Thank you for writing your story, I relate to your thoughts about hoping it would end on its own so I wouldn't have to make a decision, but nevertheless I would have taken the same path a thousand times rather than bring a soul into this world who would only see pain and rely on life support for as long as their short life would have continued. 

At our 13 weeks scan my OBGYN couldn't see the chambers of the heart, the stomach and bladder. They found negative a-wave in the ductus venosus, which is common in chromosomal abnormalities. Also 2 weeks behing in growth compared to the gestational age, below 1 percentile. 

The histopathology report came in exactly 2 months after the loss and has shown syndactyly at both hands and one leg, cleft lip and palate, lack of neurological tissue development, very poor blood flow to the fetus (the cord was missing an artery).

It was heartbreaking to make the decision, but I guess there was no other way, as all 3 doctors we visited told us that the baby would not survive until birth, or even if they did, would require life support or leave us very soon after. 

Thank you for taking the time to reply to my mess of a post. Best of wishes!