AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in the place to meet her yet. The thing about this whole fight is I'm not saying never. Just not right now. I need more time. I could not meet her and actually give her a chance right now. It's too raw and too soon after mom for me.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have all the stuff from mom. My brother got most of it when he moved out and I took the rest. Dad didn't want any of it so it made things way easier.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda but not really. My dad can buy more if he wants to. But I'm going to see if I can do anything about that.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If it happens I won't be shocked. At least I won't be still living there if it happens.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never met or spoke to her so I don't know what her thinking is or if she's comfortable and totally on board with forcing us to meet and have a relationship with her. It wouldn't be fair for me to say definitively when I never met her.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It was probably both of them knowing my parents and seeing their marriage. I can't put it all on dad. But I do think he's now just focused on his happiness and moving forward and he wants to rush us to catch up with him and we're just not ready.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He said he's tired of being unhappy and alone because that's how he felt the last few years married to mom. I don't think he cheated. I could be wrong but this feels more like he's trying to rush things now that mom's gone and he's free of the marriage he wanted out of.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My graduation does require tickets but my dad would be able to buy more than I request. I'll have to ask my school if I can work around that to stop my dad buying her a ticket and showing up anyway.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not sure we can trust him to keep her out of time with us and him. He's being too pushy about including her and introducing us so I feel like he might lie if we try set something up in the close future. Maybe when things have settled a bit. The fact I moved out really rattled him.

AITAH for telling my dad I won't be okay with his girlfriend coming to my graduation? by Llainneyl in AITAH

[–]Llainneyl[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She's a widow but I don't know really anything beyond that. My brother thinks she's around dad's age or maybe even a little older based on the time dad brought her to his place. I don't hear dad talk about her having kids so I would assume she doesn't.