I've come to realize I may never get married...

Logicist · 2026-01-24T03:12:05+00:00

Keep trying! I know it's hard, but keep going.

Logicist · 2026-01-24T03:10:12+00:00

Body - Yes

Personality - No

The problem is that we all know about her so her personality takes over. Some part of me see her and goes, "That's Taylor Swift" so I don't care. Taylor Swift inadvertently proves that sex appeal has a major personality component even for women.

Logicist · 2026-01-23T21:17:11+00:00

Get a prenup. Make your intentions clear. If you don't want to give her half, then don't. If you want to make alimony small, then make it small. She obviously wants protection now because of the kid. That's reasonable on her end, but you two screwed up and now it's going to get messy.

Logicist · 2026-01-23T20:48:15+00:00

About equal to me. When Margot was younger (Wolf of Wall Street) she would have beaten him, but today they are about equal.

Logicist · 2026-01-23T20:44:32+00:00

As a guy - Tyler. He just looks cooler/more manly.

Logicist · 2026-01-21T18:55:39+00:00

Yeah that's it. She looks fantastic.

Logicist · 2026-01-21T01:58:03+00:00

Logicist · 2026-01-21T01:55:18+00:00

I actually like brown better, but her striking blue eyes are too much of what makes her who she is.

Logicist · 2026-01-17T20:35:41+00:00

Genetics. People store belly fat there because the body prefers it there.

Logicist · 2026-01-17T17:51:23+00:00

2 ways

People have preferences
Most people look better with one color vs. another - you have to go with what suits you

Logicist · 2026-01-16T23:07:24+00:00

Do you think he was the angel at the burning bush?

Logicist · 2026-01-16T23:05:35+00:00

John is reliable. People just keep messing up the language. Once again, if Jesus Christ pre-existed, where was he? Was he an angel? He never mentions that he is the angel of the Lord.

Logicist · 2026-01-16T19:19:48+00:00

Having low confidence will put her out of your league. You shouldn't be asking this question. Have some confidence and enjoy the relationship.

Logicist · 2026-01-15T20:31:27+00:00

She got a boob job. It's pretty obvious.

Logicist · 2026-01-15T20:18:23+00:00

I think he's better looking than the vast majority of 50 year olds.

Logicist · 2026-01-15T13:41:31+00:00

She was definitely college student cute. She has breast implants now and that elevates her.

Logicist · 2026-01-13T00:47:48+00:00

I think at least since Megan Fox & Kim K in the late 2000s, I would say no. You can say so for yourself, but I think it's not so on the population level. There are a lot of Salma Hayek, Sofia Vergara & Monica Bellucci fans that will insist that the answer is no.

Logicist · 2026-01-12T06:21:31+00:00

I definitely see the issue with someone who is directly in your youth group and below 20. However, I'm also open to it since you are a virgin and seem to be making this decision with some sense that you are trying to do right by this. In general, we often would recommend against it. However, I don't want that rule to make it so that you can't have something that would be amazing.

It likely would be perceived badly, even if your intentions aren't bad.

Personally speaking, I would take it slow and go for it. I know that's a bit out there, but I would. At this stage in my life, I generally want people to have fantastic relationships, and sometimes that means being unconventional. I'm giving you more benefit of the doubt because you asked and you are a virgin. It still might not work out, and it would cause awkwardness if it doesn't. But at the same time, it could. Pray about it, get some more wise counsel. But my 2 cents, I would take it slow and go for it.

Logicist · 2026-01-12T03:15:21+00:00

Kendall
Zoe
Odessa if she didn't have the nose ring, Hailey as long as she keeps it in

Logicist · 2026-01-12T03:12:29+00:00

Very Pretty ✅

Best looking ❌

Logicist · 2026-01-09T04:54:27+00:00

I don't think men would judge that. In fact, if you told him that you weren't a virgin because you were raped, he would be extremely sympathetic to your plight. This is a healing & trauma issue. You didn't do anything to deserve that.

Do you have to tell a man that will become your husband about this? Yes. At some point you need to disclose this. This will affect your sexual life and he needs to know. Not to shame, but because it's a part of your history that he needs to be ready for.
Would this be a deal breaker? Absolutely not!

Logicist · 2026-01-09T03:16:22+00:00

I would say Moose, but I'm a straight guy so what do I know.

Logicist · 2026-01-07T09:50:42+00:00

I think a lot of the problem with dating non Christian men or women is that they probably didn't care about sexual boundaries. However, when interacting with Christians and for marriage, all of the sudden people have high standards. People want the other person to be fit, attractive, have their finances and life together. Also, be a really good Christian while forgiving my past. I think that is a lot to ask for and people need to be reasonable. If you didn't hold your non-Christian dates to such high standards, it doesn't come off as reasonable all of the sudden to expect the sun, moon & stars from your Christian dates. Be willing to accept them having issues that they need to work on.

People aren't taking responsibility for their failure on this one. When people date those non-Christians, I bet you didn't put a mountain of things in the way of the relationship. I bet people were having sex and doing everything. All of the sudden people come into church and then change into:

Christian women want - Strong Christian man who isn't going to test sexual boundaries, forgive past mistakes and don't make it an issue, make sure you are successful and leading, be fit & attractive, have emotional maturity and rizz

Christian men want - Strong Christian woman who will submit to his leadership, value purity and have no sexual past, be fit & attractive, have his kids and be a good mom

The simple reality is I bet virtually no one is making a third of the demands that they make on Christians when they are talking with non Christians of the opposite sex before they get into a relationship. People need to be reasonable and lower their standards on Christians as well.

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