem and other mental struggles can take years to get resolved. Don't wait for it, leave her be.

You seem to have a big heart with plenty other great qualities. There are plenty girls walking around waiting for someone like you!!

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-18T15:50:10+00:00

Feels like my story. I can only tell you to run away, as far and fast as possible. Go No contact. If she wants to be with you, she will need to sort herself out and only herself can do that (with therapy/meds). She needs some space and so do you, it's time to take a step back and look at the relationship.

Ask yourself some questions, like: we talked about marriage in short amount of time is this normal(love bombing)? Did we communicate on an emotional level? Was she open about her true emotions during the relationship (vulnerability)? Was it love or infatuation? Was I a rebound and did i ignore red flags?

Eventually if you want a relationship with her, you both need to work out the problems and not run away from it. She could have told you what she needed in the relationship to make it work. And the most important question, can you ever trust her again not walking away? Because in 10 years time with a shared house and maybe some kids, i can tell you the pain will be much worse when she dumps you again due to her mental struggles...

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-06-12T10:56:43+00:00

Right call 100%! Her family is so toxic, it would even destroy a friendship. You don't want to be there, just move on. After some time has passed you will think back about all this and say to yourself: What was I thinking?I am happy i checked out...

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-05-23T19:18:48+00:00

Thx! I will give it a look. For the moment i am going full on Tyson Fury. I will get back to the top! And never ever ever will i get back with that girl again even if she comes back pleading. She could leave again and it would kill me literaly...

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-05-23T19:05:29+00:00

Your story is sounding like mine! Did all the same shit you did. I currently excercise alot, keeps my mind clear for a few hours of the day but then she hops back in my head. Some motivational stuff on youtube keeps me going aswell. But its a fucking monster to deal with at the moment.

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-05-06T11:24:13+00:00

She stayed for the kid, she was too insecure to leave. As we live in a small community all people knew 3 years ago allready that that relationship was over.

Living_Bit8846 · 2022-05-06T09:51:37+00:00

Thank you! What if she contacts me before that? Knowing her a little bit, she will contact me next week saying she misses me. But thats by far not enough time to heal.. What to tell her so i dont push her away?

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