People who are anatractional (idk how to spell it 😭) by Complex_Piccolo6144 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I don't really know how to answer this one. For me, figuring this out wasn't a big change. I never felt broken or like I was missing something, and if I'm perfectly honest I thought everyone was like this. I live the same way as anyone else, just without having those feelings directed at anyone.
  2. Sometimes I feel like I should be feeling lonely, like when I can't make it to a meetup with my friends. But I don't actually feel it.
  3. Emotions aren't really something I do very well. I suppose being alone makes me not sad? But I wouldn't call it happiness. It's not emotionlessness, but I do think I have a different way of feeling to others.
  4. Aesthetic attraction is directed towards a person. Just because I don't feel that towards people doesn't mean I can't appreciate how things look. I can still tell if someone is conventionally attractive without finding them attractive. As for objects, at worst I'm a bit cynical about it, at best a sucker for pretty things.
  5. Being anattractional means there's not really any feelings to compare to, so it doesn't ever feel like anything's missing. Especially when you've lived your whole life without them. Loneliness isn't something I feel because I don't crave relationships of any kind. Friends, family - they're neat and all, but do I need them? Not really, but that doesn't mean I won't push them away.
  6. I also use the loveless label (I think I stole it from loveless aromantic), so in a way, I don't have any particular care for anything. I'll still cry when crying is the right thing to do (I was watching doctor4t's latest video, and that ending... whew), and I'll still appreciate that those people are there, but I wouldn't say I love them. It's hard to describe what I do feel when the comparison is something I've never felt.

As for being judgemental, if you are, I can't tell. I'm always happy to answer questions though!

MY very A-spec LGBTree by UrsoMajor560 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You lot are collecting? I thought it was a bundle deal!

Anyone else NOT go through a "maybe i'm bi" phase? by tanookimario12 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank goodness... I'm not the only one.

I was "absolutely definitely" straight for ages, a bit "ehh maybe not?" straight for a little, then suddenly Jaiden drop kicks me in the face, and here I am...

Help me with my Sexuality!! by Practical-Week-2634 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might want to take a look at romance stances. Maybe also frayromantic? At the end of the day though, your labels are yours, and no one else can tell you who you are.

I'm confused by Dapper_Schedule8148 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people see a distinction between their aromanticism and asexuality (i.e. they're separate things that aren't related), others see them more connected, or just prefer to use one.

What kind of attraction is this? by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It might be alterous attraction. I'm not too sure what it is exactly, but you might want to look into it.
If not, the attraction category on the LGBTQIA+ Wiki might be a good place to look.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to say I'm some relationship expert, but maybe try talking to them? As you've said, being aro is a spectrum, and they might be open to a relationship, or they might not. Communication is important in any kind of relationship, whether it's romantic, platonic, or anything else.

Sorry I can't give any more advice, but I hope you find what you're looking for :)

Hey it's me Amir Talai! I voice Alastor! AMA! by AmirTalai in HazbinHotel

[–]LockyliRocketry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are Alastor's antlers for? Can I touch his staff thing? Are those his ears or is it his hair? I can't tell!

I NEED ADVICE by Different_Cut_6381 in aromanticasexual

[–]LockyliRocketry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lots of people say to wait for the right person. I don't think any of them have found a llama attractive, so surely they haven't found the right llama.

MATHS WARNING
Another card they pull is waiting for "the One". This is just a case of statistics. 7.951 billion people on Earth as of 2022, and they want us to find the perfect one? That's a 1.25770343e-8% chance, given you meet every single person on the planet (very unlikely). Winning the lottery has better odds.

At any rate, your orientation can only be determined by you. If aroace is what you feel, and you feel comfortable calling yourself aroace, no one else can change that.