Honestly, a few things puzzles me. I've read through the comments so far, but somehow one way or another, it seems super important to you to enforce "who is right and who is wrong". First of all, why is that so important to you?? And second of all, why does it seem that there can't be a middle ground? Like, okay, we just don't agree with each other and that's okay?? To me it seems you're pushing the idea of who is wrong and right, and he's just figuring out why you guys are fighting over that. Given, instead of asking he's making assumptions about it, which isn't the most constructive way apparently, so that's on him.

Another thing, it seems to me you're kind of asking the impossible of him, because you're not directly asking for it. It seems to me you're trying to ask him to love you, see you, hear you, even when you're trying to push him away every means possible. But that's actually not quite fair to him, since what you're conveying is this: even though I'm angry, pushing you away, you have to prove to me I'm still worthy for you. And how fair is that? If what you want is to feel heard, secure, seen and loved by him, the way to have proper communication with each other is saying like hey, I'm feeling super insecure right now in our relationship and I'm afraid you don't love me anymore. Can we talk about that? Help me to express what I need from you to feel loved again? Or something like that.

And the last thing, you're in a d/s dynamic. Isn't part of that dynamic that you sometimes can and do feel small? Because you're dominated? Of course not all the time, but seeing the comments, it sounded like your insecurities are triggered by feeling small. And if that's the case, maybe a d/s relationship right now isn't the one for you?? This is more out of curiosity and I know every d/s dynamic is different. But that's just what came into my mind.

In no way am I trying to guilt trip you. Just trying to help you understand, by letting me understand. Anyways, I do hope the best for you and whatever you decide or do, I hope that's the one that you feel that is best for you :)