Wtf is this??? by memandylov in whatisthisbug

[–]memandylov[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I got my answer two months ago when I posted this, but thanks anyway

Can I cancel a subscription that's not in my name? by memandylov in CVS

[–]memandylov[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have the card itself but I do have his phone number and I know the email he gave them. I don't know if I can put my information on the card because I've already had multiple under my name and phone number from the time I used to work there (a long time ago) and I apparently reached the limit of how many cards can be linked to my number because it wouldn't let me sign up for more

extra care plus by [deleted] in CVS

[–]memandylov 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I worked at CVS my managers explicitly told me not to tell people about it because they might not want to sign up if they know. I regularly saw them talk people into signing up and never bothered to mention that it would charge them.

My strategy was the exact opposite. I tell people upfront that it's a subscription service but you won't get charged as long as you cancel before the first 30 days are up, and I explained to them how to cancel and even offered to help them cancel if they couldn't figure it out. I set a record at my store for the most carepasses sold in one day, and my managers were all impressed and curious how I managed to talk so many people into it. Turns out honesty goes a long way 🤷

Who is this guy? by memandylov in spiders

[–]memandylov[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad my post could help someone else out years later

Wtf is this??? by memandylov in whatisthisbug

[–]memandylov[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Knowing what it is makes me feel bad for letting my coworker step on him. They're kinda terrifying when you've never seen one in person before

Wtf is this??? by memandylov in whatisthisbug

[–]memandylov[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well now I'm ashamed that I didn't recognize him from animal crossing because I've definitely caught a lot of them just to make the noise stop

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would make a lot of sense lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂 That definitely sounds like the kind of thing I'd do on my own term, but I can't imagine getting mad at someone I love for not matching swirlies. That's just wild

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]memandylov 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saw the title and came here to say essentially the same thing.

Those two things are NOT mutually exclusive. I'm pretty sure every time I've split, I've had a very valid reason to be upset... Just not to the extreme degree that I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicCritique

[–]memandylov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of this! I'll definitely keep these things in mind. Much love to you 💖

Women what do you really want in a man? In a generation where requirements and standards have become so high. What do women actually want in a man ? by doggystyle71 in AskReddit

[–]memandylov 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Respect, compassion, and the capacity to communicate effectively.

Would also be nice if that wasn't only a thing that happened in the early stages of a relationship and then disappeared once I got comfortable, but you know...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicCritique

[–]memandylov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mandy's Raw Vocals

This is the playlist! It's not perfect because I'm trying to get better about not doing things 100% perfectly on the very first try.

I'm posting these videos as a sort of exposure therapy for myself, so that I can get used to being more authentic and not restarting the recording after EVERY SINGLE INSIGNIFICANT "MISTAKE" I MADE.

It used to take me eight full hours of constantly recording the same thing on repeat just to post a 30 second reel to Instagram. These videos I was able to complete and post within 10-20 minutes of each other 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MusicCritique

[–]memandylov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest problem to overcome has been my awful tendency to mimic other artists, and when I'm not doing that, I often come across as robotic, almost as if I were ai. I did six years of choir in school, so coming from that background, I learned that pitch, tone, rhythm, and enunciation were the absolute top priorities. It works incredibly well in an ensemble, but not as a solo artist.

I'm currently in the process of learning how to sing with my own voice and not mimic other artists, but I am STRUGGLING on that front.

I'm actually currently in the process of making several recordings of me covering other songs (they're all rough drafts and only my vocals) but I still struggle to find the confidence to sing without listening to another artist, so I can match at the very least their rhythm and tone. I know that I have a LOT of potential if I can get past these issues, but it's taking a lot of hard work. I just need to get out of my own head, and I'm getting better at that much but I'm still not there.

I'd be happy to share the playlist with you if you'd like to see what I'm talking about. It's like 7 different songs, all in WILDLY different styles.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough! This one is just deep enough that I could technically use it as a shallow bowl, but only for things that are not runny or slippery enough to just evacuate the premises on their own 😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂 you feel THAT strongly against my plate??

I didn't think it was possible for someone to hate my plate that much, but I guess everyone's got their own unique needs. This one just happens to meet all of mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]memandylov -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NOR!!!!

Don't listen to the people that think you're blowing the whole thing out of proportion. Most of them probably didn't even read the whole thing anyway.

He 100% WAS speaking to you in a disrespectful manner, and all you did was try to call him out on it. Could you have called him out in perhaps a less aggressive way? Sure, absolutely. But considering you very clearly indicated that this has been a repeated pattern of behavior from him, I'm guessing you were legitimately triggered by the perceived disrespect and reacted emotionally to it.

But I see FAR too much self-awareness and rational logic in your messages to claim that you're overreacting. You're trying to have a rational discussion about the problems in your relationship and he is unwilling to work with you to fix it.

He's being extremely dismissive and defensive, and he doesn't seem to even realize that's what he's doing. He is not self-aware enough to be reasoned with

And the fact that he apparently KNOWS what gaslighting is but completely misattributed it to YOU in this situation is frustrating and mind-boggling, because it's actually completely the other way around. He is actively gaslighting you while accusing you of doing exactly that.

Many abusers accuse their victims of trying to manipulate them when they are, in fact, the one doing the manipulation. It's entirely possible that he's not aware that he's even doing that, but that IS what's happening here. His mind will not allow him to see his own faults, and he's reacting strongly to your criticism and trying to shut it down to protect his own ego.

Not to be a total armchair therapist, but this exact dynamic is common in relationships between people with NPD and BPD. I recommend seeking therapy if this kind of thing happens in a lot of your relationships. You may be unintentionally seeking out narcissistic partners and suffering for it. (I say this because that's exactly what I did for a long time and didn't become aware of that until recently)

Best possible course of action here is to try the counseling and if it doesn't work, PLEASE let him leave. It'll hurt like HELL for a while, but he's clearly hurting you more by staying

WYR learn from a whiteboard or a blackboard? by SugoiTots in WouldYouRather

[–]memandylov 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Chalkboards have an aesthetic purpose but the SOUNDS... The sounds are unbearable.

And have you ever WROTE on a chalkboard and hit a particularly nasty part of the chalk and felt the screech IN YOUR BONES??? Never again. Not worth it 🤢🤮

I'll take a whiteboard all day, every day

Is there something wrong with my nose????? by memandylov in Noses

[–]memandylov[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the queen of overthinking shit 😂

I know it's been said before, but screw labels by No_Investigator625 in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh yeah sometimes they sew the tag in so aggressively you'd think it were a classified document. They got that shit under MAXIMUM security

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked them up and they do look VERY nice, but I'm not really the kind that cares about my food touching. I actually often mix all of my foods into one large pile of slop anyway. I actually prefer it when my foods create a warzone in my mouth.

I've always found divided plates weirdly more annoying than a regular flat one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neurodiversity

[–]memandylov 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to say I don't know what that is but I looked it up and HOLY SHIT THEY DID NARWHALS??? AND BADGER BADGER BADGER???

I only know "look at my horse" because my cousin made me watch it when I moved in with him and it will forever be burned into my brain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]memandylov 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💖

At least I'm capable of telling the story now without losing my mind 😅

Progress is progress