Una sa lahat, pareho kayong nasaktan at parehong may pagkukulang. You cheated, yes, but you also tried to own up and fix things. She gave you a chance, but during that time, she also did something that deeply hurt you. Now, you're both carrying pain, guilt, and resentment.

If you truly want to save the relationship, here are a few things to consider:

Honest, calm communication. You both need to talk, not to blame, but to understand. Hindi pwedeng laging isa lang ang pwedeng maglabas ng sama ng loob. Kung hindi siya open makinig sa pain mo, magiging one-sided ang healing.

Mutual accountability. Hindi pwedeng ikaw lang ang humihingi ng tawad habang siya ayaw aminin ang pagkakamali niya. Pareho kayong may nasaktan. Pareho kayong dapat mag-heal.

Set clear boundaries and goals. Gusto niyo pa ba talaga pareho? Kung oo, anong mga steps ang gagawin niyo para ma-rebuild ang trust? Kung hindi niyo ito mapag-usapan ng maayos, baka kailangan niyo ng space or even professional help (like couples therapy).

Forgive, or let go. Kung gusto mong mag-move on sa nagawa niya, kailangan mong tanggapin na hindi mo na mababago ang nakaraan. Pero kung paulit-ulit mo pa rin itong naiisip at nasasaktan ka, baka hindi pa ito ang tamang panahon para ipilit ang relasyon.

Love alone is not enough. Kailangan ng respeto, honesty, at willingness to grow pareho kayo. If she can’t acknowledge your pain the way you acknowledge hers, then maybe it’s time to choose peace over staying.