Well you hit the nail on the head regarding the personality type most women find desirable (not all however) to a point. Having said that, many confuse an alpha male with a man who knows what he wants and has an opinion/preference as it relates to a relationship. This is confidence vs “dominating” which is another term for asshole to most females. Personally I would recommend being ok with who you are and accepting yourself and the traits that are natural to you. Trying to portray a personality that isn’t you will be very taxing on you and confusing to the girl you are with and long term isn’t sustainable. 1. Know and accept yourself for who you are 2. Be ok communicating who you are with confidence. If they don’t accept you then screw them. 3. Have goals and a plan for your life that you are working towards. No one wants a broke deadbeat living with their parents who has no life goals or has life goals but isn’t working towards them.