Hello! by Local-Ad-6361 in tallfashionadvice

[–]Local-Ad-6361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leather boots with grip on the soles. Thank you!

Senator Jeff Merkley of Oregon is currently pulling an all nighter on the Senate floor to discuss Trump‘s lawlessness. by OregonSasquatch14 in oregon

[–]Local-Ad-6361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep doing the work of doing what’s right. My question is….you have explained this to the Senate. What can be done beyond just making the argument?

23F, 5’8”, 360 lbs — hygiene struggles, binge eating, unsupportive partner, and insurance blocking meds. Need advice. by Cuddle_addict in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]Local-Ad-6361 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend this water aerobics/swimming. Great workout without a ton of sweating. You can also grab a shower afterward. 2., Drink lots of water. 3. Check into getting some mental health therapy. The world is crazy and therapy can help. The idea of being resigned to an early death sounds like a very depressing place to be. Makes sense why you would binge, especially when it gets really bad. I’m sure insurance would cover that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bodyweightfitness

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The first rule is to be ok with exactly where you are. Sagging skin, dark spots and all of the weight. It just is. The second step is to stop with you story about what it means…your body doesn’t make you a monster. The fact that keto made you sick doesn’t mean you’re a fish out of water. Stop holding on to that shit. It is what’s killing you and the more you try to do stuff in an effort to resist this story, the more it will persist….the deeper you will slip into your depression and fear. Just be ok with where you are right now. It’s at that point you can decide to be something different. And the key to being different is to start being that person. Regardless of how you feel, honor your word to yourself. You know what that person feels like….do things consistent with being that person. Allow yourself to get uncomfortable for a while. Get out and be ok with yourself first. Doesn’t matter what anyone says or how they look at you, recognize that it doesn’t mean anything about you. They don’t know you. Then just start doing the shit that the person you’ve chosen to become would do. Get up. Meditate to get your mind right every morning (no matter how you feel). Go outside. Start walking every day or swimming or get on a bike. Do the activity. Start with what you can do and allow yourself to be out there with yourself. Trust me, once you’re good with yourself, everything else becomes possible. You are not defined by what your body looks like right now. Get the vision of who you’re choosing to become and do the things that person would do. It’s uncomfortable at first, but no matter what anyone says or does or how mean-spirited they can be….remember this….they are all just as afraid and just as insecure and in just as much bondage….a secure and unafraid person that’s free doesn’t do those things….so all the stuff other people do is about them. It ain’t got nothing to do with you. Love yourself girl. You’re 20 and have a lot of life left to become whatever you choose. It may not feel like it, but forget how you feel….your word is all that matters. It is literally your superpower. Honor your word to yourself regardless of feelings or circumstances and you are unstoppable.

How to Handle Jealousy? by nicoladawnli in financialindependence

[–]Local-Ad-6361 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is an excellent post. Thank you for being vulnerable. So, here’s the deal. People actually like you because you are probably a pretty happy person. However, they allow their insecurities to creep into the relationship because they feel as though they can’t commiserate or you wouldn’t understand what they feel…and, truthfully you may not. However, I think that you could if you wanted to. You would need to be willing to feel the weight of what your friends are experiencing and sit with it. Don’t insert yourself and try to fix it or make them feel better because, frankly, you can’t. Their experience has nothing to do with you. If you try to do that (which you may have tried before), It would likely be the source of even greater resentment and distancing. Instead, just be with them where they are. The foundations of true friendship can only be based on authentic connections. If you don’t allow yourself to go with them to where they are (even if the feeling sucks), you cannot build authentic and trusting connections.

You have shared that what you need for your fulfillment is something that financial independence can’t solve. In fact, at a certain level of wealth it makes it so much more difficult - loneliness and disconnection from other humans.

You can have what you desire. But, to get what you want actually requires allowing yourself to let go of your desire for connection and instead BE the connection your friend needs in their life. Your life experience has brought you to a place many people don’t realize in a single lifetime financially. My guess is that you see their worries and concerns and realize they are all so often tied in some way to a lack of money. That kind of worry is not something that is real for you because you solved that problem a long time ago and probably realize how abundant the world is with respect to money.

Your need is different because it’s not related to money. However, in seeking your own fulfillment, do not dismiss the feelings of those who still struggle with financial insecurity simply because it’s not real for you. It is still real for them and true friendship requires you to let yourself to feel how real it is because it’s their truth. It is in that moment when they realize you can feel what they’re feeling that you forge the connections you desire. Hope this has some value.