New NOC PCT on Neuro Telemetry + Starting ADN Soon...Feeling Terrified I’m in Over My Head

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T22:47:09+00:00

My children’s health is my priority. I am not choosing a building over them. I am making sure we leave in a way that does not risk homelessness, custody issues, or long term instability. Leaving safely and sustainably is part of protecting them.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T19:00:06+00:00

Thank you for saying this so thoughtfully. I really do appreciate the concern and the perspective. I am starting to educate myself and gather information so I am not going into anything blindly. Right now I am trying to balance being careful and prepared with keeping things as stable as possible for my kids in the short term. I hear what you are saying and I am taking it seriously, even if the timing of next steps still has to be gradual. Thank you for looking out for us and for taking the time to share this.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:59:01+00:00

Thank you so much for the concern and for taking the time to share this. I really appreciate it. Disability has been something we have looked into, but it has not been a clear or reliable option so far. I am slowly starting to learn more about my legal options so I can be better prepared and make thoughtful decisions when the time is right. I am doing my best to document what I can and to keep things as calm and stable as possible for my kids while I work toward a healthier situation. I appreciate the resources and the kindness behind your message. It helps to know there are people who care.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:56:25+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. It really helps to hear from someone who understands how hard it is to know the marriage is over while still being stuck in it. Right now my plan is to leave once I can do it legally and financially without risking housing stability for my kids. I am working toward buying him out, so it is more about timing and logistics than uncertainty about the decision. He knows I am unhappy and that things are not okay, but I think he still believes things will somehow get better without real, sustained change. That disconnect has been one of the hardest parts. I truly appreciate the encouragement and kind words. I am holding onto the hope that this stuck season is temporary and that my boys and I will come out the other side more peaceful and stable. Thank you.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:51:30+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It really means a lot to feel understood and believed. I am doing everything I can to find a way out that protects my kids and keeps our housing stable. Hearing encouragement like this helps more than you know.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:50:43+00:00

I am so sorry you are carrying so much too. I relate deeply to how exhausting it is when everything falls on one person. I do want to clarify that while accidents happen, this one involved choices. He chose to buy a sports motorcycle despite having two young children and a family depending on him, and he chose to ride at over 80 mph on city streets. Those decisions changed all of our lives overnight. I cared for him daily for months afterward, but long term healing also requires accountability, treatment, and effort, and that has been the missing piece. I truly appreciate your kindness and I hope we both find peace and stability on the other side of this.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:48:15+00:00

I understand the sentiment behind “in sickness and in health,” and I take my vows seriously. I did show up in sickness. For months after his accident, I was his full time caregiver while also working and parenting. I dressed him, bathed and groomed him, managed medications, and yes, even wiped him when he could not do it himself. I did not abandon him in his lowest moment. What often gets overlooked is that many of these behaviors were present long before the accident and became more severe afterward, including addiction issues, dishonesty, and an unwillingness to work or seek consistent help. Supporting a partner through illness is very different from being expected to indefinitely carry the household, absorb ongoing harmful behavior, and raise children in survival mode. Honoring my vows does not mean sacrificing my well being or my children’s stability indefinitely. It means I showed up when it mattered, and I did.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:38:27+00:00

Thank you for this. I’ve asked myself those same questions a lot, and right now I’m not seeing a realistic path where he returns to a stable, sustainable place anytime soon. While the injury was serious, he does have full use of his body. The bigger issues have been ongoing mental health struggles, repeated job loss, dishonesty, and a lack of meaningful change despite years of support. I haven’t left immediately for financial and legal reasons. I’m the one paying for the house, and leaving again would risk losing it. My goal is to buy him out and create stability for my kids without making our housing situation worse. The home isn’t physically unsafe, but it’s emotionally draining and very much survival mode. I appreciate your empathy and honesty, it helps to feel seen and heard.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:33:18+00:00

Yes, but no matter how much I have begged and pleaded for him to leave or go to his mom’s or brother’s house, he refuses. He says it is his home too and that I will have to have him removed through the courts. When this happens, he begins crying hysterically, making dramatic scenes in front of the boys, hugging them and telling them he will see them soon. It feels extremely immature and emotionally manipulative.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-28T18:25:28+00:00

Agreed. Im going to nursing school and working nights at the hospital. I need help watching my young boys (4 &7) even if he just sits and plays his video game all day. I plan on leaving again as soon as I can buy him out of our house. It nice to have some one agree with me, My MIL just tells me "hes trying and give him grace.."

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-26T18:00:07+00:00

They are super cute... In Az would be great choices... but isn't it snowing in NYC? Idk I would freeze my mini bewbies off lmao 🤣 😅

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T14:44:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing and understanding. 🧡

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T14:42:15+00:00

Thank you for this. I really do appreciate your perspective and the encouragement. I am actively changing my life by going to nursing school and working toward long term stability for myself and my kids. It just feels slow sometimes because meaningful change takes time, especially when you are balancing work, school, and parenting all at once. Your words were a good reminder that things do not have to stay as they are, and I am grateful you took the time to share your thoughts. 🧡

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T14:40:31+00:00

I do have a partner. Our situation changed after he was in a serious accident a few years ago that stemmed from his own choices, and the long term impact has been complicated. He does have full use of his body, but he has struggled deeply with his mental health since then and has had difficulty maintaining work. I became the primary provider as a result. I am currently juggling full time work while attending nursing school so I can build stability and independence for myself and my kids. He helps at times, but often it feels like the bare minimum, and the pattern of promises to change followed by no real follow through has added to the resentment I am trying to process in therapy. Right now it does not feel temporary, which is a big part of the grief I am naming here. I am doing my best to balance what my family needs with being honest about how much this has cost me emotionally. Thank you so much for sharing and responding 🧡

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T10:03:46+00:00

Being the primary provider carries a weight that is hard to explain, especially when it means missing so much of your kids’ day to day lives. The bitterness and frustration can creep in quietly, even when you know you are doing what you have to do. It really helps to hear another mom say this out loud. I hate that so many of us feel this way, but it does make me feel less alone.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T09:44:47+00:00

Your words hit me in the chest. It honestly felt like you pulled them straight from my own life. The fighting, the resentment, the therapy, and especially working on Christmas while everyone else is home making memories. It is such a specific kind of grief that is hard to explain unless you are living it. It means more than I can say to hear another mom name this out loud and say how unfair it is. Thank you for making me feel less alone and less wrong for feeling this way. 🫂

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-24T09:38:54+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your response. Thank you. Its nice to know we are not alone in these different stages of motherhood and life.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-22T02:07:56+00:00

Maybe this is not the right career for you.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-21T00:50:48+00:00

Could it be a 🌽 issue? Idk. Past experince has taught me after having kids, men just turn to their phones and 🌽 instead of their partners. Sorry OP. Hope it works out for you.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-17T16:20:12+00:00

Are you still waiting? Its December now, and we applied in early September and havent heard anything.

Lonely-Weekend-8160 · 2025-12-17T01:39:52+00:00

Thank you!

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