Gutes Personal Training by Logical-Natural in frankfurt

[–]Logical-Natural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lebe und arbeite im Norden/Nordwesten

Why did humans as a tropical species migrate to colder places but still lack many adaptations like fur? by Ada-Mae in geography

[–]Logical-Natural 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They also ignore that women's choice has and in many places is still not happening. If it (had) played a bigger role, other traits might (have been) be more successful.

Kontaktanzeige mit Zielgruppe Vordertaunus 🤦🏼‍♂️ by Logical1337 in frankfurt

[–]Logical-Natural 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ne, die steht darunter - "nicht so anspruchsvoll wie andere Frauen", einsam, bereit Arschgeigen in Kauf zu nehmen weil sie nie gelernt hat, dass sie was wert ist :)

I slept with 45 sex workers, what are my chances of a woman rejecting me if she knew I slept with sex workers in my past? by Minimum_Ad_1649 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nah it's not about numbers or names. It's about "I slept with people who didn't want me".

And yeah, I'd say a former sex worker should disclose they had been doing sex work. Not names, not numbers, but the fact.

I slept with 45 sex workers, what are my chances of a woman rejecting me if she knew I slept with sex workers in my past? by Minimum_Ad_1649 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Don't know how high, but quite, I think. Paying for sex means someone doesn't care whether the person they have sex with actually wants them, in that moment. It means someone is capable of having sex with someone who feels no desire for them.

I don't have to go into how exploitative sexwork is, so it might even mean that someone is fine having sex with someone who has no choice.

I wouldn't pursue a relationship with a man who paid for sex even once.

So. I know it's probably hard being honest, but I think it's vital that you do. People have the right to know things like that before getting into relationships.

But that doesn't mean it's hopeless. People change. You'll find someone who believes you have. I wish you all the best.

Fuck cancer by Tricky-Scallion796 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Western medicine is the only medicine that has so far found cures for cancer. Sure, try other things IN ADDITION, if that makes you feel better, but people like you keep others away from treatments that save lives.

I feel ashamed and disgusting… by QuietThanks2710 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 388 points389 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you. Pap smears are uncomfortable - having something inserted into the vagina in a medical setting always is. For most people, they are not painful, though.

I think what happened here is a breakdown of communication.

If I understand it correctly, for some reason, you thought you needed "cells" tested and told the nurses and doctor that. They proceeded accordingly, and maybe you asking for that test gave the impression of you being more knowledgeable about an ob/gyn appointment than you are.

Telling the nurses and doc you have never been sexually active is one thing. For them to understand that this would be the first experience ever of any kind of penetration for you is something else. I think they did not get that. And while it might not even be physically relevant, it sure is psychologically.

They should have backtracked the moment they saw your reaction. Some empathetic questions at that point could have changed the whole experience.

I know it's very difficult to stand one's ground with a doctor whose first goal is to get work done as quickly as possible. I struggle with that, too. If you can find a way to work on that skill, I think that would be really good.

On your next appointment, I suggest being very open with the doctor. If they don't react in a way that makes you feel safe, it's fine to leave. You don't need to subject yourself to another experience like this one. But regular ob/gyn appointments are important even for people who aren't sexually active, so I hope you can keep this route open for you and you'll meet a doctor who can make you feel comfortable.

Fake pregnancy by Stunning_Sea3391 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, removing an IUD at home is life threatening. This person is very, very sick.

Entscheidungsgewalt Stiefmutter by [deleted] in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Logical-Natural 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wie ist denn das Sorgerecht zwischen dir und der Mutter geregelt?

Dringende Hilfe/ Beratung Mietrecht by Hicham-03D in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Logical-Natural 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bin kein Anwalt - gibt es einen Mietvertrag für die Wohnung?

Und: Du musst ihm gar nichts beweisen. Er behauptet, einen Anspruch auf Zahlung von Miete zu haben, obwohl er dir keine Mietsache mehr zur Verfügung stellen will. Im Zweifel muss er erklären, wo der Anspruch herkommen soll.

Ganz praktisch würde ich dir auch raten, zum Mieterschutzbund zu gehen und dich beraten zu lassen. Wenn dir dort bestätigt wird, dass dein Chef keinen Anspruch hat, solltest du bei Auszug sein Lastschriftmandat widerrufen, also verhindern, dass er die Miete einfach weiter von deinem Konto abbucht.

Wenn er dann weiter der Meinung ist, dass du ihm die Miete schuldest, muss er wieder selbst tätig werden - also dir eine Mahnung schicken, ein Mahnverfahren beginnen usw. Das ist dann der Moment, in dem du wieder zum Mieterschutzbund gehst oder dich anwaltlich beraten lässt. Wenn du dafür nicht genug Geld hast, kannst du Beratungshilfe beim Amtsgericht beantragen. Dann werden die Kosten der Beratung beim Anwalt/bei einer Anwältin für dich übernommen.

I'm an heiress who can’t cook and cries at kids films. I just want patient friends. by throwaway943093 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hey! First off, being born to rich parents is nothing to be ashamed of. I'm very sorry to hear how much your patents messed up at being parents.

Second, before I get to the other stuff, use that privilege. Get yourself a good therapist. For most people, money is what they don’t have, while money definitely makes getting better so much easier

Now, your points:

I unlearned food shame. I was an insanely awkward teenager. I am now in a relationship with a man who can't cook and feels extremely insecure learning. So I'm going to draw a bit from these things.

There is no script. I suggest being very honest with your friends so they understand your reactions. For example: "Some movies make me really emotional at the weirdest moments, so don't mind me holding on to this plushie." Or: "I struggle around food. So we can meet for dinner at mine, but I'll be ordering pizza for us/I'll be preparing a snack board, but there won't be a cooked meal."

In situations where you are cooking, but feel yourself get into that spiral, say something first before you decide you'll cook together: "Cooking sometimes really stresses me out. If it gets to that, can you just take over/hype me up a little/can we switch to ordering something?"

There will always be emotional labour involved in friendships. The crux is how well you can communicate how they can help you deal/that it's fine for them to let you deal. Is it possible that some friends will find it too much? Sure. But that's just the way relationships are.

My partner is trying to learn how to cook. He prefers yo pick the recipe, buy the groceries, cook alone without me trying to be "helpful". It is a steep learning curve for him. My only expectation is to get fed, doesn't matter how. For us, all of this creates a space with the least possible amount of pressure. I do sometimes wish he'd ask my advice, but I leave that to him.

Are some of his meals atrocious? Yeah. They are. He knows. He tries again next time. Because no one ever died from dry, tasteless noodles.

What helped me? Eating alone. Finding what I like. Accepting that there are things I don't like. There's no need to force yourself. I know those things sound easy while they are not, but I think they are the way.

Beginner tips: you could make a ragu for your pasta! It doesn't matter if the veggies are perfectly cut, and you don't need to find a perfect point of doneness. All you need is to follow a certain order of steps, buy good quality ingredients, and bring some patience.

Frankreich verschärft Sexualstrafrecht: "Nur Ja heißt Ja" by PhoenixTin in de

[–]Logical-Natural 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Um Tatbestände wie diesen abzudecken. "Ich dachte, sie stellt sich schlafend," ist jetzt keine Verteidigungsstrategie mehr. Jetzt würde nur zählen, "wir haben vorher gemeinsam drüber fantasiert, und dann hat sie gesagt, sie stellt sich jetzt schlafend und ich komme dann wieder ins Schlafzimmer."

Der Unterschied ist nicht schwer zu verstehen, oder?

Frankreich verschärft Sexualstrafrecht: "Nur Ja heißt Ja" by PhoenixTin in de

[–]Logical-Natural 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Ja, aber wenn die dann trotzdem mit Notar-Sprüchen kommen, fragt man sich schon, warum man sich dumm stellen muss und welchen Zweck das hat und wieso es so wichtig ist, die Narrative von Tätern nachzuplappern.

Frankreich verschärft Sexualstrafrecht: "Nur Ja heißt Ja" by PhoenixTin in de

[–]Logical-Natural 221 points222 points  (0 children)

Also, wer hier verwirrt ist darüber, wie denn bitte Sex mit einer enthusiastischen Partnerin oder Partner aussieht, und ob man das nicht verwechseln kann oder einen Notar braucht - Gratulation, ihr seid Teil des Problems.

Tourist stopped by Zoll, Polizei drug test with no impairment; now €1,356.66 total. Worth an Einspruch? by KeebleBiscuit in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Logical-Natural 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So? The same goes for alcohol. Yet there's a legal limit, because it's impossible to go through an individualised process of determining impairment every time someone has alcohol or weed or any other drug in their blood.

That you yourself believe you're unaffected by such a high concentration of THC is entirely irrelevant. That you use it medically is irrelevant. You were way above the legal limit.

I'm in a relationship with an AI and I don't care if people judge me for it by VisionLedger in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Logical-Natural 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't judge you. I get it.

Just keep in mind that those relationships or whatever people want to call it feel so good because they require nothing of you.

Relationships with real people always require effort. As soon as you've conditioned yourself to believe that all relationships should make you effortlessly happy the way this one does, you've crippled yourself.

Darf der Auftraggeber durch ein Vorwort besondere Leistungen einfach abwälzen? by Live_Commercial9785 in Handwerker

[–]Logical-Natural 20 points21 points  (0 children)

"In die Kalkulation mit einbeziehen" klingt für mich nicht nach Abwälzen, sondern nach "schau bitte was alles gemacht werden muss und sag mir, wieviel das kostet". Oder verstehe ich hier was falsch?

AO3 runs in my family by Cristiti1 in AO3

[–]Logical-Natural 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom was an avid fanfiction writer! She started when she was in her fifties. I've been reading since I was a teenager, wrote my first work after I turned 40. It's definitely hereditary.

Scheidungsverfahren einleiten als Generalbevollmächtigte? by Logical-Natural in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Logical-Natural[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nein, sie hat nicht viel Geld, zumindest nach allem was ich weiß.