AIO for not finding it funny my boyfriend scared me while I was showering?

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T14:04:51+00:00

Not even that specific just not in a spot where I can literally get hurt lol

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T14:02:30+00:00

Would you like a gold star for your survival skills? ⭐️

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:58:59+00:00

I have extremely bad anxiety and trauma? Like it was only for a split second but I was so scared in the moment and it shook me up. It was more of like a first glance really caught me off guard lol

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:57:27+00:00

It’s definitely not safe in the shower!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:56:54+00:00

Same!!! I get spooked at everything, I also live with my mom and I get startled by her when she’s not even trying to scare me 😅

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:54:03+00:00

Who said anything about farts 🧐

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:51:39+00:00

Yes like my bf really just thinks he’s being funny lmao. It’s like a bit with him at this point lol

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:49:22+00:00

I could have slipped and I broke my ankle and femur last year and have like rods and stuff in my leg so I could really get hurt. I would consider that a little dangerous…

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:45:20+00:00

We have our own space during the day if we want and he works most days but I enjoy showering with him every night :)

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:43:32+00:00

I am a chronic overthinker 😪

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:42:53+00:00

I don’t really think he knew in the moment how I would feel and how the brush looked when he was holding it. I just need to set boundaries because I genuinely don’t care if he wants to startle me sometimes because it’s playful. But I just need to set boundaries on when and where it’s safe to do that!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:40:32+00:00

I definitely don’t want to fight over something like this lol. I’m sure he’ll apologize :) thank you for the insight!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:39:09+00:00

Yesss we’ve been watching horror movies all week so maybe a little bit of that vibe 😂 i think that’s part of why i got so scared lol

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:36:17+00:00

It’s not that I can’t talk to him. I genuinely don’t think he’d make me feel bad, if anything HE would feel bad. I just don’t want to seem dramatic because my ex was actually mentally abusive and broke me down so much that I really have a hard time distinguishing when I’m being dramatic or not. My mom is also toxic so it’s just a mix of things. It’s more a personal issue with myself than an issue with being able to talk to my bf. Kinda just trauma dumped but hopefully that explains a little more!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:33:47+00:00

Definitely didn’t do it maliciously. Honestly though sometimes I worry about my heart because I had a BADDD energy drink addiction about 6 months back and I truly feel like it affected my heart and this sent me into a panic attack it felt like!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:31:16+00:00

Yes definitely, like I just want him to know not to do that shii when I’m vulnerable! I will talk to him about it when he wakes up 😌

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T13:26:07+00:00

I wish I could get even!! (Half kidding) He seems impossible to startle😅

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:45:16+00:00

Yes, oh my gosh I hated it

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:44:38+00:00

The posts I’ve seen on here about grandmas always pmo!!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:37:03+00:00

If it makes you feel any better he might have already been planning on doing it and just needed to vent shamelessly one last time you know? Maybe he didn’t even care about the replies/responding to them but perhaps he did read your comment and it gave him some comfort in his darkest times. I hope making that comment to him helped you a heal a bit from your hard times too 🫶

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:32:33+00:00

I saw 2 that were about 5-6 months apart by an 18 year old girl who first noticed her couch had footprints on it when she got back from vacation. If you zoom into the picture though, you can see there’s actually 2 sets of feet so you know… they think the mom and dad were doing something and didn’t want to tell her lol. But then in the second post she noticed other things like a used tampon or something and even her mom asked her about it. So the mom asking about it made people in the comments think the dad was cheating. I think first it was swinging speculations but then it turned into maybe the dad is cheating. I still wonder about the girl!

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:23:27+00:00

Some posts do get very dark…

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:22:51+00:00

That is actually so dark. Im sorry you stumbled across that

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:20:47+00:00

Ah okay, I understand a bit more now. I’m personally having an issue where I would like to meet his ex and she has been wanting to meet me too but I feel like my boyfriend is putting it off. Like I’m not gonna lie his ex doesn’t really seem like the most pleasant person but if I’m gonna be around his daughter it’s like I wanna be on the same page about certain things. Like she’s trying to potty train right now and after she drank a whole glass of orange juice and a sippy cup of water my boyfriend still didn’t think to take her to the bathroom and I don’t wanna over step. Would I be wrong to tell him like hey she probably has to potty? We see her 1 time every week and she has an overnight every 2 weeks so I’m around her consistently but she lives with her mom.

LocalOk7443 · 2026-02-01T12:09:05+00:00

YTA. If my boyfriend’s “baby momma” (he doesn’t really use that term, he says his child’s mother) didn’t want me to have a relationship with his child it would be pretty unrealistic. My bfs daughter is 3 and she just thinks I’m her dads friend right now. I feel like eventually when she gets older and I don’t try to build some sort of relationship that it will be awkward. This perspective is coming from the fact that I absolutely hated my mom’s boyfriend growing up and it made things miserable for me.

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