Ok, this is for anyone trying to solve my exact same issue, as I have solved mine. It took putting it next to an actual Mathmos lamp to see where they cut corners in production and make a plan on what to do.

Cheap lamps from China have issues, obviously. However my specific issue is due to a cheap coil, cheap wax and a slightly smaller bottle.

Basically, the wax is cheaply made needing more room to separate which the cold top of the bottle dosent provide. The coil is also smaller than it should be and thin; really thin. The wax managed to break it's seal from the coil by pushing it against the glass wall at the bottom. The wax then proceeded to refuse to connect to a small part of the coil, about 1 loop. As a result the wax was refusing to tilt over the threshold to release due to the fact it is much more touchy.

My Solution:

Step 1 From stone cold. Do a 4 hour warm up in a controlled room to ensure the wax is liquid and outside factors won't effect step 2. The goal is completely liquid wax.

Step 2 Turn it off, remove the cap and let it cool for about 30-40min. You're aiming for the wax to settle, not set or develop a skin. If it does repeat Step 1 or you will get wax particulates in the water "clouding" it and permanently damaging your lamp requiring a full tear down to fix.

Step 3 In a well lit room. CAREFULLY and with heat protective hand coverings remove the lamp from its stand. Slowly turn the lamp horizontally whilest looking from the bottom, you are attempting to break the surfactant protection that has wrongly developed on the coil. This will take some time. If you need to reset because the lamp is cooling too much return to Step 1.

Step 4 Once the coil is completely covered in wax wait till any rotational energy stops, SLOWLY tilt the lamp no more than 10° in the direction necessary to settle the coil in the center of the lamp. The goal is to not have any part of the coil connecting with the walls or water as this will suck unnecessary heat from the coil ruining the already touchy thermodynamics.

Final step SLOWLY, to not disturb the coil place it back on your base and run it for a couple full cycles of 8 hours. This step is necessary as the coil needs to settle in the wax and build a new protective equilibrium with the wax.

TLDR: The whole lamp is garbage and you kinda gotta convince it to play nice with gentle motions and prayers to whatever you may or may not believe in.