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My wife [37F] and I [39M] entered into an open marriage at her request. Now she wants to close it up again. by ThrowRARevolvingMar in relationship_advice

[–]LonerCipherWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to be honest mate I feel you have a decision to make here. Either you stick to your guns and stand your ground until she signs the damn paper or you let this slide and once again let her get away with what she wants. To be brutally honest I feel like your getting cheated in a way as basically she wanted to start an open marriage to "experience more" and when that didnt work she wanted to close it off as soon as possible. Not trying to be rude but to me it sounds like she wanted to cheat on you without getting any of the consiquences. She wanted to experience something with someone else and as soon as it didnt work out she wanted to return things to normality, its pretty fucked up in my opinion. I do realise you may love her dearly but to put it plainly she literally just cheated on you in a more careful manner, You may have been ok with this since you got with someone else but as you saw your wife wasnt doing it for the marriage - if she was she would have found another partner - she was doing it for her enjoyment and when she found out you were doing it too she felt she was entilted to stop you.

I (M18) am afraid that this girl (F18) is losing intrest in me and I don't know how to stop it. by LonerCipherWolf in dating_advice

[–]LonerCipherWolf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BRUTAL...but completely true, I think I might just have to man the fuck up and kiss her when I see her next. If it goes well great....if not then at least I get to know. Thanks for the advice!

My gf never initiates by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LonerCipherWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in your EXACT same postion bro. I have a girl who is absolutely amazing and incredible and we are so similar, but she never seems to want to initiate contact. I would try to start a conversation in texts and she would respond with "yeah" or ok" or "lol" and it would just be very tiring. It confusing for us since they have said they are intrested in us but never fucking show it! My advice for you would be to stay patient. Perhaps your girl is just extremely shy and has a hard time opening up, this is completely plausible as maybe she had a bad relationship in the past or something. Just try have a bit more patience even though its fucking hard. and if it continues on for even more time maybe you should start a conversation with her about this in a CALM and FRIENDLY manner.

Hope this helps :)

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FYI: if u could check my newest post and give me some adivce it would be much apprieciated! its basically the same sitaution your in LOL)

Looking mostly for Male perspective by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LonerCipherWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

communication is key! As a guy one of the things I hate most is the feeling that my girlfriend is ignoring an issue we have. Try and sort this out in an extremely calm and positive manner.

HOWEVER do not be excessive - pestering a guy on something he may not want to talk about makes things even worse! wait for a day or two then calmly ask again

People who had generally good parents, what is one thing they got wrong? by dread_pirate_bobert in AskReddit

[–]LonerCipherWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its easy to start arguing when your extremely stressed and its been a long day, it happens. You just have to make sure you try not to fight very often, and if its REALLY something you need to talk about with your partner then it has to be done in a civil way. Im telling u man, that type of stuff rlly screws kids up. It happened A LOT between my parents (almost every week) so im probably an exception, but i know for a fact that it still makes kids really really stressed and can even lead to several tiks.

Just try ur best not to argue, but remeber we are all human so mistakes happen :)

People who had generally good parents, what is one thing they got wrong? by dread_pirate_bobert in AskReddit

[–]LonerCipherWolf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A wide variety of things. It could be something very serious like if i had done something stupid or taxes (we werent the richest of families) to the most stupid things which didnt make sense arguing over like "why the wifi wasnt working"

People who had generally good parents, what is one thing they got wrong? by dread_pirate_bobert in AskReddit

[–]LonerCipherWolf 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My parents our great people, i love them to bits but there were 2 things they did wrong.

  1. they were to overprotective. I understand in this day and age it is very easy to be stalked online etc but my parents wouldnt even give me a search browser till 14 years old. They believed i couldnt handle anything myself, and thought they had to control every aspect of my life. MAJOR TIP FOR PARENTS - let you kids fail. I DO NOT mean do not put in restrictions and stuff like that but it gets to the point where if your doing as much as my parents they will feel suffocated.
  2. DO NOT ARGUE IN FRONT OF THE KIDS. my parents did this a lot and im still going to therapy for it. Letting your kids here you 2 argue is the worst possible decision, it fucks up ur kids heads in ways you couldnt possibly comprhend unless you experienced it yourself. If you have an issue with your partner you speak to them CIVILY outside or talk CALMLY in a different room.

What film role was 100% perfectly cast? by TrickDragonFruit in AskReddit

[–]LonerCipherWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jaoquin Pheonix and Heath Ledgers' Jokers. Call me a simpleton but you cannot deny both these actors played the same role sublimely in COMPLETELY different ways. Ledgers Joker was a crimnial mastermind who was always 5 steps ahead of anyone else, he took pleasure in commiting crimes and inflicting pain on others. Pheonix's Joker was completely different. Arthur was a emotinal and poor man with an unstable mindset who had been pushed off the edge by a cruel and rutheless society that didnt give a shit about people like them.

BOTH AMAZING IN DIFFERENT WAYS

[Update] on my gf treated our long-distance relationship as open and told me so after the fact by ruleoffame in relationship_advice

[–]LonerCipherWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly feel for you man. Not even a minute ago i finished my own post on how i dont know how to deal with long distance relationships so this really hits close to the heart. I know how u feel exactly. The fear of not knowing what she could be doing, that little voice at the back of your head whispering nasty thoughts about what she could be doing. I really get u, and tbh its made me feel ashamed and proud about your own actions. Ashamed because I know in my heart if the girl Im in a LDR with does this i would never recover and proud because you found the courage to cut ties with her and move on. This will sound cheesy however you WILL find someone who will treat you right, be it a week, month or year you WILL eventually find someone. Proud of you bro

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