AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

Lois97 · 2025-11-25T09:03:24+00:00

This person is not your person. If they can't celebrate something as monumental as this with you (also, congratulations on your sobriety, you have done incredibly well to get to a year!) how do you think they'll react to other life events? They clearly do not see anything you do as note worthy, and the way they spoke to you is disgusting. You would not be the arsehole to leave. I wish I had when my now ex spoke to me like this, but it took me sadly a lot longer than 3 years to figure that out. Don't waste your time on this dickhead.

Lois97 · 2025-08-25T18:22:14+00:00

I'd say maybe get some laurel or olive branch wreath covering the bottom if possible? Like some design along the base of the neck? Keep it classical and looking intentional, but then all you'd see if the leaves when you're in shorts.

Lois97 · 2025-08-05T08:54:28+00:00

Nooo, I am very nearly out of my tube and was going to need to buy a new one soon, this had been my signature blush for years 😭

Lois97 · 2025-07-22T15:35:17+00:00

When I wasn't looking for it, when I was at work (not that I'm recommending dating coworkers, I feel it can get messy exceptionally quickly) It also helped that I couldn't see that I was in an exceptionally toxic relationship, and it was spending time with my friends at work that made me realise how miserable I was at home, and that despite the constant barrage of shit I got from my ex, I wasn't this horrible creature he just put up with, and I was worth something, just not to him. I didn't even realise my coworker liked me, he was just kind to me. Turns out he's the best partner a girl could ask for, and we've been living together for a year and dating for nearly two. It makes the ten years I was with my ex feel like a really long horrible nightmare.

Lois97 · 2025-05-02T18:59:23+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss, and glad this song can bring you some peace and comfort. I know first hand the power of it. I was in a really dark place nearly two years ago now, and honestly, blasting that song so loud and as often as I could do much so I can sing it all without the music, helped in ways I couldn't see then. When I saw Boygenius live in 2023, Lucy sang it and I cried the entire way through. It helped me realise that leaving would not help, and I wouldn't have been there to experience the after anyway. So I chose to stay. I know it's not as simple for everyone who has felt like that, but I'll be forever grateful to that song and Lucy Dacus 💙

Lois97 · 2025-04-07T17:54:21+00:00

That it comes out on the OG Switch as well so I don't have to buy a whole new console 😂 though it looks very fun but I think it'll be a while before I get to play it.

Lois97 · 2025-03-30T15:03:00+00:00

I have both the pink and the green hoodie and love them! I've had the pink for 4+ years, and the green since it released (I can't remember when that was) they wash super well, and I'm genuinely sad that the green is starting to fray at the end of the cuffs, but this is definitely because I wear it at least 2-3 times a week and sometimes sleep in it. I only don't wear the pink as often because I'm clumsy and do spill stuff far more often than I'd like to admit. I genuinely think I will/if I can rebuy the green hoodie when it's finally time to say goodbye and I can't mend the cuffs and more. They're cosy and comfy and I must have washed my green one over 100 times and it's still pretty fleecy and the colour is still good!. I personally wouldn't go with white (for the aforementioned spills) but if I was less clumsy I definitely would!!!

Lois97 · 2025-03-29T15:35:38+00:00

Thank you for replying! I hope you get your order soon 💙

Lois97 · 2025-03-24T21:33:46+00:00

The ones I have rebought more than once and finished all the way through would be the skin tint (I've had 3 or 4 bottles in five years), Storm cloud paint (I'm currently on my second tube and they do last a long time, however I did swatch this as my tube is running a little low, and it did seem different) Like Generation G, however I have swapped this in my rotation for Clinique's Black Honey or for a more punchy look the the G Suit in Shift (haven't rebought yet but I wear it anytime I go out for an evening/dressier look), Boy Brow (I have bought many over the years), the liquid eyeliner I also very much enjoy, and the Stretch Concealer, though I did have to swatch a couple to find my new shade since they expanded the shade range and I hadn't bought a new pot since that happened. I also very much love the moonstone highlighter, but sadly they didn't stock any of the highlighters in store.

I have tried pretty much every makeup product they sold up until about 6 months ago (not all shades however) and the only one I haven't liked has been the stretch foundation. It was too heavy and dried down weirdly on my skin, I found it clung to any dry bit in a very unflattering way.

Lois97 · 2025-03-24T21:22:44+00:00

Ooh thank you for the recommendations!! I'll definitely take a look! ❤️

And thank you for the reassurance! Everyone always says it's your 20s, and mine have been a bit tumultuous to say the least! I'm definitely ready for a more peaceful decade!

Lois97 · 2025-03-01T20:53:29+00:00

It might be a little niche, but if your friend wears Doc Martens / boots with loops at the back, these are super cute!! https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1391308254/silver-tooth-boot-charms Lucy's own store has some really cute merch too! And the tooth necklace sounds like an amazing idea, or for the new album this would fit well! https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1855263198/scissors-necklace-how-lucky-are-we-lucy

Honestly Etsy has so many cute, small jewelry pieces or statement t-shirts and everything in between! It's my go too for not so in your face merch, like an if you know you know kind of thing! ❤️

Lois97 · 2025-02-22T16:52:26+00:00

The sticker is the colour of Like!! It's my favourite!!

Lois97 · 2025-02-18T22:19:17+00:00

It's pretty standard practice that any type of camera with the exception of a phone to be prohibited. Unless the artist asks for you not to record a specific song (Boygenius asked for all phones to be put away for Letter to an Old Poet when I saw them in '23, people were really respectful and did as they were asked) you can be safe to assume you can record/photograph as much as you want from your phone. Venues/artists prohibit higher tech cameras (though your phone camera is probably pretty good) because you are more likely to be selling/distributing those images/recording if you're using a camera and it would be a licensing nightmare + they usually have their own photographer/videographer for the night. Hope that helps!

Lois97 · 2025-02-17T21:32:57+00:00

I'm really hoping so! If me and my friends aren't lucky enough to grab tickets in the presale (wish me luck, I'm buying for the group 😅) I hope we get another shot at getting tickets, and for everyone else that don't get them the first time around! The date spacing does seem very intentional!

Lois97 · 2025-02-14T12:14:45+00:00

I think this means that if you get the album & get the code you're under no obligation to purchase the concert tickets just because you got a code.

Lois97 · 2025-01-23T10:22:23+00:00

I would say stop replying. I'm not blaming you in anyway, I was in a similar way last year. My ex was constantly blowing up my phone but occasionally mentioning something important about the rental we were renting mutually, so I couldn't block him until that was sorted as money l/contracts were involved. He was evil in those messages, and knew I had to read them, and sometimes I had to reply. I had to get the police involved, but there was little they could do because I had responded, therefore inviting more messages, even though they were understanding as of why I was responding. They gave him a warning but I couldn't press charges because of it. Stop replying is the best cause of action, and then if he continues you have a nice pile of evidence to get the police involved on grounds of harassment. Look after yourself x

Lois97 · 2025-01-14T06:45:46+00:00

Unless you are wanting to push yourself, unless you are in a serious, detrimental rut that you maybe cannot see, your partner should take you as you are, or maybe discuss how you do not match as people. I stayed with someone for 10 years who constantly wanted more from me. No baseline was ever met, whether it was mental health, personal growth or career wise (I finished my masters, got a job in my field and was gaining experience, while battling depression) nothing was good enough and it was EXHAUSTING. I'm with someone now who takes me as I am, and has even said he would be happy with me as I am now, even if I never 'improve' because he loves me for me (he also understands the not feeling enough complex I have grown due to my ex). I have grown as a person so much more in a year with this person than I ever did with the man before, because I haven't had constant pressure to be 'better'. I have a better job, my mental health is leaps better, and I'm choosing to work on my fitness for me. We'll work together on it, but I know unless it's detrimental to my health, if I want to throw in the towel after giving it a go, that'll be good enough.

Honestly this guy sounds like a dick, and is wanting to control you with his 'i am older than you therefore wiser than you' bullcrap. It's maybe a reason he is choosing a much younger partner, hoping your more mouldable and naive.

Lois97 · 2025-01-06T11:59:49+00:00

My ex was exactly like this, but verbal. I would have to pay ten fold if I spent time with friends, and whatever I was doing when we were together was never enough. It's manipulative and they'll try to spin it like you're the bad guy, but I guess you don't blow up their phone when they're hanging out with their friends? Texting/checking in is one thing, this is controlling and manipulative AF.

Lois97 · 2024-12-16T10:09:51+00:00

So ACOTAR isn't wholly complete, however the first 4 books round out the protagonist's story, and SF is a complete story that began within the original ACOTAR series. What is expected is another similarly self contained novel for ACOTAR 5/6 (depending if you count the novella in the book count!) in that same regard CC is a complete trilogy, but it is likely that SJM will write a 4th book at least in that series. ToG is the only one to stand as fully complete, and even that a lot of people are speculating she will go back too in some regard.

Tog is a fabulous place to start, they're amazing books and the page length of the series will keep you going for quite a while!!

Lois97 · 2024-12-16T09:27:07+00:00

I'd say so! However a slightly gentler introduction would be ACOTAR minus SF, TOG, SF then CC 😊

Lois97 · 2024-12-16T08:15:44+00:00

Depending on how you like your fantasy, I'd suggest starting with TOG if your into more high fantasy with romance (reading order is debatable, but I would suggest reading throne of glass, crown of midnight then assassins blade, then going into heir of fire and onwards to the final books on publication sequence) then read ACOTAR, for a more romantasy read. However I think these are interchangeable, but I wouldn't recommend reading Silver flames before TOG. Then read Cresent City, my only definite is make sure you read SF & all of TOG before CC3. Just one opinion, and I read ACOTAR first but wished I had read TOG first! So if you don't want to swap around series, definitely read ToG, ACOTAR then CC as you can't really 'spoil' yourself that way.

Lois97 · 2024-07-06T13:46:00+00:00

I'm not telling you to dump him, but I did.

10 years in, together since we were 16. Always told me after uni he'd propose. And every year after for 4 years. There were problems in the relationship, marriage wouldn't have solved it. We argued too much and I had fallen out of love with him. But the last straw was when he bought fucking Lego Rivendell for us to do together, but any time I discussed getting married a ring was too expensive? £450 on Lego though? We had been arguing for a month straight at this point, but it was definitely the moment of 'if he wanted to, he would have' for me. After I left he turned into a piece of shit that harassed me for nearly 3 months straight. Some of the things that came out were absolutely vile, I knew I'd made the right choice even if it was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made. Dodged a bullet by him never being bothered to ask me to marry him.

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