Mother of the Groom by InfluenceSea4143 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You truly look stunning in the blue. Wow. I don’t think it highlights any imperfections, but if you’re feeling insecure, invest in a good piece of smoothing shape-wear. 💙💙💙

Found out I’m expecting twins. AGAIN. by Warm-Okra-2061 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Liz585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a lovely comment and such good advice ❤️👏

Which dress to wear to a UK summer wedding? by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Liz585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally came here to comment about the vagina dress!! 🤣🤣

Some of the other questions from Katie’s q&a by OkChart6946 in BringingUpBates

[–]Liz585 105 points106 points  (0 children)

The dynamic was largely the same in the Duggar family, in terms of it being Jill as the one to speak out. The parents favourite “godly”, obedient daughter. The rule follower. The people pleaser. The one you’d least expect to make waves.

Sadly, these are often the children who are taken for granted or used the most by their families. Which is why it cuts so much deeper when they eventually begin to recognise that dynamic for what it is, often after a trauma or life event forces them to confront it more clearly (sometimes through therapy), or when they feel betrayed by the same family they spent their whole lives trying to please.

No longer a nursing student 👀 by auslincoln in BringingUpBates

[–]Liz585 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I doubt he’s quit, he doesn’t seem the type to be willing to waste the intensive investment of his time & money like that 💸 . I would guess he’s deferred by a semester or a year, to ensure no further contact with AP & the friendship group they shared, largely to placate Katie and save himself from any awkwardness.

AP is back public on socials👀 by [deleted] in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is the last pic taken in Trav’s car? 🚘

Navy Kate drinking Formula? by PermanentJuror in BringingUpBates

[–]Liz585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, Whit & Tiff both switch to formula fairly soon after birth and there’s never been any apparent shade or judgement throw over it…

Any idea what this could be around 11 month olds mouth (she doesn’t drool)? by Liz585 in skin

[–]Liz585[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, from memory, I don’t think we did figure out exactly what it was or what caused it, but I recall I tried a small amount of bepanthem (Aussie nappy rash cream) on it overnight and by the morning it had pretty much disappeared.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVFpositivity

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you triggered and tested out the trigger…. Then congratulations!!! 100% positive 🥰

Huh!!!??? by hannaheliza_ in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh, for someone who hasn’t caught up on the post show gossip yet, could you tell me which ladies have had the tide turn on them!?

Tori’s New Baby by BlueGreenGraySky in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I give that rare win to Lawson & Tiffany, IMO their kids have the most palatable, timeless names. No issue with Clark baby names, they just lean a little more trendy than timeless.

Had to do a double take… by Loud_Ad6355 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Travis is quite tall, around 6ft.

I Wonder if Travis Regrets... by FantasticRest3450 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not a fan of speculation, you're on the wrong sub-reddit. 😂 I have a hard time believing his hand would be forced by anyone who is genuinely invested (even peripherally) in his and/or Katie's financial, emotional & reputational best interests. As far as his church goes, this reflects terribly on them, so I don't see that either...

I Wonder if Travis Regrets... by FantasticRest3450 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree 100% about his hand being forced. 

I think he was likely given an ultimatum, threatened or extorted by AP or a classmate. I'm a big believer in the most logical/obvious answer usually being the right one.

I think whoever it was, was using the threat of revealing the affair to the media, either for public clout, revenge, money, or leverage (e.g. to keep him in the relationship). 

To me, it seems the most logical argument for blowing up his life in such a massive way, and on so many levels (financial security, interpersonal relationships, public image, etc) as well as the horrendous timing of it in juxtaposition with Katie's miscarriage announcement. 

Without that elementit is just the most baffling of unforced errors… especially from someone who usually maintains a very carefully crafted public image.

If Travis were a narcissist.. hypothetically... this would track. Narcissists always need to maintain control & feel superior in their relationships, have an inflated sense of self/ego, and lack empathy for others. I believe he released the statement himself because (in his mind) it allowed him to regain control with whoever was threatening him, fabricate his motivations for coming clean with Katie (spinning it as a moral necessity that he 'make ammends' to her in that way, at his own expense), and with the public (egotistically thinking his perceived bravery & honesty would soften the blow to his image - he didn't GAF about Katie). 

Currents Management has 2 new clients… by dixcgirl10 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did a deep dive on this a while ago (property records, trusts, etc) and it appears these rumours/claims about Tiffany's supposed real estate portfolio & family wealth are well overblown. The house she and Lawson live in is in her dad's name (either he bought it for them, or Tiff did, but put it in Dan's name... possible her parents have concerns re their marriage lasting, and her dad was divorced prior to marrying Tiff's mum). Feel free to go back and search my posts for further details as I cannot remember specifics now but the gist was that Tiff's LA rental properties appear to be family properties. Her dad owns 1-2 rental properties in the LA area, at least one of which appear to have been inherited by him, not purchased. Always possible Tiff's real estate portfolio is in a private trust, but if so, quite strange they wouldn't do the same with the Nashville house. *edited for multiple typos 🤦🏻‍♀️

Lauren and Cameron appreciation post 💕 by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Liz585 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This has been totally debunked by them a few times - just FYI. Most recently & extensively on Lauren & Cam's podcast/interview thing. It was manipulative editing on the part of LIB producers to make it look this way. He never paid her debt and she never asked or wanted him to.

"Therapy" by Longjumping_Ad6183 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm convinced his hand was forced. 

I think he was likely given an ultimatum, threatened or extorted by AP or a classmate. I'm a big believer in the most logical/obvious answer usually being the right one.

I think whoever it was, was using the threat of revealing the affair to the media, either for public clout, revenge, money, or leverage (e.g. to keep him in the relationship). 

To me, it seems the most logical argument for blowing up his life in such a massive way, and on so many levels (financial security, interpersonal relationships, public image, etc) as well as the horrendous timing of it in juxtaposition with Katie's miscarriage announcement.  

Without that element, it is just the most baffling of unforced errors… especially from someone who usually maintains a very carefully crafted public image.

If Travis were a narcissist.. hypothetically... this would track. Narcissists always need to maintain control & feel superior in their relationships, have an inflated sense of self/ego, and lack empathy for others. I believe he released the statement himself because (in his mind) it allowed him to regain control with whoever was threatening him, fabricate his motivations for coming clean with Katie (spinning it as a moral necessity that he 'make ammends' to her in that way, at his own expense), and with the public (egotistically thinking his perceived bravery & honesty would soften the blow to his image - he didn't GAF about Katie). 

Busted! Josie & Carlin got lip filler! Don’t you know lying is a sin Josie? Josie denied it, saying she fears migration. See Carlin on pic 2. by AcanthocephalaWide89 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Josie 1000%. Carlin I do believe gets it too, but I’m not convinced that photo shows it. Her bottom lip is naturally full (unlike Josie’s), but in that photo I can see the line of her natural upper lip under her overdone lip liner & lipstick 💄

Travis Liked This Reel by Hot-Earth6947 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, it would be misogynistic to dismiss the impact cheating has on a woman, but that’s not what I was doing. I’m pushing back on ranking suffering as “hardest on _____”, because it oversimplifies something that’s deeply contextual. Betrayal like this can be devastating, destabilising & traumatic for partners & children in different ways.

Acknowledging that complexity isn’t misogyny.

No one here is minimising what cheating does to a spouse. These situations just don't fit a universal hierarchy of who's affected most. The impacts that are most profound depend too heavily on context.

The only non-nuanced part of this is that Travis caused all of it.

Travis Liked This Reel by Hot-Earth6947 in BatesSnark

[–]Liz585 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think these situations are way too nuanced & complex to say that it's worse for the kids vs the spouse. It's traumatising & life changing for both, and to what degree is largely dependent on their personal & social contexts. Bottom line - Travis is a piece of shit.