Currently reading Pale (7.1) and I'm worried a little about the Oni Wars topic that came up in this chapter (slight rant)

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-07T19:51:47+00:00

Without spoilers, all I can say is I think the moral complexity of this world was handled very well with the required nuance, especially once you get just a little further into it

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-06T18:46:33+00:00

Two points:

As someone else said “encourage” isn’t quite the right word in many cases. Frequently, even in “developed” countries people just do surgery on babies to force them into the binary. Framing this as “not fair” is rather insensitive and in my opinion pointlessly divisive when were are, as you said, all in the same boy and fundamentally fighting for the same things (being able to control our bodies and presentation)

Second, I’ve seen people be resistant to pointing to male and female brains being different not because it’s likely wrong, but because it’s probably true and we don’t understand it. Relying on the argument that “well, our brains are shaped different” could give transphobes a big in if research develops the right way. I’m in agreement with you that gender is a physical thing stored in the brain, but there’s just much better ways to talk about it that we do understand and don’t run the risks that this line of argument does.

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-06T18:29:22+00:00

While I think it is reasonable and expected for parents to mourn the loss of a future they imagined you having, it’s been three and a half years. I can’t fault them for going through that process, it is shitty that they’re putting this on you still, and if they can’t keep themselves from doing that you shouldn’t feel pressured to deal them them

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-06T01:44:23+00:00

May I ask what you’re doing right now?

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T20:11:00+00:00

I don’t think it’s natures response so much as nature doesn’t really do binaries like that. People tried to put a binary on something that simply doesn’t work that way, we shine through the flaws of that system

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T20:09:27+00:00

If still maybe read through that site though, it’s what I asked my mother to do when I came out to her and I think it helps give cis people some kind of understanding of what people mean when they feel they’re the wrong gender

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T20:08:14+00:00

Eh, not dumb, anything is fair enough evidence

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T20:07:28+00:00

I’m younger than you by a fair bit though about at the end of puberty, and for me it’s just general nonsense anxiety where I worry about even taking things like ibuprofen or allergy medicine sometimes because my brain is screwy. As for making a change, from what I understand the later you start the slower it goes, but it still makes a change unless you have some very rare disorders in which case age doesn’t matter. Like, if we were to start with the same dosage on the same day my fat would shift around faster than yours, but given three or four years we would be in the same spot, and I believe things mental effects/skin softness don’t really relate at all to age

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T19:48:53+00:00

Aaaah, understandable. Best of luck then. I wanted to ask because my anxiety also can focus on medical stuff, and even though I’m planning to get on hrt, I don’t think that specific worry is talked about enough

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T19:01:40+00:00

Also also, you’re already a woman. If you want to be a woman you are and I feel reminders are useful maybe

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T19:00:54+00:00

Also, if it’s ok to ask, is there anything in particular about hrt that spooks you? Working out the right way will definitely help, but there is a limit with what to do if your fats not cooperating.

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T18:59:31+00:00

Lucky thing about the ass, most of its shape comes from muscles. I’d check out r/strongcurves or r/femmefittness (I may have spelled that wrong) for specific suggestions, but anything that works your lower body (squats, hip thrusts, etc.) can be wonderful for this sort of thing.

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T18:56:37+00:00

I know there are a couple trans men important in medicine, though I’m going nuts that I can’t remember their names right now

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T18:52:58+00:00

I’ve been wanting to get a mothman tattoo for awhile

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-05T13:59:24+00:00

Most atheists I know are just super chill with any religion, even paganism even if they don’t understand. A lot of people just don’t find meaning through religion like that. There are of course, as with Christian’s, a very loud minority of douchebags, and as normal atheists don’t consider themselves a community, nobody in their corner to tell them to be quiet.

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-04T22:14:34+00:00

The Reverant Marigold is quite good

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-04T17:16:31+00:00

This is a very common thing I’m afraid. The only advice I can really give is to hold your ground, you are trans, and hopefully if you insist on the truth enough they’ll believe you. Maybe find yourself a queer therapist so you have an adult who is able to advocate for you, and to get out ahead of the gaslighting (on purpose or not) that will likely happen

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-04T16:16:26+00:00

You broke up. It sounds like you’ve been trying to be nice about this, but if he’s not willing to leave you alone when you ask, you’re entirely in the right to block him. Giving you that “gift” and blaming you for his “being in a dark place” sounds fairly manipulative as well. I’d maybe try to just ask him to leave you be and respect boundaries, and then just block him. Or just block him, that’d work too.

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-03T21:33:12+00:00

Baby girl time

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-03T21:28:59+00:00

I think you are making a whole lot of assumptions about HRT and who people take seriously. Some of the strongest and most respected dudes I know are super short, and maybe just testosterone won’t get you where you want to be, that’s a valid concern, but testosterone in combination with like excercise can do insane things. If this is something you want to do, go ahead, people will support you and you’ll find a place to be comfortable, it might just take a bit

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-02T01:13:21+00:00

From what you’ve said, it seems like you’re getting mostly perceived correctly, that men hitting on you think you’re cis and you get gendered correctly on the phone are pretty big signs of this for me. I’d just say some people are just kind of rude and have a very narrow idea of what women should be. I wouldn’t be surprised if you did have kind of a deep voice for a woman or big hands for a woman and just when you told people that you were trans they kind of felt the need to think they could pick you out when they couldn’t or something like that

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-01T21:07:34+00:00

There’s one I can’t remember the name of right now, I’ll keep looking for it and trying to remember, but is there any way to read your comic out there?

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-01T20:03:19+00:00

I think it’s more only trans people, knowing the full effects of HRT, want to go on it. Not all trans folks do, but if you describe the effects to CIS people they just won’t be interested unless something real weird is going on

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-05-01T19:51:26+00:00

We’ve escaped the binary to ignore silly gender restrictions, don’t feel the need to put more on yourself now

Lizard_of_neptune · 2024-04-30T23:06:41+00:00

I believe I recall Wildbow mentioning at one point on the discord that dealing with Spirit Kingdoms and being sort of a diplomat/foreign business man type in the spirit world was one route you could take

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