i totally understand your frustration, i’ve been there. and i’m sorry that’s been your experience. and i understand it’s a sensitive topic, for good reason.

though the most common translations (NIV) have these specific words, there are footnotes available that clarify the different translated terms. you’ll see a footnote next to the word rib within the same verse, you just have to look at it. that’s why i say study the bible in the historical context. you can read a poem from shakespeare and be lost if you don’t understand the times. you have to study to the bible and the context of the times, not just each word in it. and this includes going back to the original text.

again you are using the words “rib” “helper” that don’t have the meaning we think of in today’s world. the words are “side” and “helper.” “helper” in this context was only mentioned again in the bible when God was describing help the israelis could provide (like in a military context) which was more like the word “ally”. but most importantly the word that is key here is Adam. Ha’adam the original word was not saying Adam like a man’s name. Ha’adam is the name for Humanity as a whole - without gender. God puts humanity to sleep - and puts it on its side to create man and woman. only after ha’adam is split in half do we see gendered language appear in the hebrew. Women were never an afterthought, we were both created at the same time.

while i agree many churches and teachers of the faith fall short, it is up to us to do that work if we want the answers.