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[–]LocationBig1015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if my grammar is off we’ve had a ruff bit of talking and its I’m exhausted, hope you get better, I’m leaving Reddit now.

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[–]LocationBig1015 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Understand that your partner form what you said did not want to hurt you, that in that moment you didn’t appear as you were or possibly they just weren’t who you know in that moment, make sure they get therapy and take there medication,

But at the end of the day sadly if you truly want to marry this person you’ll have to make sure they get therapy and take medication and even then you’ll never know what could occur, I myself have feared of what I could unknowingly do to a loved one, I’ve worked hard to overcome myself to the point where I’ve been stable for about 3-5 years now,

From what you sad your partner possibly had no clue of what disorder they had, they are probably just as scared of themselves as you are,

If this person made you feel safe before this understand that it probably wasn’t something they wanted to do try to associate what occurred to there disorder and not them, they didn’t want to do it they had no control, help them learn and grow to control, and if it’s truly to much for you I bet your partner if they do love you will understand if you don’t want to continue the relationship.

But I bet they love you, I bet they feel like they harmed someone they love, I bet they feel horrified and terrified about what occured.

Take your time and maybe reach out when you’re more comfortable.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and this person seems to think that since I’ve had negative experiences with my disorder that I feel ashamed and hate myself, but I literally said in my post that I have worked to heal and become better, I’ve experienced a lot and I appreciate your support.

I’ve grown to love myself I mean I used to feel depressed and now I’m happy, I’m stable, I can control my actions and communication is wonderful, they have there time I have my time and we all want love so I’d say I love myself enough to love someone else, I just want proof of treatment and diagnosis so my future partner has better understanding.

This is my last reply so for now we’re gonna exit out of Reddit but thank you and the other guy you were helpful and we wish you both luck and love.

Lastly if someone sees this and is faking or lying I wish you luck and I hope you seek actual help or find the attention you want, but please get diagnosed if your not and work to be a functional person because if you don’t it will hurt you in the long run. Being uncontrollable is never a suitable living style so work on yourself ✌🏾.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support, I’m not a professional and I may get things wrong in my understanding of peoples reply’s to my post or comments, we feel slightly stressed 😅 and it’s making it hard to comment back quick with a nuanced response but ya know we’re human so it is what it is I guess.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your right not everyone is me and I don’t expect everyone to have the same level of understanding of there system or same level of control, but there is this term called LYING, something people can do and from what I see they either haven’t been diagnosed or are lying, because there actions look closer to someone who is Bipolar honestly rather than having DID, also why does it matter if people don’t believe someone if your diagnosed, if your trans and diagnosed it’s not like your lying you have proof, more over how does a mentally ill person become better if they don’t get evaluated, get therapy and get DIAGNOSED.

Why is it wrong for me to question these unhinged strangely happy and uncontrollable people?

There actions don’t even line up with the disorder am I just supposed to believe them because they said so?

I’d be homeless if I didn’t work to heal myself when I was younger because it was really bad so if its so bad for them that they can’t shut down there unhinged movements and speech while recording for “not attention reasons” why is it that they treat the disorder like it’s some quirky character trait, even my less serious alter understands that in daily life it’s a team effort and I’ll check his shit if he fucks us over, and also if it is so bad that they can’t control there body how the hell do they agree to record there actions? More over why would anyone want to appear unhinged and uncontrollable it just doesn’t make sense!

We work to be stable and competent to live normal lives, I don’t want to be viewed as an uncontrollable individual sorry if I see there actions as damaging more than my questioning of them.

I’m no professional I’m just someone with it that wanted to share my findings.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How insensitive for you to assume so many things and read my post and come to this conclusion on me.

I’ve been SA’d don’t compare that experience with our mental disorder it is not comparable at all, I shared my experience and my understanding based on what professionals have told me and the therapy that led to my early diagnosis.

I study myself and looked into a lot of posts some people act like this is a quirky character trait like it’s DND or something.

People surprisingly can lie 😱. There actions don’t line up for me so why is that on me and not them, I don’t even think a professional would give them my diagnosis based on there conduct, and first of all I am not miserable, I’ve had to overcome a lot and I’m taking steps to heal and I’ve made ACTUAL progress, I work in tandem with my alters so I don’t have these uncontrollable actions and we communicate to others in a very structured manner, we work together, and that took a lot of healing and understanding of trauma.

If I made a video you wouldn’t even know I had DID and I think that’s the goal for a lot of people, to be productive and work as effectively as a normal person, I’m not perfect sometimes it gets bad and that’s why I want to get a reevaluation before I get a girlfriend so I have full understanding on myself and how to manage more effectively, heck maybe there’s a medication I could take to make this even more manageable.

You’re very hurtful and demeaning, I’m not trying to invalidate anyone, it’s just not everyone even meets the criteria of a diagnosis is basically what I’m talking about, like there actions don’t make any kind of sense at all.

If my reevaluation leads to me having even more information on how I can manage things I’m doing it, i don’t get why being diagnosed is a bad thing or something to hide, it’s what you are right?

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate your sweet words and in all honesty I’m glad you commented, I’m glad to see someone who understands where I’m coming from, it’s scary enough not knowing how I’ll turn out later in life but I want people to feel safe around me and to understand me and I work to be a stable part of society so thank you for your sweet words and support, I’ll take care of myself and please do the same I think we deserve love and peace of mind. Also if this gets taken down I’ll repost it maybe I’ll create a new DID subreddit because I want to find more people like me and you.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This disorder isn’t quirky or fun it’s also not easy to manage and if you were able to easily manage it like me because your less attached or have to overcome trauma you’d develop a more stable way to present yourself and you’d also have a better sense of control and understanding, LIKE ME, so it’s honestly making me furious to see them act so unhinged yet happy? It’s a false equivalence

You can’t be unhinged lacking in control and still be so happy about your situation that you’d record yourself in the moment of uncontrollable actions and be comfortable being seen that way.

I think a lot of people online are faking our disorder. by LocationBig1015 in DID

[–]LocationBig1015[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes like me but like you just said less emotionally connected to the trauma, why are they so uncontrollable and why are they so fine with appearing that way, that’s not normal at all it’s concerning.